Biblical submission- to God; to husbands (if married); to authorities

 Biblical submission fosters right relationship with God and spouse and others.  In the Ephesians passage, Paul uses marriage to illustrate the perfect eternal submission of the Three Persons of the Trinity. “This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:32). 

The power of submission in the Bible.

Christ lived in perfect submission to the Father.  The Father did God did not coerce Him to “become flesh and dwell among us” (John 1:14). Jesus chose to enter the fallen, sinful world to “lay down his life” on the cross (John 15:13) so that God could “save the world through him” (John 3:17). Jesus Christ came from Heaven of his own volition to die on the cross. He chose to place himself under the authority of the Father while incarnate. In Philippians 2:6-7 Paul writes, [Jesus Christ] who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.”

Matthew records Christ’s perfect submission most vividly in the Garden of Gethsemane the night before his crucifixion. The Gospel writer draws us into a vision of Jesus in communion with the Father. We see Jesus’ anguish as he faces the horrors of the cross. Jesus’ words, reverberate through the ages, “My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will” (Matthew 26:39). Even with the terror of death looming, Christ does not exercise His own will but obeys His Father. In the garden, Jesus refuses to avoid the cross. He pleads in agony for strength to fulfill His Father’s will.  “During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission” (Hebrews 5:7-8). 

Perfect submission made Jesus subject to the unjust control and power of sinful man. He stood silent before Pilate. Pilate asserts his authority over Christ, “Don’t you realize I have power either to free you or to crucify you?”  (John 19:10) Jesus answers, “You would have no power over me if it were not give to you from above” (John 19:11). 

What does Christ’s perfect submission mean for Christians?

Pastor Charles Spurgeon wrote, “A lack of submission is no new or rare fault in mankind. Ever since the fall it has been the root of all sin…From the moment when our mother Eve stretched out her hand to pluck the forbidden fruit and her husband joined her in setting up the human will against the divine, the sons of men have universally been guilty of a lack of conformity to the will of God. They choose their own way and will not submit their wills. They think their own thoughts and will not submit their understanding. They love earthly things and will not submit their affections. Man wants to be his own law and his own master” (The Reason Why Many Cannot Find Peace, sermon 1408, www.spurgeongems.org).

Christian submission is not an act of human will. It is divine work. We can submit to God’s authorities and His will only through the power of the Holy Spirit. Christ imputes his righteousness to believers so the work of submission is faith. Through faith in Christ we receive his righteousness as our own and keep his commandments through the power the Holy Spirit. Furthermore, Christ eternally intercedes on our behalf before the Father. Christ empowers us to follow Him in submission.

How should Christians submit?

Out of our love for Christ and our gratitude for his work of salvationChristians choose to submit their way, wills, affections, thoughts, desires and understanding to God. (Spurgeon) In all matters of submission our conscience guides us to obey.

We trust ourselves to Christ knowing that He submitted himself to God for our sake. He laid down his life for us, so through the power of the Holy Spirit we can lay down our life for Christ for the sake of the Gospel.

In James 4:7, James said, “Submit yourselves then, to God.” Submission to God is a theme throughout the Bible. Some synonyms for submit are “yield,” “surrender,” and “give in.” When God’s children are told to submit, the idea is to give themselves over completely and choose to place themselves under God’s authority and control with the desire to obey His will.

Submission — waving the white flag of surrender to God — is not only the required choice for the true believer, but also the means to great blessing.

What Is the Context and Meaning of James 4:7?

Some versions of James 4:7 use the word “therefore.” “Submit yourselves therefore to God” (ESV). This refers to verses 1-6 that describe the confusion and contention in the early church in Jerusalem.

James asked, “What’s causing all these fights and quarrels?” The apostle addressed their fighting, covetousness, and carnality. The church family was allowing sin to govern their choices. Their ungodly behavior showed they were operating under the “desires” that battled within them and Satan’s influence. 

In verse six, James reminded believers that God opposes the proud but shows favor or grace to those who are humble. In their pride, Christians were resisting the truth of Scripture and providence of God — and the remedy was to submit to His truth and providence. James was, in effect, calling for repentance and a fresh surrender to God’s authority.

The result of humble submission is the ability to resist the devil and his schemes, and to live more Christlike in the assembly of believers. James says again in verse 10, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.” In verses 13-17, James addressed the presumptuous, arrogant attitude of believers about the future — making plans without consulting God and surrendering to His will. The believers needed to acknowledge that God could change their plans at any time. So “you ought to say,” James said, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.”

What Are Some Biblical Examples of Submission to God?

We see examples of submission to God throughout the Bible. Abraham was called to submit to God’s plan and surrender what he held dear — his homeland, possessions, family, and position. God told him to travel at His command into the wilderness toward the Promised Land (Genesis 12:1-3). He had numerous occasions to surrender over his lifetime, fashioning a track record of faith that prepared him for subsequent surrenders. Each time, he built an altar of surrender.

Esther, a young Jewish maiden, became the queen of Persia. God placed her in King Xerxes harem at just the right time, and she rose to a position of power, enabling her to rescue her people from annihilation. In a great display of faith and surrender to the sovereign will of God, she staked her life in approaching her pagan husband to beg for the lives of the Jews. Her surrender to God had no guarantees — “If I perish, I perish” (Esther 4:16).

Mary’s response to the angel’s message from God was complete surrender. In Luke 1:38, Mary said, “I am the Lord’s servant. . . . May your word to me be fulfilled.” Some versions say “handmaiden;” others say “bondservant,” meaning “bondslave.” The Jews were familiar with the concept. A bondslave had a hole boredthrough his or her ear to signify ownership to their earthly master. The psalmist wrote about this in Psalm 40:6-8 where the word “opened” means “pierced.”

The imagery for the believer is to have a servant’s heart and be willing to do God’s will. Peter, James, Paul, and Jude are also example of submission. Each said they were a servant — a doulos or slave — of Christ. 

Of course, the greatest example of a servant-like submission was Jesus. The words in Psalm 40:6-8 prophesied the Messiah who would come to be the humble Servant, submitting to the Father’s will in bringing salvation (Philippians 2:5-7; 1 John 4:14). We observe our Lord’s deeply human struggle in the Garden of Gethsemane — facing the horrors of Calvary — but He triumphed in perfect submission.

Why Should We Submit to God?

Why would anyone give up personal control to someone? There are three reasons Christ-followers should surrender their personal authority and submit to God’s authority.

First, in submission Christians acknowledge that God is God. He is the Creator and Controller of the vast universe — and that includes all mankind. He does not need to give further reasons or arguments for us to submit to Him. Christians belongto Him: “Know that the LORD is God. It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, the sheep of his pasture” (Psalm 100:3).

Second, in submission Christians remember what God has done in saving, providing, protecting, and much more. Submission should well up from a heart of gratitude. Formerly enemies, God’s children were rescued in love, and He only desires good for those who love Him (Romans 5:8; Romans 8:28).

Third, in submission Christians can anticipate what God plans to do in their lives through His love and grace. Those in the family of God will be “conformedto the image” of Christ, who is Himself “the image of the invisible God.” Such submission to God brings freedom and blessing because it means we are willing to cooperate with and be obedient to God’s sovereign plans for our lives.

What Holds Us Back from Submitting to God?

Submission to God requires a humble attitude. God resists the arrogant who resist or fight God in every decision, asserting personal authority over His control. Pride keeps us independent of God, thinking perhaps that He is a tyrant or unfair. As a loving Father, God only wants what is best for His children; but pride is an enemy to submission because it refuses to yield to the Father’s love, wisdom, and control.

Fear and worry can also hinder submission because it paralyzes thinking and makes Christians believe everything depends on them. Bible teacher and revivalist Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth wrote about “The Four Fears” that cause people to be afraid to relinquish total control to God. These four fears are:

1) The fear that we might not have all we need

2) The fear that we might not be happy

3) The fear that we might not be safe

4) The fear that our relational needs might not be met

In other words, Wolgemuth said, we have fears about “provision, pleasure, protection, and personal relationships.” 

Fears are natural and, humanly speaking, worry is understandable, but the heart of the matter is that once we know God’s character, we understand we can trust Him not to bring anything into our lives except what is for our ultimate good and the interests of His eternal kingdom. “God’s will is what we would choose if we knew what God knows,” Wolgemuth said.

Clinging to the darkness of sin is another reason we refuse to submit. First, we “love darkness” rather than light, and refuse to come to God to receive the light of life in salvation. Then, as Christ-followers, we often make choices to act just like we lived before salvation (1 Corinthians 6:11). We foolishly choose to submit to the world’s culture, fleshly passions, and Satan rather than to the Lord (Ephesians 2:2-3a; 1 John 2:15-17; Romans 7:15-25; James 4:7b).

How Can We Submit Our Lives to God?

We can submit to God in many beautiful ways. Here are three.

First, we submit to God in prayer. We say, “Yes, Lord” to whatever He asks. Surrender may involve struggle on our part. We may cry many tears before we wave the white flag. But ultimately, as we draw near to God, placing our lives on the altar, we confess, “I am completely Yours, Father, and everything I have is yours. I desire to do Your will. Please help me stay on the altar of surrender.” The good news is that God’s grace does work in us to help us surrender to His “good purpose.”

We can also submit to God by studying and obeying His Word. As we are transformed by the renewing of our mind, we will be able to better discern God’s good, acceptable, and perfect will (Romans 12:2). Surrendering to walk in His commandments illustrates our love for Him. Jesus said we will be blessed when we obey or “keep” His Word.

Another way we submit to God is by responding rightly to the indwelling Holy Spirit. We submit to being filled by the Spirit (Ephesians 5:18b) and guided by Him (John 16:13). Yielding to the Spirit will help believers to not “grieve” Him. We grieve the Spirit when we act sinfully, causing Him sorrow. We also must not “quench” the Spirit — stifling His power or energy working in us. Also, Stephen, in Acts 7:51, said professing believers can stubbornly “resist” the Holy Spirit.

Submitting to God, then, is a matter of the heart, and cultivating a right relationship with the Father, Son, Holy Spirit, and the Word of God.

Can Our Submission to God Lead to Revival?

For the Christian, surrender should be a lifestyle, not dependent on circumstances but motivated by reverence and love for God. It’s the kind of response found in Luke 10:27 — loving God with our whole being.

In a lifestyle of surrender, we submit our “heart,” the seat of our morals and ethics, and refuse to compromise our standards. We submit our sinful, ungodly desires. We submit our fears. We submit wrong motives and the imaginations and reasoning of our mind. We submit every expectation for our own plans and agenda — we submit everything!

Nancy Wolgemuth described this kind of submission as God handing us a blank piece of paper and saying, “Now, I want you to sign on the bottom here, then give it back to Me and let me fill in the details.” We might recoil at the possible cost of such surrender, but, Wolgemuth said, if we don’t step out in faith and surrender, “ultimately we will find ourselves in bondage to the very things we’ve refused to surrender.”

There is indeed a cost to pay in submitting to God, but for the Christ-follower desiring personal revival, it is a price worth paying. Leanna Shepherd, who worked on the staff of a revival ministry, wrote, “While revival can gain momentum and affect hundreds or thousands, it cannot begin until at least one individual completely surrenders his or her life and will, saying, ‘Yes, Lord.’ . . . You must come to a place of full surrender and brokenness for God to continue His work in your heart.” In short, if we want to experience the beauty of revival, we must choose the road of daily submission to our God.

Submission means I voluntarily limit what I might do naturally in this relation­ship in order to benefit you. If I have more power, instead of doing what I might do naturally and use that power to make my life easier, out of reverence for Christ I’ll use my power instead to serve you. I’ll give up even my life in order to benefit you.

Submission also means that if I have less power, instead of doing what I might do naturally and fight you every step of the way, I’m going to show you respect and honor.

Now comes the tricky question: How do you apply that? How do you live out the Bible’s principle of submission in your marriage, today? Here are some things I’ve heard Christians say:

The husband should make all impor­tant financial and other decisions for the relationship.

The husband and wife should work together on all important decisions, but the husband has the final say.

The husband should go out to earn the family’s daily bread, and the woman should stay home to bake it.

The husband is the president, and the wife is the executive vice-president.

The husband should control the TV remote (actually, I’ve never heard preach­ers say that; I just threw that in).

Those may or may not be valid applica­tions of Ephesians 5. I’d simply like to point out that in Ephesians, Paul doesn’t say any of those things. As scholar Claire M. Powell writes, “Paul never specifies any cultural action or practical application from this passage.” Paul seems to believe that if you’re filled with the Holy Spirit and you want to live out of reverence for Christ, then you’ll instinctively submit to each other. You’ll yield the right of way.

That said, I want to offer six secrets that I believe express from this passage what submission means. They can help you ensure you’re capturing the beauty of submission in your marriage.

Secret 1: Submission is personal.

Submission is a doctrine you apply to yourself. Notice Paul doesn’t say, “Husbands, tell your wife to submit” ­ or, “Wives, tell your husband to step up and be spiritual head of the home.” Instead, he speaks to each person and asks each to work on his or her own attitude.

Secret 2: Submission is spiritual.

Unless you’re filled with the Spirit of God, it makes zero sense to submit to another person. Why would you ever do that?

In Ephesians 5:21, when Paul says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”, the word submit in Greek isn’t a command. The command is back in verse 18: “Be filled with the Spirit.” Submitting is an expression of that. So the text should read, “Be filled with the Holy Spirit ... submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

If you’re a follower of Christ, filled with the Holy Spirit, then when you hit a power struggle in your marriage, you’ll submit to your spouse. It will come super­naturally through the Holy Spirit’s power within you. There’s no other way you and I can submit than by God’s Spirit. Submission is spiritual.

Secret 3: Submission is mutual.

In Ephesians, Paul actually introduces something radical to the culture: that peo­ple with more power have responsibilities, too. Paul says to husbands, “Yes, you’ve got authority, but you’ve also got responsibility.” In fact, Christian teachers from the earliest centuries, such as John Chrysostom, have pointed out that what Paul asks the husband to do is actually harder than what he asks the wife to do. He asks the wife to show respect and sub­mit; he asks the husband to die.

When Paul writes, “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,” that’s a nice, poetic way of saying, “Jesus chose to sub­mit himself to the whip, the thorns, and the nails for our benefit. That’s the exam­ple for husbands. Are you daily dying to what you want to make sure your wife gets what she needs?”

It’s true that Paul asks people to submit in different ways, depending on whether they have less or more power, but the per­son with more power must also submit. When that occurs, something amazing happens in the other person. As my wife, Karen, says, “Show me a man who lays down his life for his wife, and I’ll show you a wife who has no problem with sub­mission.”

Secret 4: Submission is beneficial.

Many people think submission is a ter­rible doctrine. But God didn’t give us this doctrine to put us in prison; he gave it to us to set us free.

Think about how much submission helps the person with less power. In Paul’s day, as author Jill Briscoe writes, “the Christian wife was about to be offered her first opportunity to have her husband ask her what she felt about selling their 13­ year-old daughter into slavery. She’d never been asked before.” The person with less power was empowered, a process that’s only grown in its beneficial effects up to our time.

Submission also benefits the person with more power. Richard Foster explains that “submission leads to liberty, the lib­erty to be able to let go of the terrible weight and burden of always needing to get my own way”.

You’ll know if you’re doing submission properly if you and your spouse are becoming better people. Are you growing in freedom, joy, and character? If you’re not, then there’s something wrong, because submission is beneficial.

Secret 5: Submission is practical.

One reason people see submission as The Text of Terror is because they treat it as some absolute law that has no limita­tions.

My wife, Karen, is a counselor. A woman came to her whose husband was beating her, but she wouldn’t leave. Karen was worried for this woman’s life, so she asked her what it would take for her to get herself to safety. Because of this woman’s understanding of the verse, “Wives, submit to your husbands,” the woman said, “I’ll stay as long as I have to — even if it means he kills me.”

I want to say this in love, but this woman was wrong — terribly wrong. She misunderstood this verse, and she was endangering her life.

Submission doesn’t mean you give up your brain. It doesn’t mean that if the person you’re submitting to wants to do something illegal, you can do it and say before God, “Hey, I was just submitting to my authority.” Scripture teaches (in Romans 13) that Christians must submit to the governing authorities, yet Christ’s apostles directly disobeyed a government order (in Acts 4). Why? Obeying that order would have meant disobeying God. Submission doesn’t mean you go along when you’re being asked to do something that violates Scripture, your conscience, or common sense.

Secret 6: Submission is countercultural.

In Paul’s day, submission challenged a culture that gave men power. It said, “Use your power for the benefit of the other person.” In our day, it challenges a culture of power wars. Submission says, “Use your power for the benefit of the other person.”

That’s countercultural. Nobody wants to yield the right of way. Submission isn’t the answer we like. It’s not the answer we wanted. But it’s the only answer to the constant frustration and anger we have in our relationships. There’s no other way.

It’s always cut against the grain. Your family or your friends may not under­stand your relationship. But you and your spouse don’t follow the culture, you fol­low Christ.

Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God." ~Romans 13:1

As I read this verse, the area of submission became clear.

We all have someone or something that holds a measure of authority in our lives. There are parents, employers and the law of the land, lender and government, just to name a few. Each requires your willingness and cooperation in compliance with the rules.

What happens when you and I rebel against this authority by choosing to disobey?

What come next are consequences, some harsher than others, intended to gain our full attention and submission.

Ask yourself this question: How much more would you and I suffer and lose if we rebel against God's authority established at the beginning of time.

God's position on the matter is firm: "Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves." Romans 13:2 NIV

When the children of God do what is right and just, we benefit from God's goodness.

 “Whoever pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honor.” Proverbs 21:21 NIV

The book of Proverbs is the book of wisdom given to us from God.

Allow me to break this verse down.

In verse 21:21, the word "whoever" is referring to mankind. You and I are to chase after moral standards of excellence and to do what is right in the face of wrong at all times. Through our deep affection toward one another, we will co-exist in harmony, continuing to grow in the things of God. In doing so, you and I will experience security, success, comfort and well-being and bring high respect to our father in heaven.

Our lord and savior is coming soon. Make no mistake about it. And he has been given full authority to judge the world.

 “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.” 2 Corinthians 5:10

There are many who refuse to recognize authority of any kind.

Don't repeat history like the children of Israel who were judged for their rebellious and unrepentant ways. You and I will not be excluded from the wrath of God if found guilty.

Submission to God’s authority brings freedom. It sets order and direction in our everyday lives for those found in Christ. And what is to follow is unimaginable blessing for those who are obedient.

 “Now it shall be, if you diligently listen to and obey the voice of the Lord your God, being careful to do all of His commandments which I am commanding you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations of the earth. All these blessings will come upon you and overtake you if you pay attention to the voice of the Lord your God.” Deuteronomy 28:1-2 AMP

For those who rebel against authority, there are also consequences: “But it shall come about, if you do not listen to and obey the voice of the Lord your God, being careful to do all His commandments and His statutes which I am commanding you today, then all these curses will come upon you and overtake you” Deuteronomy 28:15 AMP

It is never enough to be a “good person.” Repentance, acceptance of Christ as lord and savior and allowing his authority to reign in our lives is required. When you and I have learned how to respect the authority of God, we will be in position to do the same here on Earth.

Our perfect teacher in this area of submission to authority is Jesus himself. Throughout his 33 years on earth, including the three years of ministry that led up to Christ's death and resurrection, he displayed total submission to God’s authority. It was out of this submission to authority and love that we were redeemed from the curse of sin.

It's time to get our house in order and recognize who is truly in charge: Yahweh (God’s name for I am).

Are you ready for a life-changing experience that will bring joy and peace?

There may be someone who has never experienced a relationship with the lord and desires to do so today. You can live a victorious life in Christ. Allow me to extend an invitation to experience the love of God.

Please repeat this prayer: "Lord Jesus, forgive me of my sins I committed against you. I believe Jesus died for my sins and has risen again. Please come into my life and heart and lead the way. I confess you as my lord and savior from this day forward. In Jesus' name, amen."

Welcome into the family of Christ.

Until next time, enjoy a wonderful and safe weekend.

May the lord keep you and bless you continuously. In Jesus' name, amen.

Principle Scriptures on the Discipline of Submission: Psalm 40:6-9; Micah 6:6-8; Matthew 16: 21-28; John 14:15-21; Ephesians 5:21; Philippians 2:1-8; James 4:1-12; 1 Peter 1:13-16; 2: 13-18; 3:1

Here is how you can find out. Take a careful look at this Discipline of Submission from God's most precious Word by examining your life and the passages above. Now ask yourself: 

1.How do I exhibit a life of Submission in my daily life? 

2.How can I develop the willingness to be a more disciplined person who will realize I am to obey Christ as well as respect others? 

3.What blocks Submission from working and being exhibited in me? 

4.How can I initiate Submission, and discipline myself to carry it out? 

5.What can I do to make Submission function better, stronger, and faster, even in times of uncertainty and stress? 

·Here are positive examples from Scripture: Matt. 26:39; Luke 1:26-56; 7:1-10; John 1:19-28; 3:28-30; Acts 4:19-20; 5:29-32; 1 Cor. 16:7; Phil. 2:3-11; Heb. 5:7-8. 

·Here are negative examples from Scripture: Isa. 14:12-17; Dan. 4:30-34; Matt. 26:40-41; Luke 18:9-14; 1 Cor.16:8-9.

The Discipline of Submission means having the willingness to voluntarily submit to Christ and also to others in authority. Thus, we make a commitment and resolve to yield our will, mind, and body for God's purposes so we can better hear, receive, and obey His Word. It is a call to submit and a Discipline because it takes our effort, even though we are not required to do so. When we are submitting to others, we are also submitting and serving Christ as Lord (Col. 3:23-24)! It is an aspect of the surrender of our lives to God so we are in His will. Because Submission is respect, it is not to exceed the parameters of the will of God or of love and righteousness. This Discipline of Submission is more about our interpersonal relationships and how we humbly reverence God, whereas Surrender is how we should come before God, which we will address in the next DOF study. The application is for our benefit. In our churches, when we are under the leadership of those who are more mature and respect others' leadership, we will learn and grow more. In so doing we will become a better, healthier church. This will also affect our home life and relationships as we will show love and respect thus creating harmony and contentment.

What Submission is not is a loss of our identity or personality; rather, we are freed and enhanced to be better and more content with God and others. Submission is not about hating ourselves; rather, it means to have a right respect and relationship with God. The Bible calls us to also love ourselves, because we can't love others as we love ourselves unless we respect and love ourselves! But, this does not mean having pride or placing ourselves always on top or having to have it our way-period (Mark 12:30-31)! In contrast, arrogance lifts our self-interests and self-sufficiencies, which may seem necessary and good. However, when we are self-sufficient or self-indulgent, we not only fail to see our need for redemption, but also fail to see our need for growth in spiritual matters. Therefore, self becomes the god, and any work of the One True God is muted and put aside. This means we are not to base our identity on who we are in society or in wealth or anything outside of who we are in Christ, our love, and Christian maturity and growth. This is not being "weak;" rather, it is being "meek," as Christ exemplified and called us to be. Meekness is showing humbleness and gentleness toward God and others (Ex. 32:19-20; 30-34; Num 12:1-3; Psalm 37:11; Prov. 3:5; Matt. 5: 3-12; 11:29). Meekness causes us to seek to please God and submit our will and aspirations to His will and what is best. This will enable us to endure being personally attacked as we keep our focus on Christ and humility. 

What happens when we do not practice this discipline? If we do not submit, we will have a disregard for unity and no respect for authority; thus, our sinful nature will win out. The result will be quarrels (because of pride), discord (because of a battle of wills with one another instead of love and Fruit), and shame, bringing the destruction of our church, our families, and our relationships. We will become imprisoned in our own agendas and hurts so the wonder of relationships and the sweetness of His work are not received by us. We will become consumed with our anger that results in bitterness and strife with others. We will become ingrates and our hurt, which is mostly self-inflicted, will become a weapon to hurt and destroy others instead of building and growing with them in God. When our minds are focused on Christ and not on status, situations, possessions, or experiences, we will glorify Him. Then, we do not need to worry, fret, or become consumed with anger, bitterness, or ingratitude when others come against us. Thus, if our situation is bad, or we do not get our way, we can still succeed and be joyful. And when new are doing well, we will not let pride rule over us either. This comes about when we realize that Jesus does indeed care, and loves us ever so deeply! 

Further Questions

1.How would you define the Discipline of Submission? Are you a person who tends to be submissive? If not, why not? What desires do you have that seem so much better than what Christ is offering you? How can your own vision and agenda be better than what the Creator LORD, King of the universe has for you? 

2.What part does Submission play in your relationships with church members, friends, coworkers, and family? How can it improve them? 

3.How does focusing on what we want counteract God's call? What is the cost to our lives personally as well as to the people around us when we refuse to submit to Christ as Lord or to leaders? 

4.What happens when your church leaders refuse to submit, or teach or encourage others to submit to Christ? 

5.What happens to your relationship with God, with others, and with the opportunities God gives you when you refuse to agree with His precepts or practice His presence (worship Him)? 

6.When have you exercised Submission the most? What is the difference between being submissive and being prideful?

7. In what situation did you fail to be submissive when you should have? What does it mean to your daily life and its stresses to realize that His death was meant to give you life? 

8.What are the benefits of the Discipline of Submission? What must take place within us to transform us so we can be submissive?

9.How would Submission help you in distinguishing between what is good and what is bad in life? What would real, authentic Submission look like in your life? 

10. What issue is in your life now that would improve with more Submission? How would it greatly enhance your attitude toward God and affect your attitude in how you communicate and interact with others?

11. How does Submission help us see the Holy Spirit's convicting us of a sin or a bad attitude that we need to confess and submit to Christ?

12. Think through the steps that you need to take to put Submission into action in a specific instance. For example, how can you use this Discipline of Submission to improve your faith, Fruit, character, relationships, confidence, leadership ability, parenting, and/or relationship with Christ and others? What can you do to motivate yourself to examine your attitudes to see if there is room (and there should be lots of it) for improvement in your relationship with both God and those around you? 

The Discipline of Submission helps enable us to receive Jesus, not just as Savior, but as Lord so we are receiving His work in ourselves, and in so doing, becoming His workers in others, too. This Discipline of Submission comes from our complete conviction in the truth-His Truth. We do this when we recognize Christ's Authority, and believe it, trust in it, and have faith in Him. Then we are influenced, infused, and in agreement of His call and precepts. Then we can apply them to our lives by our faith, maturity, and character so our conduct and attitude reflects Christ with joy. 

Submit comes from a military term, which means "to place under" or "to subordinate" as a line relationship. This is not because of weakness or inferiority, or, that one is better than the other; rather, it is respect. It is also an aspect of our reverence to Christ for who He is and what He has done for us, and our resulting attitude and obedience (Eph. 5:21-22; 1 Peter 2:13-17; 5:5, 22). This means we submit "For the Lord's sake" which is about His authority and sovereignty. God establishes His will and is the authority. For this reason, Christ is extolled; His name and reputation remain good and are shown in good light when we are respectful and become His windows to the world! 

When we become "Christians," either by birth in a Christian family (which does not actually make you a Christian just as being in a supermarket does not make you a cucumber, but many Christians just think that since my family is so and so I am too…) or through evangelism as an adult, a time must come when Christ must take hold of us on a deeper level in radical commitment and conviction. This requires our determined practice of our Christian faith. So the reality of who we are in Christ hits us deeper with more power in faith and conviction as we start to grow and be more serious with our faith. The result is of more use to God, and better in our relationships with others. The Discipline of Submission allows us to completely change the filthy agendas of our minds and fill them with the new golden wonders of His love and precepts. 

Submission comes before obedience-before we can venture with real, authentic obedience without drudgery of compulsion; we cannot surrender to Christ until we have submitted to His Lordship. This will transform into a practical application of our faith. This is a Discipline because we have to continually work at it. It does not just happen on its own; something astounding must take place within us to transform us. In other words, we must become the people of God in order that we can be capable and willing to do the work of God. Our relinquishment of our will to His is paramount to making this happen (Mark 8:34; John 3:27-30). 

The Discipline of Submission will greatly enhance, for the better, our attitude toward God, which will greatly affect our attitude in how we communicate and act with others. We learn this by our humility through the Work of the Spirit spurred on by the spiritual disciplines of being in His Word, and practicing before God our dependence on Him, seeking His will, and being in prayer. Our motivation is to be the realization that we are saved by grace, and kept by His love (1 Kings 8:58; Psalm 25; Mark 1:7; Luke 9:23; 18:9-14; 22:27; Romans 12:3; Eph. 4:1-3; Col. 1:18; Phil. 2:8; James 4:6; 1 Peter 5:3-5). We must realize that the faith to respond to Christ and others will never grow in the shallow soil of our pride. 

Christ calls us to take up the cross and deny ourselves; this is extreme discipleship, a call that is to cancel out our will so we can submit to His. When we confess Christ as our Savior, it means He is our Lord. We are to surrender to His direction, call, and purpose. When we claim to be His, we need to commit and follow, leaving behind all that hinders and causes us to go astray. This goes against our will and our culture that says, you are number one, and you deserve whatever you want. But, usually what we want is not what is best. Yes, we deserve better; and better is to be in Christ and to follow His ways. When we deny ourselves, we are liberating ourselves from misdirected ways to His way and from temporary, skewed fun to eternal wonder. 

The Discipline of Submission allows us to see that our real, authentic faith follows Christ (Matthew 9: 9-13)! But, we have to be careful because our faith and Discipline are easily distracted and even blocked when we are too puffed up with ourselves. If you think you do not need Submission, you are very mistaken, for you will be living in your hurt and/or will and not in Christ. 

This Discipline is about our giving of things over to Christ such as agendas, passions, motivations, hurts, feelings, and will. Thus, it is more of a form of meekness where our strength and agendas are under control to a greater good and purpose-His purpose. It is also a respect to those who are in authority. This Discipline of Submission is the relinquishing of our self-centeredness and pride so our hearts and attitudes are lined up to Christ and not ours or others skewed, personal agendas or past hurts. So, our focus is not on pleasure, but on holiness. This is the practice of the Fruit of the Spirit so it is flowing from our relationship with Christ. This will make our faith and conduct easier because of the assistance of our discipline of focusing on Christ and being in compliance to Him and His precepts, and not on our perceived self-importance. The Discipline aspect of Submission is our resolve, fortitude, and practice to remain faithful and take what Christ has given us and make it grow as we are called to do.

The Discipline of Submission is also an attitude of humility which is a parallel to an attitude of obedience. Submission attacks our self-promoting posturing and pride; the attitude of humility attacks and nullifies our self-love mentality that causes pride. Humility minimizes our arrogance and removes pride. The misunderstanding of our fallen nature and weaknesses causes us to think we are better than we are, and that causes us to strive to lift ourselves above others and God. Humility admits that most importantly God, but also others are responsible for our achievements. Humbleness enables us to be a teachable person who is willing to have a good attitude of submission and servant-hood, a person who confesses sin and remembers how Christ saved as well as served us! And, the Discipline of Submission is essential if we are to be free of our pride!

Submission as a Christian:

We are called to Fear God, which means to reverence Christ as Lord, and not as an afterthought or only when it is convenient. We are to come before Him in this way, along with humbleness. We are to fear and submit as we present our endearment and respect. This is supercharged when we realize who we are in Christ, so our intense reverence and awe of God and His holiness comes from us and is shown to others. It does not mean we are afraid of Him; rather, we are fearful of His wrath (Job 28:28; Prov. 1:7; 3:5; 8:13; 9:10; 16:6; 31:30; Psalm 2:11; 34:11; 111:10; Is. 12:6; Eccl. 12: 13; Mal. 1:14; Matt. 10: 27-33; Rom. 2:11; 3; James 2:1;1 Pet. 5:6). 

When we to submit to God's mighty hand, we are under His covering power, His controlling power, and His sovereignty-God's love because He is in charge. It is the loving, caring hand of God that is in charge of us. It can be a Hand of shelter, deliverance, a testing, or a chastening. His hand is always His best love for us so we become our best for His glory (Duet 26:8; Phil 4:13; 1 Pet. 5:5-9)! So, do not debate with God; be humbled under His will, under His Word, and under His power. 

Even though we were deeply loved before the cross or our faith in Him, we are accountable for our actions and where our trust, faith, and heart are placed. Is it in Christ, or in the world (Matt. 23:12)? As Christians, we are to remove all aspects of pride and arrogance from our thinking and actions! In so doing, we are to recognize and respect those in authority (Ex. 22:28; 1 Kings 21:10; Prov. 24:21). 

Submission as a Marriage:

Submission in marriage also means freedom. It is not the tyrannical concept most of us have in mind. It is a form of mutual respect and love. It is not to be forced, but offered freely in response to each other's love. Because the husband loves (the women's greatest need), because the husband is caring, because the husband is putting his wife's best interests forward, the wife submits, and he earns her devotion (a mans greatest need). It allows us to be free, and to have the best flowing in and out of us and thus the best interest and care of each other at heart. It frees us from bad thinking that leads to bad choices which, in turn, leads to a life of misery and trouble! A wife's respect for her husband shows him unconditional love that helps fuel his desire to return love. He receives his value and honor that is so important to a man. The wife responds because she knows she is cared for and cherished, her important need. Love is often reciprocal; the husband loves and the wife responds with respect and honor. And, when things are not going well, the wife should and must still respect him (unless there is abuse), as with the husband who must still love, regardless of how his wife is being with him. Then, the relationship will vastly improve (1 Cor. 7; 13:4-7; Eph. 5:1-2; Col. 3:18-21; Gal. 2:20-21; 5:22-26; 1 Thess. 3: 11-13; 4:1-8; 1 Pet. 3:1-7).

Submission as a Leader:

Real, biblical leadership is found in humbleness by the developing of a servant attitude. Real church or spiritual authority is not based in our ordination, election, position, title or degree; and, it definitely doesn't come from our will or personality. Rather, it comes to us from God. This is about His authority being exercised through us, evidenced by our love, Fruit, and compassion, while our power is under control and matures. Humbleness will enable us to be teachable, willing to have a good attitude of submission and servant hood, and a people who confess sin and remember how Christ served us (Mark 9:35)!

We are to accept His mighty hand; then, we will be lifted up. We are to endure the pain and difficulties that life brings, for He will lift us up. We are to endure the trouble and trials, for He will lift us up. We should never think that our circumstances are too difficult; rather, we should seek to cast our anxiety on Him because we have the confidence that He does care for us. Take heed; God will not lift us up until we are ready for it. Our grace came after the cross. Our crown comes after the cross. Suffering comes before glory. 

The Discipline of Submission is happening when we are overflowing with the magnitude of the greatness of God's grace! To grow and to be mature and faithful requires us to work on our willingness to submit and to be humble. The result is respect, cooperation, unity, community, and the power of His Fruit at work. We have to see that God wants us to submit; this is best for us, both individually and collectively as a church. Being a Christian and a church is about relying on Him, not ourselves. It is about His mighty power at work in us-not our feeble ways! His favor and power will be poured out on us when we are faithful, obedient, and meek. 

A true disciple is willing to submit to Authority! Remember that Jesus took a towel to show His willingness to submit; what do you take to Him? 

More Scriptures on Submission: Gen 33; Ex. 22:28; 1 Kings 21:10; Hosea 6:6; Psalm 15; 37:11; Prov. 3:5; 21:3; 24:21; 28:13-14; Matt. 5:3-12; 10:39; 11:29; 22:37-39; Mark 8:34-35; 9:35; John 3:27-30; 21:19; Eph. 5:21-22; Phil. 2:5-8; Col. 3:23-24; Hebrews 13:15-17; James 2:1; 4:1-6; 1 Peter 2:13-17; 5:5-6, 22. 

I. The priority of submission (v. 25)

Peter says that we are called to submission. In Matthew 8:18-22, a scribe and a disciple come to Jesus and desire to follow Him. Jesus does not say to them, "Come on along, the more the merrier. This is going to be so much fun!" To one He says, "Foxes have dens and birds of the sky have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay His head" (8:20). When the other asks for permission to remain with his father until he dies, Jesus replies, "let the dead bury their own dead" (8:22). Quite literally Jesus tells one of them to consider the cost and sacrifice required in following Him, and to the other He demands that He be first priority. The message of Jesus is that you must be submissive to Him to follow Him.

Deitrich Bonhoeffer begins his book, The Cost of Discipleship with these words: "Cheap Grace is the deadly enemy of our Church. We are fighting today for costly-grace" (Collier Books, 1963, pg. 45). Bonhoeffer wrote those words in the 1930s and they still ring true today. Peter says that if we call ourselves Christian, then we are called to submission. If we think that we can pledge our allegiance to Jesus, but not submit to His Lordship, we cheapen the grace of God. When Bonoeffer says the enemy of the church is cheap grace, he is talking about the lack of submission.

I am often shocked to discover people who complain about how hard life is, and in the next breath say, "I just thought following Jesus would be easier than this." What they mean is, "I thought I could live without submission.

Dr. Stephen Olford make a profound statement: "If Jesus is not Lord of all, then He is not Lord at all." Peter says if you call yourself Christian, then you are called to submission. We do not have a choice in it.

II. The path of submission (vv. 21-23)

But how do we live submissive lives? Peter defines a submissive life by the example of Jesus. According to Peter, submission is not retaliating for wrongs suffered. It is not saying one thing but doing something else. Submission is not vowing to get even or threatening to return suffering.

Oftentimes in the high pressure world of politics and business, the motto is "get them before they get you, and make sure you take care of number one." I have heard people talk about why their marriages fell apart. They talk about how the other person did not make them feel something anymore, or they wanted something else. I have heard people complain that my preaching was too dry, too long, too short, too shallow, too deep, too many illustrations, and not enough illustrations. And all that was from the same Sunday sermon. In business, politics, marriages, and church if we are not careful everything will center on how it benefits us. It is easy to become a stiff necked-people who scream, "I am in control here, and I will get what I want."

In the Old Testament there was the "Lex Talionis" or the Law of the Claw. The Law of the Claw states, "an eye for and eye and a tooth for a tooth." Have you ever looked at the talons of an eagle, hawk, or some other predatory bird? Those things could inflict some major damage and pain. Most of us live by the Law of the Claw. If you hurt me, then I will sink my claws in you and hurt you.

Jesus addressed the Law of the Claw when He said, "You have heard it said, ‘an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth', but I say to you…Give to the one who asks of you and don't turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you." (Matt. 5:38, 42). But what if they are mean? They can't be trusted. Do you know what they have done in the past? Jesus says to not repay evil with evil. The ends do not justify the means.

Peter points out these are not just words to Jesus. When He endured the agony of the cross, He was beaten, mocked, tortured, humiliated, and killed. And for what? Pilate said that he found no fault in Jesus. A man who had done nothing wrong suffered a horrible, gruesome punishment, yet He did not demand His way. Paul says that, "He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death - even death on a cross." Jesus tells us to be submissive, and then He models submissiveness as He suffers and dies on the cross.

III. The person of submission (v. 23)

If you are like me, everything in you says "That's not fair." And you know what? You are right. But Peter points out that the object of our submission is God, not the figure before us. He says that Jesus submitted "Himself to the One who judges justly." That is God.

If you have spent very much time around children you know that one of their favorite phrases is, "That's not fair," which is usually followed by a temper tantrum. You would think things would change as we get older, but sadly that does not seem to be the case. We have become a nation that screams, "That's not fair." If things don't go our way or we think we have been mistreated just the least little bit, we cry "Not fair". But instead of throwing a temper tantrum, we file a lawsuit. In the church it is not any better. There is jealousy, bitterness, anger, backbiting, slander, gossip, and all forms of dissention.

I know that I sound like a broken record, but let me tell you why. Years ago something happened to me that I did not think was fair. To be honest, I don't even remember what it was. That shows you how big a deal it was. Anyway, I was complaining to God about how I was not being treated fairly. I said to God, "It's not fair." But it was not fair for God's Son to die for my sins, either. He did nothing wrong. I did.

It was then that I realized an important lesson. I only cried "not fair" when I got the short end of the stick. I never shouted, "not fair" when I got what I did not deserve. Mercy is not getting what you deserve, grace is getting what you do not deserve, and both are not fair. But we don't complain when we receive God's grace or mercy.

I do not serve God so that I can be guaranteed fair treatment. I am not a Christian because I want be able to get even with someone. I follow Jesus because I realize that His love for me is so great that He died for me, and that without Him I would be eternally lost. The greatest gift I ever received was an unfair gift that cost Jesus His life.

The next time you are not treated fairly, think about how they treated Jesus. The next time you want to cry unfair, think about how Jesus died unfairly for our sins. This is not about fairness, this is about gratitude. Fairness is about ourselves, and gratitude is about submission.

IV. The purpose of submission (v. 24)

Jesus endured His suffering for us. It was His submission that purchased our salvation. Peter tells us to follow the example of Jesus. As we submit to God, God can use our example to reach others.

Do you know the type of witness you could have if you did not demand fairness but lived in submission to God? Compare that witness with the one you would have if you demanded your own way all the time. The opposite of submission is control, and the opposite of humility is pride.

Peter says that by His wounding we are healed. How are things at work, in your marriage, in your church? Could you use some healing? Peter makes it clear healing does not come by trying to control the situation or by prideful demanding of your way. Healing comes when we submit to God and allow His Spirit to work.

By submitting to God we allow Him complete control of our lives. As he works in us and through us, we will also see Him working around us. And where God works there is healing, life, and restoration. You see, our submission is not to others, it is to God so that He can use our lives to touch the lives of others. Because Jesus submitted, you and I have salvation. If you and I submit, God can work through us to change governments, workplaces, homes, and churches. The purpose of submission is so that God can change the things around us, by changing us, and then working through us.

Conclusion

That awful word - submission. We dread it. We run from it. We try to ignore it. But once we see the submission of Christ and realize we are called to live like that, submission goes from awful to filling us with awe. Because of the submissive example of Christ, my life will never be the same. How about you? Have you accepted the unfair gift of Jesus, that He would die in your place? You can this morning.

Because of the example of Jesus and how He has changed my life, I want God to use my life to reach others. So I submit to Him, and allow Him to work in me, through me, and around me. What is your desire? Do you want your way, or will you give up your demands, and even your freedoms, so that God can use you to touch another life? Will you submit to God?

Accepting God-Given Authority

In the first place, let's consider God's view of human authority in general.

Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.

Romans 13:1-2

God has instituted human authority, and it is for our own good. First Peter 2:13 picks up the same theme. It says,

Submit yourselves for the Lord's sake to every authority instituted among men: whether to the king, as the supreme authority, or to governors, who are sent by him to punish those who do wrong and to commend those who do right.

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What does this mean? Paul and Peter are both saying that submission to God means submission to God-ordained authority. This means that rebellion against such authority is rebellion against God.

There are four major areas of authority addressed in the Bible—human government, church leadership, employers, and the home.

In the home there are two levels of authority. The first is the authority that both parents have over the children. The second is the authority that the husband has over the wife. Sometimes, when the subject of submission in the home is discussed, the wife is placed in the same relationship as the children. That should not be so.

In some churches and in some books and seminars, submission is so badly taught that women have been told to obey their husbands, even if they instruct their wives, as Jeff did Lana, to do something morally wrong.

Some Notable Exceptions

In thinking this through, I've come to realize that there are biblical exceptions to submission in every area of authority. For instance, with regard to obedience to government, the Hebrew midwives did not obey Pharaoh and kill all the little boy babies—thus Moses was saved and God blessed the midwives. Rahab did not obey her king and turn in the Hebrew spies—she and her family were spared when Jericho was destroyed. Daniel would not pray to an idol or to his king, and he deliberately disobeyed the king's decree. God honored him for his faithfulness.

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As far as employer/employee relations are concerned, we read about three God-fearing young men who were administrators under Nebuchadnezzar, king of Babylon. They would not bow down in worship to his image and laid their lives on the line as a result. And God rescued them from the fiery furnace.

There was also an obscure little man named Obadiah whose story is recorded in 1 Kings 18:9-14. When all the prophets of God were ordered killed by Ahab and Jezebel, he protected a hundred of them. He was employed as a servant of the king, and yet he defied his employer's orders.

God once blessed the actions of a son who disobeyed his own father. Saul's son Jonathan was ordered by his father to kill David. Instead he protected David, who was his closest friend.

And as for wifely submission, consider the story of Abigail. Her husband Nabal had arrogantly decreed that David and his men should receive no provisions from his vast and wealthy household. Yet Abigail disregarded her husband's orders and did just the opposite. She delivered massive supplies to the future king and even pleaded with him not to retaliate against her household in response to her husband's refusal to help, "because he is a fool!"

Why did Abigail do this? Because she was concerned that David, God's anointed king, not bloody his hands over her husband's churlish behavior. Because she was protecting her husband's life. And because she was saving the lives of all the men in her household.

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Abigail was rewarded richly for her efforts. God struck down her foolish husband Nabal. David, the recipient of her generosity, was profoundly impressed by her wisdom and courage. Once she was widowed, he took her to be his wife.

Clearly, human authority can be abused. And as children of God, we must obey our Father. The apostles have set a vivid example for us.

The religious leaders of Israel, called the Sanhedrin, were supposed to be obeyed, and every good Jew obeyed them. Even if the men in the Sanhedrin were wrong, they were to be honored and respected. The Sanhedrin decided that the apostles could not teach about Jesus Christ.

Look at Acts 4:18-19.

Then they called them in again and commanded them not to speak or teach at all in the name of Jesus. But Peter and John replied, "Judge for yourselves whether it is right in God's sight to obey you rather than God. For we cannot help speaking about what we have seen and heard."

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In Acts 5:28-29 the Sanhedrin's high priest again rebuked them,

"We gave you strict orders not to teach in this name," he said. "Yet you have filled Jerusalem with your teaching and are determined to make us guilty of this man's blood."

Peter and the other apostles replied: "We must obey God rather than men!"

Obedience to God

We are not free to cop-out on responsibility by doing something wrong because an authority tells us to do it. All human authority is under the umbrella of God's authority, and God's authority must be obeyed first. You can't say "Well, my boss told me to lie and I have to lie because he is my boss," or, like Lana in our story, "I have to do this because my husband told me to." No, you don't have to!

If there is a conflict between God's rules and man's, the believer must choose to obey God. And bear in mind, there may be suffering involved. Of course we know, as 1 Peter 2:19 tells us, if we suffer for doing good, God is pleased with us.

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Submission is not mindless, childlike obedience without responsibility for one's actions. So what is it? Whenever submission of the wife is taught in the New Testament, the headship of the husband is equally taught. It is a two-way street. Let's contemplate the husband-wife relationship, that very unique union which is so different from every other kind of authority/submission relationship.

In Ephesians 5:18-21, we learn that all Christians, men and women alike, are to be controlled by the Spirit of God. One of the evidences of the Spirit's control is submission to one another out of reverence for Christ. This kind of Christian submission is only possible if we are being controlled by the Spirit.

Who is doing the submitting in Ephesians 5:21? Everybody! It is a mutual submission. As Spirit-filled Christians we are to submit to one another. Then Paul goes on to be more specific. In the verses that follow, he describes how that submission looks in various categories. He talks about parents and children. Slaves and masters. Husbands and wives.

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife, loves himself.

Ephesians 5:22-28

Submission vs. Obedience

How does "submit to your husbands" differ from Genesis 3:16 where God says your husband "will rule over you"? Are the two passages talking about the same thing? No, in fact they are quite different. The Genesis prediction comes as the consequence of sin. The Ephesians' imperative comes as the result of our being filled with the Spirit. The two are not the same at all.

First of all, let's talk about the word "submit." This is a different term from the word "obey," which is used in relation to children and slaves. It is important for us to understand that the word used to command obedience from children and slaves is never used in a command form for wives. The "submission" Paul applies to husbands and wives can be compared to the relationship between a president and a vice-president. They are equal in personhood, but they have different responsibilities. Since the president has greater authority, he also has greater responsibilities. This is true in marriage as well. God holds the husband responsible to love his wife and be a godly leader.

Paul says "submit" or "subject yourself" to your husband. Peter says "to your own husband." That eliminates the possibility of women being submissive to all men, a fallacy which is sometimes taught in Christian circles. Neither does it mean that single women must submit to single men.

Submit to your own husband as to the Lord—that is the command. So does your husband somehow become the Lord in your eyes? Should you submit to him unquestioningly just as if he were God? No! The Scripture simply means that you submit to your husband's leadership as an act of obedience to Jesus Christ. Do you see the difference? You obey Jesus Christ by your voluntary submission to your husband.

This kind of submission has nothing to do with inferiority. The fact that we see it in the Godhead confirms this. The Son submits to the Father. The Spirit submits to the Father and the Son. Yet Father, Son, and Spirit are each called God. There is no inferiority implied. There is simply order—the proper order which God has designed.

This voluntary submission is also a service rendered to God through the control of the Holy Spirit. It is not something that we are going to do happily on our own. At one time or another, all of us are bound to resist it. But keep in mind that while women are commanded to submit to their husbands, men are commanded to sacrificially love their wives.

Seeking the Will of God

What we often don't realize is that there are many blessings to be found in biblical submission.

I had to learn this by hard experience. When I was married thirty-nine years ago, there was no pre-marital counseling, nor were there the numerous books and courses on Christian marriage that we have today. My father had died when I was seven, so I was not accustomed to male authority.

When Fred and I married, I really didn't think much about this submission stuff. It took nine years of stubbornness on my part and determination on my husband's before the Lord penetrated my self-will with His Word. My husband and I were at an impasse. I wanted to do something that he refused to have done. I was reading Ephesians 5 one day, and the Lord clearly spoke to me from the written page. "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife . . ."

But Lord, what if I'm right and he's wrong? What will happen if we don't do something about this problem right away? My imagination projected all kinds of terrible consequences if we didn't do things my way. But the Lord kept up the pressure, and finally I said, "Lord, I am Your child and this is Your Word which I must obey. I want Your will for my life more than I want my own way. I am willing for my husband to be an instrument in Your hands to show me Your will. And I will trust You to give him the right decisions."

From then on, before I suggested a course of action to my husband, I'd tell the Lord, "It's Your will I want. My husband's decision will be Your will for this situation."

It began to amaze me how many times we were in agreement. The tension and conflict caused by my insistence on my own way disappeared as I trusted God to speak to me through my husband.

This is the approach a Christian woman can take whether she is married to an unbeliever, an immature believer, or a strong leader. When we depend on God to use the instruments He has provided for our guidance, He has a way of changing minds, wills, and actions to bring about His purposes.

I should tell you that it took a year before what I thought had to be done right away was done. And none of the dire consequences I thought would result ever happened. God understands the pressures that submission brings into our lives and He is there to help. All He wants is that we want His will above all else, even our own way. There is a wonderful freedom and peace when we view the marital relationship this way.

Marilee was the youngest of six children and had moved from New York to California to marry Ted. Most of her brothers and sisters still lived on the East Coast, as did her widowed mother. In recent months her mother's health had deteriorated dramatically.

Each of Marilee's siblings had shared the responsibility for the dying woman, financially and with physical care. Ted had been generous about sending money to New York to assist with medical bills, but he stubbornly refused to allow his wife to go care for her mother. There had been several unpleasant conversations about the subject, and Ted's final words had been, "The answer is no, and don't ask me again!"

"It's so unreasonable!" Marilee fumed as she spoke to her friend Helen. "We've got plenty of money, and Ted and the kids are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves for a few weeks. He's just being controlling, and I hate it!"

"I don't blame you at all, Marilee . . ." Helen was frustrated with Ted, too. But good friend that she was, she didn't want to fan her friend's anger into full flame.

"I feel like taking money out of the bank, buying a ticket, and just leaving. That's what I should do. What if Mom dies before I can get there? I'll never forgive myself. I haven't seen her in five years, Helen. Five years!"

"Well, before you do that, let's pray together. I think God may want to do something about this Himself."

"Like what?" Marilee was so incensed, she couldn't even imagine God being on her side in the matter.

"Like changing Ted's mind."

"Oh, sure. Right. Ted's mind? God might be able to create the universe in six days, but He'll never change Ted's mind!"

Helen shook her head and smiled. "Come on, let's pray anyway."

Reluctantly Marilee brought the whole issue before the Lord. She told Him how angry she was. Before long tears replaced her rage—grief over her mother's impending death. How she longed to see her again before she died. But then she added, "Lord, I want Your will more than my own way."

Helen hugged Marilee before the two parted. "I'm expecting a miracle, whether you are or not!"

"Well, God can do anything, I guess. But this seems pretty hopeless."

That night while Marilee was preparing dinner, Ted walked into the kitchen, and rather timidly handed her an envelope. "Marilee, I think God wants you to have this . . ."

"What is it?"

"It's a plane ticket to New York. You leave Friday, and the return date is open. I wasn't sure how long you'd need to stay. The kids and I will be fine."

Marilee stared at Ted in absolute shock. "What on earth changed your mind, Ted?"

"I don't know. I just got to thinking about how I'd feel if my own mother were sick, and I realized I was being unreasonable. Sorry, Honey." Ted grinned sheepishly. "You know how I am . . ."

This applies to unbelieving husbands, too. So don't say, "Well, my husband isn't a believer so I'm not going to submit to him." Just pray for him. Submit to him. And leave the rest with God.

Of course, wives must submit to their husbands in everything certainly does not refer to sin. No wife should ever submit to a dishonest or immoral plan. And even in the case of righteous or neutral decisions, from time to time we all have our own personal struggles with submission.

Remember the reason we are to submit. Because, just as Christ is the head of the church and the church is His body, so the husband is the head of the wife (Eph. 5:23).

A Special Kind of Love

When you read the passage on marital submission in Ephesians 5, you notice that much more responsibility is given to the husband than to the wife. Paul concludes his remarks by saying,

Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Ephesians 5:33

This word "love" is not that affectionate, loving friendship we find in Titus 2, where women are instructed to love their husbands. This love is the Greek word agape. Agape love is far more an act of volition than of emotion. It is a chosen attitude in which a man lays aside his own selfish desires and his own rights and takes care of his wife.

As Paul instructs husbands to love their wives, he uses the analogy, "just as Christ loved the church." How did Christ show His love for the church? Jesus Christ did not have to leave His throne in heaven. He did not have to come to earth, to live in poverty for thirty-three years in a human body. He did not have to suffer at the hands of sinful men. He did not have to die. Jesus Christ gave up His rights so that we could have eternal life. And this is the same type of love a husband is supposed to extend toward his wife.

Agape love is not dependent on the recipient. It is an act of the will. It is a commitment. "Love your wife as your own body" and because she really is an extension of your body. Here, again, the one-flesh relationship of Genesis 2 is emphasized. The wife is not a child, not a slave, not a toy, not a property. She is his complementary partner, one flesh with him. He is to nourish and cherish her just as he nourishes and cares for his own body.

Seeking Her Highest Good

Biblical marriage requires mutual submission. Yes, the wife yields her rights and submits to her husband's leadership. But the husband is to yield his rights to independence, to controlling all the money, and to making all the decisions. He is to recognize that he is married to a woman who is one flesh with him.

For some men, this is a difficult assignment and a big issue. It is very hard for a man to sacrificially give up his own rights for the sake of his wife. And yet God requires an unselfish love that seeks the woman's highest good, with no hint of her husband lording it over her. This view of marriage is distinctively Christian, an expression of God's love acted out through the control of the Spirit.

As a matter of fact, Christian marriages were astonishing to the Roman world. In a society where women had no rights, here was wifely submission balanced by loving sacrificial headship. Marriage was placed on a very firm basis of mutuality, with both partners having equal rights. Such an arrangement was revolutionary in that day.

I remember hearing a prominent leader say, "A husband's responsibility is to find out his wife's strengths and skills and to do everything he can to develop them." And this man was as good as his word. When he realized that his wife Jean was gifted at writing, he saw to it that once the children were grown, she went back to graduate school and got her degree in journalism. Today his wife is a well-known author and speaker, because her husband took it upon himself to encourage the use of her gifts and bring her to fulfillment. That is what loving, sacrificial headship can accomplish.

When comparing marriage with Christ's relationship to the church, Paul says, "This is a profound mystery." Now the word mystery in the Bible is not like an Agatha Christie novel or a "Perry Mason" episode on television. A mystery in the Bible is something that cannot be found out by human reasoning but must be revealed by God.

How can God take two totally opposite people and make them one? And how can Christ be wedded to the church in one body? Both are, indeed, mysteries. Do you see why Satan attacks Christian marriages? Because he wants to defile and distort the picture God has given us to illustrate His Son's relationship with the church.

Strengths and Weaknesses

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

1 Peter 3:7

Some people have understood the expression "weaker partner" to mean that the wife is weaker physically, mentally, spiritually, and morally. This is not the case. Paul is talking solely about her physical distinctiveness. Woman was created to bear children, not to chop down trees.

It is interesting to note that a man's prayer life can be blocked if he does not respect or honor his wife. Both partners must keep grace and forgiveness alive in the marriage. When bitterness and resentment are given a place in the home, more is lost than personal warmth and enjoyment. The vital element of the husband's prayer life, through which he receives both guidance and assistance, will be hindered. No couple should attempt to function within the confines of that sort of handicap.

A man should prayerfully take his wife's concerns to heart when making any decision. He should listen to her. He should pray with her. He should seriously consider the consequences she might bear in the wake of his choices. There ought not be too many instances in a good, healthy marriage where a man actually moves in a direction of which his wife disapproves. I heard one of my professors say, "Men, if your wife doesn't agree with a major decision, don't do it. Ask God to bring her into agreement if it's His will."

Becoming a True Husband

Marriage should provide a warm and healthy environment where the wife can grow to her full potential. She should thrive under her husband's protection, encouragement, and selfless provisions.

I found some powerful insights in a book by Dwight Small called Marriage as Equal Partnership. It comes to us from a man's point of view and summarizes a husband's headship in a clear and eloquent manner.

Headship is not at all a husband becoming a master, boss, tyrant, authoritarian—the dominant coercive force. Neither does it imply control or restriction. His being assertive and her being suppressed. And it cannot mean he assumes any prerogatives of greater virtue, intelligence or ability. It does not mean that he is active and she is passive. He is the voice and she the silent partner. Nor does it mean that he is the tribal chief, the family manager, the one who has superior rights or privileges. He is not the decision maker, problem solver, goal setter or director of everyone else in the family's life. Rather he is primarily responsible for the common advance toward freedom and fellowship—creating a partnership of equals under one responsible head. . . . Throughout the equalitarian process the husband knows all the while that he bears the responsibility, before God, for the healthful maintenance of the marriage. . . .

We are on the safe side when we see the definition of subjection in the person of Jesus himself. He, being equal with the Father, relinquished that equality to become the servant of us all. . . . Every Christian is called to servanthood as the expression of his or her new life in Christ. Servanthood is the identifying mark of every true Christian believer. A servant's role is to make sure that the other person's needs are met.

In marriage, servanthood is an act of strength, not weakness.

In the King James Version, "submit" appears only twelve times, "submitted" three times, and "submitting" once. In Greek, the word is hupotasso, which means "to arrange in order under." It is actually a military term, and in the military there is a strong sense of submitting to someone of higher rank. A soldier must arrange himself in order under his sergeant. A sergeant arranges himself in order under the master-sergeants. A master-sergeant arranges himself in order under the lieutenants—and the lieutenants to the captain, the captain to the major, and right on up to the general, who himself must submit to the Commander-in-Chief. Everything is "arranged in order under." Its "bare bones" meaning is that one has to arrange himself in order, that is, systematically, under another.

It appears in various English Bible translations other than the King James Version (and even sometimes in the King James) as "subordinate," "obey," "subject to," "submit," "surrender," "be weak," "afflicted," "humbled," "put under," and—how about this one—"stay in your place."

The subject is submitting. In the King James Version, the word "submit" appears only twelve times. It appears as "submitted" three times, and "submitting" one time. In Greek, the language with which we will be mostly dealing today since we will be spending most of our time in the New Testament, the word is hupotasso. Hupotassomeans, "to arrange in order under." It is actually a military term. You know in the military there is a very strong sense of having to submit oneself to somebody of higher rank. And so you arrange yourself in order underneath the sergeants. The sergeants arrange themselves in order underneath the master-sergeants. The master-sergeants arrange themselves under the lieutenants, the lieutenants to the captain; and the captain to the major; and it goes right on up to the general; and right on up to the Chief of Staff in the United States. So everything is submitted to the Chief of Staff. And the Chief of Staff himself is under the Commander-in-Chief, the President. Everything is "arranged in order under." This is what the word means. Its bare bones meaning is that one has to arrange himself in order, which is systematically, under something.

It appears in various English Bible translations other than the King James Version (and even sometimes in the King James) as "subordinate, obey, subject to, submit, surrender, be weak, afflicted, humbled, put under," and—how about this one—"stay in your place." Ooh, that one kind of hurts a little!

We are going to be dealing mostly with the New Testament and I am doing that because that is where the spirit of God's law is mostly dealt with. I want to begin by giving a variety of examples where hupotasso appears. First, we are going to the book of Luke. This is an example taken from Jesus' early life. As a matter of fact, He was twelve years old. Luke, in writing this, makes a remark about Jesus' conduct in relation to His parents.

Luke 2:51 And he went down with them, and came to Nazareth, and was subject unto them: but his mother kept all these sayings in her heart.

If you have a marginal reference it probably says "obedient." We also find that the word hupotasso is translated as "obedient" in the Revised Standard Version. Here in the New King James it is translated "subject," and in the Revised Standard it is translated "obedient." So we can get a shade of the way the translators decided to interpret the context in which this word appears and they put the alternate use in the margin, as well.

Next, Paul writes:

Romans 8:7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.

This word is translated in the Revised Standard Version and in the New International Version as "submit." So we see a shade of change that the translators of those versions decided to use here. The carnal mind will not submit to God—or to the law of God.

Another writing of Paul's:

I Corinthians 14:34 Let your women keep silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak; but they are to be submissive, as the law also says.

The New International Version says that they (women) are to be in submission. The Revised Standard Version says that they are to be subordinate and the Revised English Bible says to let the women keep their place.

I Corinthians 15:27 For "He has put all things under His feet." But when He says "all things are put under Him," it is evident that He who put all things under Him is excepted.

Here we find the word hupotassotranslated, "put under," which is its literal meaning. The Revised Standard Version and the Revised English Version interpret the word as "subjected to."

Another familiar one that probably everybody knows is:

Ephesians 5:21-22 submitting to one another in the fear of God. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. . . .

Ephesians 5:24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Philippians 3:21 who will transform our lowly body that it may be conformed to His glorious body, according to the working by which He is able even to subdue all things to Himself.

Hupotasso is here translated subdue. The Revised English Bible and the Revised Standard Version translate this "subject to." In the New International Version it says "under His control."

Titus 2:5 [young women are admonished to love their husbands; to love their children] to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.

We have come full circle from Luke 2:51and the word, hupotasso, is again translated "obedient." The Revised Standard Version says "submissive." The New International Version says "subject to." And the Revised English Bible says "respecting the authority of."

Sometimes it is difficult to perceive the difference between submission and obedience. There is a difference and it lies in the subtleties of things that may not appear readily to the eye. But they are very apparent to the one who is either obeying or submitting.

Obey (you can look this up in any good dictionary) simply means "to follow the command of." It means to conform. It means to comply with an order.

Submit, though, means "to yield, or defer out of respect; superior authority, affection, persuasion, or compulsion."

Now we can see that the word, submit, has a much broader application and its uses are much more definite, specific, and focused than is obedience. It is like obedience can take place anywhere under any kind of circumstance. But submission has an aspect to it in which a person's will is involved and, in a way, that is very important in regard to the development of character. And it is very important to God in regard to other things which we will get to as we go along in the sermon.

Let me ask a question. Does God want unthinking obedience from us simply because we are complying or conforming to something; or does God want us to think things through and submit because we know fully that it is the right thing to do? Which is better? What if you have a choice between obedience to something and, we will say, disobedience to something, but the disobedience would actually be obedience to God? Are you going to obey the ones that are putting the pressure on you to do something that God says not to do; or are you going to submit to God and disobey the other?

This begins to set up very interesting circumstances in a person's life. I am sure that it is a major reason why the word "hupotasso" is used rather than the Greek word for "obedience," which is "hupakoe"—attentive hearkening. The apostles—and God—wanted us to know that we are to think these things through and not merely to comply. We are to use our minds and go in a chosen direction because we realize and know and understand and set our will to submit to the right and good and true.

I will probably, as I concentrate on what I am trying to say here, use the words interchangeably because they are related and because there are times that the Bible does seem to use them in the same way.

Let us begin by asking: Why is submitting so difficult? I believe that there are two basic reasons. One has to do with education and the other has to do with attitudes. The one occurs because we all want to be free. I do not know anyone who does not want to have more liberty than they have right now. It is one of the major themes in the Bible, but we have a problem. The cause of this problem is that we have been miseducated. This is problem number one as to why we have difficulty submitting. We have been miseducated.

Because of this miseducation, all of us would put a different spin on what it means to be free. Being free does not mean the same thing to every person because the same things are not equally important to everybody. Some people have placed their spin on freedom, because of their circumstance, as a need for more food. Let us make a real obvious example. The Somalis, if they had their liberty, would desire to have an adequate supply of food. Or maybe their desire, if they were free, would be to not live in fear of being shot in the street—something of that nature. There are people who would want to be free to exercise their sexual passions with a great deal more liberty. On and on it goes. Everybody puts a little bit different twist on what they would like to be free to do. Why is this? Peter makes a simple statement in regard to this.

I Peter 1:18 knowing that you were not redeemed with corruptible things, like silver or gold, from your aimless conduct [conduct that was going nowhere] received by tradition from your fathers . . .

Tradition is that cultural way, method, or outlook that is imposed on us from birth. The influences of our culture are layered on us like an onion. We know how an onion is constructed—with one layer on top of another. What are the layers of culture—that is, our culture and, therefore, traditions—heaped upon us?

The first layer is impressed on us by the home, the family—or the lack thereof. It begins to set our minds as to what is important in life. Then there is a slightly larger segment—the neighborhood. At first, the neighborhood does not have a great deal of influence, but once we begin to expand our lives outside of the home, mother's and dad's influence slowly begins to wane. Our peers and our neighborhood begin to impress upon us a little bit more tradition. A little bit broader cultural layer begins to develop because we have escaped, as it were, from the home and have now gone out into the neighborhood. We keep layering it out and the city has an impact on us, the state, the region, and then the nation.

If we go backwards in this and begin to look at people, we begin to see very clearly what I mean. First of all, there are national characteristics; and you know this. Political cartoonists, for example, are very quick to pick up on this and they will draw a political cartoon that emphasizes a certain characteristic, let us say, of a Frenchman, or a German, or a Dutchman. And they illustrate where this person is from by portraying the characteristics of that nation in a particular way because these people have a traditional look that we recognize.

These keep going all the way down. There are the state characteristics and regional characteristics. I am speaking here to a room full of southerners. Everybody knows that a southerner has a way of speaking that is regional; it is part of their makeup and is part of the tradition that they carry with them everywhere. It does not have to be learned. It is impressed upon the person and it becomes a part of what he projects; it becomes a part of the way he looks at things. And so, in a general way, things that are important to a southerner are not quite so important to a northerner, or a north westerner, or to a Californian. Even something that is important to a northern Californian is not of the same importance to a southern Californian. All of these things are impressed upon us and that is where tradition comes into the picture.

Peter said that we have been redeemed from tradition. In the United States this thing about tradition has gotten so crazy. One of the buzzwords of our time is multiculturalism. We have people in the United States and in Canada who want to make sure that English is not the official language of the nation because they want to hang on to another culture. It used to be that when people immigrated to our nation that they strove to conform to the culture and tradition that we have in this country. They wanted to become full-fledged Americans and Canadians. So what did they have to do in order to do that? They had to submit to the customs and traditions of their new homeland.

But today there is a very powerful drive to get people to do just the opposite. They are being encouraged to hold on to the customs and traditions of their former homelands. It is going a long way toward tearing these nations apart! What we are slowly being driven toward is an absolute confusion of ideas because we cannot agree. We have an environment ready-made for conflict—unless someone submits.

The world is the way it is because Adam and Eve took of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, which indicates knowledge from many sources. This was sort of a preview of multiculturalism—knowledge from many sources without the spiritual guidance of God. We have got to get God into the picture here. Remember what I Peter 1:18 said, "We have been redeemed from the aimless conduct which we received by tradition from our fathers," as we now look in II Thessalonians.

II Thessalonians 2:15 Therefore, brethren, stand fast and hold the traditions which you were taught, whether by word or our epistle.

Brethren, God has His traditions! Now, what does that do? On the one hand we have the traditions that God is teaching us through His Word, through His ministers. He has traditions to which He wants His Family to conform. But we have brought traditions with us out of the world. They are southern traditions, northern traditions, California traditions, northwestern traditions, Texas traditions, and on and on it goes. It sets the stage for conflict, does it not? The traditions of God and the traditions that we have brought with us out of the world are in conflict! When we add to this our desire to be free, it really makes an almost interesting mess!

II Thessalonians 3:6 But we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you withdraw from every brother who walks disorderly and not according to the tradition which he received from us.

God has His traditions and the major difference is that His are right and true and they work! However, because conversion is a process and we do not instantly and magically know all of God's traditions, we all bring our former traditions into the church with us. Thus the church is set up for conflict and this is a major reason for the writing of the book of Ephesians. It shows there, that in order for there to be unity, both Israelite and Gentile have to submit to Christ because both of their cultures and traditions are wrong!

Again, point number one of why it is so difficult to submit is because we have been miseducated by the traditions of family, society, region, state, and nation. We carry those characteristics with us. I am not about to say that every one of them is wrong, but they do set us up for conflict with God, and with each other. Only the traditions of God are completely right and true and will produce the right things. And when there is conflict between the traditions that we have brought in to the church and God's traditions, we then have to submit to God because we are not freeto do as we please. If we do as we please because we put our own particular spin on what we think liberty is, it will bring us into conflict with God. And that is not nice! It is detrimental to one's spiritual health and one's relationship with God!

The second reason we have trouble is because our attitudes are perverted.

Ephesians 2:1-3 And you He made alive, who were dead in trespasses and sins, in which you once walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit [get that!] who now works in the sons of disobedience, among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh [notice what is driving human beings. This wicked spirit is motivating the lusts of our flesh], fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.

So there is a spirit that is characterized by desire (or we might say "lust") to have it our way. Miseducation combined with negative attitudes equals conflict. Human nature is a package of attitudes dominated by the desire to gratify the self. That is why there is so much conflict. You can check this out with James 4:1-3.

What happens is that our desires—whether it is husband and wife in marriage, or in business, or in politics among nations—keep crashing into one another. Conflict will never end until everyone is keeping the traditions of God. So we are in the process of conversion, in which it is our responsibility to convert over to God's traditions so that we are not crashing into one another. We have to overcome this miseducation and we have to overcome this attitude to gratify the self.

Satan, we see, is ultimately the source of both of these. We have to recognize that we are still influenced and that we pick up on his broadcasts. This is what makes submitting so difficult. The adversary is still working and he is bringing about conflict. Anywhere Satan goes there is going to be conflict. He is a master at producing it.

Liberty without guidelines (like laws, principles, doctrines, policies, or even the example of another person) to which one submits (meaning us as individuals through self-control or self-governing) will turn into chaos. Again, liberty without guidelines to which people, through self-control (we might say self-government) submit, will turn into chaos because of the desire for the power to control. The desire to control is what we would call freedom—liberty. That is why there are so many horrible divorces and re-marriages. Submission, whether accepted willingly or grudgingly, is a necessity. It is better to accept it and do it grudgingly than to not do it at all.

We have to understand, then, that there is authority. It may be God, it may be another human being, it may be in a law that is written, it may be in a circumstance, but there is going to be authority there, represented by something. It is an unavoidable fact of life. We are going to be facing it all the time. Everybody lives under authority and everybody must submit even if it is only to the law of nature. There is hardly a person who will not submit to the law of gravity while he is standing on the edge of a thousand-foot drop. It is that simple. And so, because we step away from the cliff and not over it, we have submitted to a law. Why? Because we want to preserve our liberty, our desire, to live. We know if we break that law—if we do not submit to it—it is going to crush us at the bottom of a thousand-foot drop. And so we submit.

On the way over here we had an interesting illustration: we saw two people go by on a motorcycle. The person on the back of the motorcycle was a young lady. She obviously did not dress for the circumstances for riding a motorcycle. She wore on her feet a pair of flip-flops. Most people who ride motorcycles wear boots. She wore shorts, not pants. She was hanging on for dear life with her arms wrapped around the stomach of the guy in front of her. This young lady was giving us a beautiful illustration of somebody who was not submitting to the laws of common sense. Should that bike have slid out from underneath them, her liberty would have been very severely restricted. She might not have gotten out even with her life, or maybe she would have suffered the loss of a leg or something else.

I want us to see this subject in broad application. Submission does not only involve relationships with God, or relationships with other people. Submission involves almost every area of life and it involves submitting to things we would call common sense or even the laws of nature. Anybody who has the mind of God is going to be looking for every opportunity to submit because that is where freedom lies.

Think back to John 8:32 where it says that you shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free. Is not the implication that you shall be free only if you submit to the truth? But knowing it is not enough. So He is saying that liberty comes to those who submit to the truth. If you are standing on the edge of a cliff and there is a thousand-foot drop there, common sense and the truth of God say that you obey the law of gravity—unless you want to give up your freedom to live. Are we all on the same wavelength? True liberty consists of submitting to truth. That is where liberty lies. And that is what God wants us to have.

But still we have great fear when dealing with people.

Proverbs 29:2 When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice; but when a wicked man rules, the people groan.

What if the ruler, what if the one to whom you are supposed to submit, is an oppressive person? What if he is not really oppressive; what if he is just incompetent or dumb and we know better how to do the job that he is supposed to be doing? What if the person is sexually immoral? What if the person is financially greedy? Does God still want us to submit? What protection do we have in these kinds of circumstances?

Proverbs 16:2 All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the spirits.

It might be an abomination, but those in authority do evil. They might have very serious character flaws which makes their victims get caught up in the effects of their flaws. What is so maddening is that these people justify their evil—seeing it as good—and they will turn around and they will blame the innocent for the evil that occurs.

For example, the proverb says that "all the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes." The incompetent man does not think to himself, "I am really dumb, stupid, idiotic, and I shouldn't even have this job." The sexually immoral person really does not see himself in that way. For instance, most prostitutes will say, "Yes, I'm doing something that's wrong according to the law, but I'm providing a service that is needed and wanted. If it wasn't needed and wanted there wouldn't be any business for what I'm doing." They justify themselves. They are pure in their own eyes. They may even come to the place where, if somebody leaves something of value on the front seat of an automobile and they take it (perhaps they are then caught an hour later), they will get around to blaming the person who was stupid enough to leave it on the seat of their car in the first place!

What if we are under the authority of one who thinks within these parameters? The chances are very great that every one of us either are now, or have been, because this proverb says that all the ways of a man are right, or pure, in his own eyes. He is going to think of justifications for what he does and the way he does it.

Look at the enemies of Jesus. They felt justified in taking His life on the grounds that He was stirring up the people. There was never anybody more innocent who ever lived on the face of the earth. And yet they justified what they were doing because the people were being stirred up by Him. They accused Him of being a revolutionary threat to community stability.

If we are in a position like this, where we are under an oppressive ruler who is justifying the way he is doing things and we are suffering the effects of what he is doing, we feel like powerless pawns being taken advantage of. We feel that the liberty to do what we want is being denied by this person. Is it really? The answer to this is both yes, and no. What we are going to have to do to get an answer here is to look at what Jesus did in similar circumstances. This is why I mentioned these people taking Jesus' life and justifying what they were doing. Again, they accused Him of being a revolutionary who was stirring up the people.

This next scripture is in the context of when Jesus was on trial for His very life before Pilate. This occurred after He was scourged

John 19:10 Then Pilate said to Him, "Are You not speaking to me? Do You not know that I have power to crucify You, and power to release You?"

He was at liberty to make the choice to do either. And he was a corrupt official. His record, according to secular history, was not at all good. He was what we would call today a mean ruler, corrupt.

John 19:11 Jesus answered, "You could have no power at all against Me unless it had been given you from above. Therefore the one who delivered Me to you has the greater sin."

I need to inject here that I am not talking about circumstances where somebody is demanding that you submit and, by doing so, break the law of God. I am not speaking about things that involve sin here, but simply submitting to somebody who is unreasonable and oppressive, but not requiring you to sin.

Jesus' response here is very meaningful to you and me. It shows very clearly His attitude, His approach, to every circumstance of His life. It is because of what we are going to see in this principle that I began my preaching, after I came out of the Worldwide Church of God, with the sermon that I did. I asked in that sermon, "Do you see God?" Is He really a part of your life? Is He really running this creation? Is He really sitting at the controls of things? Is He really aware of you, as an individual? Does He have every hair on your head numbered? Are you really the apple of His eye? Is your life really in His hands? Have you really given it to Him, or are you holding part of it in reserve?

"You could have no power at all against Me, unless it had been given you from above." Jesus saw life very clearly and very simply that God was in complete control of everything that was going on in the universe. It does not mean that everything was directed by Him in the sense that He was causing it to occur. But, nonetheless, Jesus believed with every fiber of His being that God was with Him all the time, everywhere, and at every moment. He believed that His life was in His hands and that Pilate would not be able to do one thing against Him except God would pass on it.

Would God allow us to have to submit, or be faced with submitting, to somebody who was cruel, hard-hearted, incompetent, sexually unbalanced and perverted, stupid, or financially greedy? Would He have us to live and work under such a person? We see it and it kind of grinds away at us.

Everything, carnally, in this situation at Jesus' trial and crucifixion looked as though it was totally stacked against Him. It appeared as though He had every right to rebel. "Do you not know to whom you are doing this?," He could have said. Instead He said, "You would not have the power to do anything except that My Father passed on this. And He is now looking at Me to see how I am going to respond. Am I going to submit to the authority that He has permitted to be in this position?"

Do we see God in our lives within these kinds of parameters? We have to begin to look at ourselves differently than the way the world does. And we have to decide whether we are in the hand of God or not. Do we have the faith to trust that we are, and that these constituted authorities are, too, in His hand? Do we believe that God is aware of what is going on and that He deeply cares about what we are going to do in each and every situation? He must know what kind of witness we are going to make.

Proverbs 24:21-22 My son, fear the Lord and the king; Do not associate with those given to change; for their calamity will rise suddenly, and who knows the ruin those two can bring?

It is an overall principle. He is saying, "Don't rebel! Have respect for God. Have respect for the authority that He has constituted to rule over the land—the king!" The warning can be taken two ways. One: when one rebels, the ruler and the rebel are ruined; "who knows the ruin those two can bring?" The other way is that the rebel may be ruined by the both of them. God wants us to know that there is no liberty in that direction.

Submitting is difficult because it—seemingly unfairly—involves giving up our rights to one whom we would judge not deserving of our submission. Or it often involves putting someone else's needs before our own. A right is that to which someone has a legal, moral, or traditional claim to.

One of the cries of this culture, this age in which we live, is that "we have our rights"—constitutional rights, women's rights, homosexual rights, etc. But democracy, for the most part, anyway, does not train us very well to submit. We have rather vague feelings about being just as good as the other fellow. That is the way we approach it; that is the impression our culture leaves. "Well, who is he? I'm just as good as he is!"

With that tendency to resist authority we, at the very least, submit with a resigned attitude—in a grudging way. This is what many of us do. In other words, we go along, but we do it begrudgingly and we hold in reserve the thought that we are just as good as the next guy.

We need to ask ourselves another question: "Is doing things in a grudging way all that good, either?" Here is where obedience can come into the picture rather than submission because we just comply. That is all, we simply comply. But maybe the heart and the mind is not changed—certainly not changed for the better. So we must ask ourselves, then, "Does obedience in a grudging way really lead to more liberty, more equality, or more prosperity?"

Judges 21:25 In those days there was no king in Israel; everyone did what was right in his own eyes.

For the purposes of this sermon, the most important phrase is, "there was no king." This begs the question, "why?" Why was there no king? I want us to think about the Israelites and their history—that which is recorded beginning in the book of Exodus and carrying right on through Numbers and Deuteronomy and on into the book of Judges. I want us to think about their conduct. I want us to think about their relationship with Moses, their relationship with Joshua, their relationship to the judges that were given to them by God. I want us to remember about the awful time, if I can put it that way, which they gave to Moses while they were in the wilderness. They would not submit! They brought with them the culture of Egypt! And they were never converted—they never changed! They would not submit to the traditions of God given to Moses in the wilderness and taught to them. So they were in conflict with the leader the whole while. When they entered into the land under Joshua and the judges this conduct never stopped.

Why was there no king? In reality there was—God was King! There was no king because they would not submit to anybody. These people in the book of Judges, we could say, were the freest society that ever existed on earth! "Everyone did that which was right in his own eyes." Is this not the kind of freedom toward which we seem to be headed in the United States—the kind of freedom where everybody is doing what is right in his own eyes? Do we not have central law and central authority and standards that are absolute and rock solid—to which everyone should look for guidance—being pooh-poohed? "We don't need those kinds of things!" So we espouse situation ethics. There was no king, meaning there is no recognized central authority to which one cares to submit.

In ancient Israel there was nobody to set standards, nobody to set goals for the nation, nobody to provide direction, nobody to administer programs, nobody to harmonize their efforts, nobody to provide for the common defense. The result? Chaos! And chaos continued until the people finally got it through their head that they needed a central authority. So they asked Samuel for a king. They did not ask for the right thing and it greatly upset Samuel.

What they should have asked was for Samuel to appeal to God that He take a more direct hand and send them prophets and priests and teachers to show them the right way. Instead they asked for a human king. But, you see, in their carnality, they finally came to the place where they recognized that if anything productive was going to be done, they would need a central authority.

The only time there was peace in the land was when God, in His mercy, would raise up a Gideon, or raise up a Jephthah, or raise up a Tola, or raise up a Samson. The people would then gather around that central authority and things calmed down for forty years, or for eighty years or so. But they would then reject the central authority and common standards, go back to their old way, and things would again fall into chaos.

I believe that these nations—the United States of America, and Canada, too—are being purposefully manipulated into a state of chaos so that the people will beg for a strong central authority to take over and restore peace. You just watch what is happening as our liberties are eroded away and we fall into the trap! You watch what happens, because that is what happened to the Israelites in the time of the judges!

Submitting is a word, it is a principle, which most Canadians and Americans have been educated to disrespect. This rises from our fear of being enslaved, or the feeling that one will be looked upon as weak—as a doormat—if they submit. God has called us from a culture in which "equality" is a buzzword that gets a great deal of attention.

Christ, who had every right a person could possibly have to exert His rights and authority, pointedly submitted to cruel and unusual treatment of the most extreme nature. And He committed Himself to Him who judges righteously. When we put Christ's example into the picture, I think that we can give an accurate definition of what God means by submitting: Biblical submission is respecting divinely appointed authority out of respect for Christ.

I want to examine a succession of scriptures that I think will build our understanding of this principle in the right way. Remember Christ's example in John 19 where His justification for acting the way He did was that Pilate did not have any authority to do what he did except that it was given to him by God.

Ephesians 5:21 . . . submitting to one another in the fear of God.

Why do we submit? It is out of respect for God. That is what Jesus did. He submitted to the authority of Pilate because of God.

Colossians 3:22-25 Bondservants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh, not with eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but in sincerity of heart, fearing God. And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ. But he who does wrong will be repaid for what he has done, and there is no partiality.

Is God involved? Do we see what the apostle Paul is doing? He is bringing the example of Christ, and Christ's attitude toward those who were in authority, all the way down to an employment level. We found in Ephesians 5:21 that he brought it down to a relationship within a congregation. But in either case the submitting was done out of respect for God—not because the authority was great, not because there was a better man or woman; it had nothing whatsoever to do with the character of the person who was in authority.

Our submission has everything to do with our relationship to God and what we know of Him and the purpose that He is working out. The biblical definition of submission is becoming very clear. This is in perfect harmony with Romans 12 where he says to "live with all men in peace" and, he also says there, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay!"

It is beginning to become very clear that submission is an act of faith. It has nothing at all to do with the quality of the person to whom we are submitting. It has nothing to do with his character. It does not matter whether he is a good guy or a bad guy. It does not matter whether or not we feel what he is doing is unjust. It may be very unjust—like the taking of the life of Christ was very unjust. But Christ submitted to whatever God permitted. And He did it out of fear, out of respect, out of faith that God had Him in His hands and that nothing was going to happen before its time. He knew God was concerned about the outcome of His life.

So then, biblical submission is respecting divinely appointed authority out of respect for Christ.

Are you familiar with an overview of the book of Romans? It is probably the most foundational, at least doctrinally, in terms of those teachings that have to do with salvation. Its material is presented in a very orderly fashion. Paul builds his case, one layer on top of another. He begins in chapter one by explaining to the Gentiles that they are sinners—they are no good! In chapter two he says, "You Jews are sinners, too. You're no good, either." In chapter three, in case anybody got left out, he says that "all have sinned and come short of the glory of God." This is the foundation. In chapter four he begins talking about faith. Chapter five introduces obedience. Chapter six addresses baptism. In chapter seven he talks about the law. Chapter eight he talks about the Holy Spirit. And then on through chapters nine, ten, and eleven he goes on a long digression about Israel.

When we get to chapter twelve he says, "Well, what are we going to do with all of this? We have all of this material, what are we going to do with it?" And so he gets to the ethical instruction in the book. The doctrinal teaching is ended, at least in a major way, and he asks, in effect, "What are you going to do; how are you going to conduct your life as a result of this salvation that God is giving us?" So he says:

Romans 12:1-2 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

What he is saying here is, "This is where we need to submit. Don't conform. Don't comply with the world, but instead we need to submit to God." Then he begins to address more specific areas where we need to submit.

Romans 12:14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.

Yes, even those who are in authority over us and who are corrupt. They are sinners. They may be wicked.

Romans 12:16 Be of the same mind toward one another [submitting to one another in the fear of God].

Romans 12:17-19 Repay no one evil for evil ["do not retaliate," he says]. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath, for it is written, Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.

Romans 12:21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Romans 13:1 Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God.

Now can we see where Paul got that? At the very least, he got that from the example of Christ, who submitted to wicked and corrupt officials and authorities. He had every right to rebel. He was completely innocent and had done nothing wrong—nothing of which He was accused had been part of His conduct. He had every intention of doing the right thing and He carried through with it.

What I want us to see is that the Christian consciously chooses to suffer evil rather than do evil because it would be wrong to do anything other than what Christ did. He set the example. He is the archetype. He is the one Who goes before.

The Christian is not a masochist, but by faith, he is taking a step to prevent war. He does this because he recognizes that two wrongs do not make a right. Just because someone abuses authority does not give us the right from God to fail to submit to it. That is why there is never any end to war. Somebody gets into power, somebody abuses authority, those who are under authority react carnally and retaliate and get back at those who are in authority—and the cycle never ends!

Is there ever going to be peace? There will be peace when people submit to God. And that means submitting to His way. If everybody would submit to God's way, war would stop overnight—that would be the end! But men will not submit to God. One of the major things we are to learn while we are here is to learn to submit under duress, under abuse—when the pressure is on and the desire to retaliate is at its strongest. We have to learn to not justify our retaliation by saying, "He made me do it—the Devil made me do it!" "All the ways of a man are right in his own eyes."

Submission is the freedom that comes from surrender. 

Paul surrendered his life to Christ who had surrendered his life to God. Paul said, “I have been crucified with Christ,” and as a result, the old Paul was dead, and it was Christ who lived in Paul from then on. The rest of Paul’s life was lived by faith in Christ who loved him and surrendered his life for him. Paul lived with tremendous freedom, boldness, passion, courage, and conviction. 

No one would mistake Paul’s surrendering his life to Christ and his submission to God’s will as producing a person who was weak or defeated. 

Submission is the freedom that comes from surrender. While the words submission and surrender may be negative words for many of us, spiritually speaking, submission and surrender are not only positive, they’re also essential. The purpose of submission is to free us.

Let’s begin with the understanding that in our relationships healthy submission is an act that’s expressed mutually, voluntarily, humbly, and out of desire to serve, bless, and help others. This is true in all Christian relationships. 

Ephesians 5:21 (NLT) tells us to, “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

The discipline of submission frees us from self-centeredness and allows us to consider the desires of others. 

Submission has nothing to do with being weak. It allows us to be strong enough to open our hearts to others. 

“The freedom that comes with submission “is the ability to lay down the terrible burden of always needing to get our own way. The obsession to demand that thigs go the way we want them to go is one of the greatest bondages in human society” (p. 111, Celebration of Discipline).

Submission or self-denial helps free us from the corrosive influence of pride, power, and self-pity. 

Most of the disagreements and struggles that occur in a family, school, work situation, church and politics have to do with people insisting on getting their own way. 

People will struggle, argue, get mad, lie, and occasionally leave a relationship because they don’t get their way. 

This is not to say that followers of Jesus should never have different opinions that need to be rationally discussed, analyzed, pondered, and considered. 

However, we also need to learn to practice the discipline of submission. 

That’s why our tool for today is a file because a file helps to smooth away sharp edges and helps pieces of wood to fit together better.

Richard Foster writes, 

“People will spend weeks, months, even years in a perpetual stew because some little thing did not go as they wished. They will fuss and fume. They will get mad about it. They will act as if their very life hangs on the issue. They may even get an ulcer over it. In the Discipline of submission, we are released to drop the matter, to forget it. Frankly, most things in life are not nearly as important as we think they are. Our lives will not come to an end if this or that does not happen.

“If you watch these things you will see that almost all church fights and splits occur because people do not have the freedom to give in to each other. We insist that a critical issue is at stake; we are fighting for a sacred principle. Perhaps this is the case. Usually it is not. Often we cannot stand to give in simply because it means we will not get our own way. Only in submission are we enabled to bring this spirit to a place where it no longer controls us. Only submission can free us sufficiently to enable us to distinguish between genuine issues and stubborn self-will.”[1]

I like the old story of the captain of the ship who looked out one dark night and saw a faint light in the distance. Immediately he told the signalman to send the message, “Alter your course ten degrees south.” Promptly a return message was received, “Alter your course ten degrees north.” 

Angry that he hadn’t gotten his way and that his order was being ignored, the captain sent a second message, “Alter your course ten degrees south – I am the Captain!” 

Quickly the answer came back, “Alter your course ten degrees north. I am a seaman third class.” The captain fired off a third and final message, “Alter your course 10 degrees south. I’m a battleship.” The reply came back, “Alter your course ten degrees north. I’m a lighthouse.”

Sometimes insisting on our own way can be harmful and dangerous. Getting what our stubbornness demands, being able to do whatever we want, refusing to seek and submit to God’s good desire for us can shipwreck our lives. 

In Psalm 81:11-12, God laments, 

“But my people did not listen to my voice; Israel would not submit to me. So I gave them over to their stubborn hearts, to follow their own counsels.” 

God equates submission with listening to God’s voice and acting on what is heard. Sometimes individuals can look at the same situation and see it completely differently, with both parties believing they have or see the will of God. In such cases, prayerful discernment, listening, seeking God’s leading in scripture, and among a larger group of believers may be necessary, as well as an openness to submitting our previous view for a new and even unexpected one. This may mean we have to have the maturity and grace to say we were wrong about something or someone.

The result of not listening to God and failing to submit our will to God’s will is that God lets us have our own way and all the consequences that go with it. God lets us follow our own stubborn hearts and our counsel and ideas. But like a heart sick parent God cries out Psalm 81:13, “O that my people would listen to me, that Israel would walk in my ways!”

Most things in life are not what I call “kingdom issues.” They simply don’t matter. In a nation and world trying to overcome a global pandemic, violence, the lust for power, the erosion of truth, hunger, illness, hatred, greed, and injustice, how important do you think the little decisions that we can invest so much time, energy, and emotional capital in truly are in God’s eyes? Whether one is putting together a program, marking policy decisions on a team or a board, choosing colors or light fixtures for a home remodel, ultimately most of it just doesn’t matter. 

How we treat one another is far more important.

However, for many people, our tendency is – at home, school, work, or church – whatever we care about, whatever we invest our time, energy, and passion in, we want everyone else to feel it’s just as important as we do. 

Then if someone doesn’t share our view, support our position, or if things don’t go our way we say, “It’s okay, I don’t care, it doesn’t matter, whatever we do is fine.” 

We may say that with our words, but our tone, expression and behavior often make it obvious that we do care, it does matter, and whatever we do is fine only if it is what we think should be done. We don’t want to alter our course by a single degree. Outwardly we may do what other people ask while inwardly we’re furious.

“The biblical teaching on submission focuses primarily on the spirit with which we view other people.”[2]

We’re to view other people with consideration, thoughtfulness, and humility. 

Some of us need to work on doing this more; too many powerful people don’t seem to do it at all. There is too much arrogance, snideness, and plain old meanness in our culture; it is especially harmful and distasteful in people who claim to be Christ followers. 

Paul says in Philippians 2.3-4 and Romans 12.16-18, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility regard others as better than yourselves. Let each of you look not to your own interests, but to the interests of others.” “Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly; do not claim to be wiser than you are. Do not repay anyone evil for evil, but take thought for what is noble in the sight of all. If it is possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” 

We can only live this way if we’ve surrendered to Christ and are living in the freedom that comes with submission.

Submission is an ethical theme that runs throughout the New Testament and it’s expected of all Christians. 

Regrettably, some people have used passages about submission in a Christian household from Ephesians 5:21-6:9 or 1 Peter 3:1-9 to put women or children down or even to try and excuse abuse in a marriage or other relationship. There’s no excuse for abuse under any circumstances. Period. 

Women, children, and slaves had few rights or privileges in Roman society, yet in Ephesians, Paul addresses them all as moral agents who could choose their attitude towards husbands, fathers, or masters. This was a radical statement to make at that time, as was telling men they needed to be subject to others out of reverence for Christ.

The reason we’re commanded to live lives of mutual submission regardless of our place in life, is because Jesus, who is our leader and our example, lived a life of submission. 

Jesus issues a call to submission to all who would follow him in Mark 8:34, “If any want to become my followers, let them deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.” 

The self-denial involved in following Jesus means, in part, we do not have to have our own way. That’s why we sang Adelaide Pollard’s hymn, Have Thine own way, Lord! Have Thine own way! Thou art the Potter, I am the clay. Mold me and make me after Thy will, While I am waiting, yielded and still.” 

Self-denial isn’t the same thing as loss of self. 

The paradoxical truth is the way to self-fulfillment is through self-denial. Self-denial is the freedom to give way to others. 

Not only do submission and self-denial help us deal with issues of pride and power, they also free us from self-pity. 

Just as we may submit outwardly but inwardly be angry, as I said earlier, there is also the temptation to submit outwardly, but inwardly be filled with a sense of self-pity and martyrdom which is really a spirit of self-indulgence.

The language of submission and self-denial is so absent from modern life that the words of great Christians sound to us like some thing from an alien of another world. In The Imitation of Christ, Thomas a Kempis wrote, “To have no opinion of ourselves, and to think always well and highly of others is great wisdom and perfection.” Ultimately, submission is about surrender.

Don’t take your title or position too seriously.

Jesus is Savior, Divine, the Risen King, Creator… Not one thing came into existence without Him (John 1:3). He is the embodiment of “Us” in “Let us make man.” (Genesis 1:26) Yet, his every move was to glorify His Father in Heaven.  Jesus was not confused by the association of authority, His place in the God-head, and knowing how to humble and honor the Supreme authority – God the Father.

He never got “pumped up” with pride that He was the Savior of the whole world, that He was the one who had to be crucified – not the Father or the Holy Spirit. Jesus never used his suffering as justification to ‘buck’ authority.

How often do we feel we have legitimate reasons to refuse to submit to authority?

So, don’t fight against authority when you feel you’ve contributed just as much as the other person.  When we work as “unto the Lord” as Jesus did for the Father (Colossians 3:23-24), the credit and reward will also come from the Lord, which is far better than any accolade or acknowledgment of man.

2. Don’t put your name on someone else’s vision or idea.

Did you know that we submit to authority by giving credit where credit is due? The will of my Father. Notice how Jesus made it perfectly clear that He came to do the will of His Father who sent Him (John 6:38). The humility and submission of Jesus never allowed Him to shine the light on Himself, but always to glorify Father God – the One in authority.

Teammate, are you passing someone else’s vision off as your own? Do you manipulate the work of others to shine the light on yourself?

When we submit to the authority of those over us, God will exalt us in due season with our own vision. Just be sure, Team, that when He does, we give all glory to God, none for ourselves.

3. Know when to question, how to question, and when to do what you’re told.

Jesus gives us the example of his complete submission to God in the Garden of Gethsemane (Matthew 26:36-46). There, He petitions God, “If it is possible”, to avoid the crucifixion and separation from the Father. The example here is HOW to ask questions of those in authority.

First, notice Jesus asks – not tells God what to do. Jesus does not attack God’s thought process or solution, but remains in a posture of “not my will, but yours”.

How do you handle those in authority with competing interests or strategies?

Second, Jesus accepts the Father’s decision. After receiving the final answer and peace from the Father, Jesus rises up and falls in line with God’s plan.

When exercising honor to those in authority, we have to know when we’ve done enough asking, suggesting, crying, or made enough recommendations contrary to the original marching order – and just get it done!

In our walk with Christ, God also asks us to do things that will cause us pain, suffering, and sacrifice. It is not our job to critique God or consider Him mean and unjust. God did not ask our opinion or permission for Him to be God, nor for Him to be the righteous judge.

But, trust that He will never leave us nor forsake us, and the hard tasks will not be faced alone. God helps us through every opportunity to give Him glory – both painful and pleasant.

So, what’s the play call?

Here’s to submission to authority that’s easier to manage, and do so with grace and honor. Our Coach has lead us by word and example. Let’s get it done!

Gentleness Identified

Biblical Definition

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness . . .” (Galatians 5:22–23). The word gentleness in Galatians 5:23 comes from the Greek word praotes. It is probably the most difficult of the attributes to define, since it speaks of an inward attitude rather than external action. The three main ideas of gentleness as the fruit of the Spirit are these:

1. Submission to the will of God. This is what Jesus was talking about in Matthew 11:29, when He said, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Here Jesus describes Himself as having gentleness and humility. Both of these are characteristics of one who has submitted totally to the will of God.
2. Teachableness. This is willingness to learn, or not being too proud to learn. James 1:21 speaks of this: “Humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.”
3. Being considerate. Most often praotes is used in reference to showing consideration, moderation, calmness, or care, or bearing with others because of love.

Gentleness is the opposite of harshness. It is to be moderate, peaceful, and submissive without the idea of weakness or inferiority. There is nothing cowardly about gentleness—in the Bible we see it related to courage, fortitude, and resolution. Moses was a very gentle man, but at the same time he was ready to move and act in times of difficulty.

Praotes describes a condition of mind and heart which is spiritual in nature and is a fruit of power. In Galatians 6:1the apostle Paul says, “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.” Being spiritual in the biblical sense means to be indwelt, controlled, and directed by the Holy Spirit instead of the human spirit. This is the sort of gentleness described by Paul in 1 Timothy 6. In verse 11, he says that the man of God must, among other things, be gentle. But in the next verse Paul tells Timothy to “fight the good fight of faith” (v. 12).

Gentleness and firmness go together. The French have a saying, “One must have hands of steel in gloves of velvet.” Paul himself was like a tender mother caring for and feeding her children (see 1 Thessalonians 2:7). But when the Corinthians challenged his spiritual authority as an apostle of Jesus Christ, he asked them: “What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a whip, or in love and with a gentle spirit?” (1 Corinthians 4:21). As a man who bore the fruit of the Spirit, he could combine both firmness and gentleness.

Secular Definitions

Xenophon (434–355 B.C.) was a historian, essayist, and soldier. He used praotes to describe the brotherly understanding which develops between soldiers who have been fighting together for a long time.

Plato (427–347 B.C.) was a brilliant Greek philosopher. He used praotes in the sense of politeness and courtesy, adding that those two virtues are the cement that holds together the human society. He also used the term to describe a tamed thoroughbred horse who uses its strength for its master’s desires and needs. Its strength becomes more beneficial as it is disciplined. Perhaps Jesus had this in mind when He said, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me” (Matthew 11:29).

Socrates (470–399 B.C.) was another brilliant Greek philosopher. He used the term praotes to compare between scolding and gentleness. He also used the term of animals which, after being tamed, accepted discipline.

Aristotle (384–322 B.C.), another great Greek philosopher, defined praotes as the balance between too much anger, or the proneness to anger, and not enough anger, or the incapacity to feel anger. In other words, praotes, according to Aristotle, is the quality of a man who is always angry at the right time and never angry at the wrong time. It is the proper self-control of anger.

These secular definitions help us to understand better the significance of the word praotes used by the apostle Paul to describe the spiritual fruit which we call gentleness.

Gentleness Described

God’s Gentleness

Gentleness should be an essential mark and characteristic of Christians, the followers of Jesus, because every Christian is born of the Spirit, who dwells within him. Our God is a gentle God. Why, then, does the psalmist say that God is a righteous God who expresses anger every day (Psalm 7:11)? God’s anger is only against sin and evil, and it does not affect His love and compassion for us. This is divine gentleness. Human anger is often sinful. That is why Ephesians 4:26warns us, “In your anger do not sin.” At the same time Scripture instructs us to “hate what is evil” (Romans 12:9). God is our example of perfect gentleness combined with firmness.

Jesus was gentle and humble (Matthew 11:29), but this does not mean He was indifferent about things that were wrong. In an earlier lesson we saw that when He found merchants desecrating the house of God, He made a whip of cords and drove them out of that sacred place (John 2:15–16). He could with force remove from the temple men who were profaning it, and another time forgive a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery (John 8:10–11). He illustrated that gentleness as the fruit of the Spirit is combined with strength—it has nothing to do with weakness.

Jesus taught that gentleness would be an essential mark of discipleship in the Church Age. When a Samaritan village would not welcome Jesus, some of His disciples asked if He wanted them to call fire down from heaven to destroy the village. Jesus rebuked them, saying, “Ye know not what manner of spirit ye are of. For the Son of Man is not come to destroy men’s lives, but to save them” (Luke 9:55–56, KJV). In other words, He was reminding His disciples that the gospel message was the ministry of the Holy Spirit, and therefore would be ministered in gentleness (see also 2 Corinthians 3:8).

The gentleness of Jesus is strikingly portrayed in John 13:5. Here Jesus humbled himself to wash the feet of His disciples as an example to them of the principle of “servant” ministry.

Jesus’ greatest demonstration of the gentleness of the Holy Spirit upon Him is seen in the hours prior to His crucifixion. His prayer was one of total submission to the will of the Father, even though that meant suffering and death (Matthew 26:39). He could have called for twelve legions of angels to rescue Him at the time of His arrest, but He willingly allowed the soldiers to capture Him (vv. 50–54). When He was accused by the chief priests and the elders, He made no answer, not even to a single charge (Matthew 27:14). The eternal Lamb of God, in a spirit of love and gentleness, gave himself willingly to atone for the sins of all humanity. In gentleness He spoke words of forgiveness from the cross for those who had crucified Him.

Biblical References to Gentleness

Often in the Bible gentleness is linked with other attributes or contrasted to wrong practices. These references give us important guidelines as to the manifestation of the fruit of gentleness in our lives. We want to consider some of these and their message for us.

Gentleness versus sin. “The Lord sustains the humble [gentle] but casts the wicked to the ground” (Psalm 147:6). The Hebrew word for gentleness is translated as “humble” in this passage. Here the psalmist contrasts the gentle person with the wicked person. The inference is that a gentle or humble spirit is a restraining influence against sin. Gentleness as the fruit of the Holy Spirit will serve as a safeguard against sin in our lives.

Gentleness and meekness. In 2 Corinthians 10:1 the apostle Paul made an appeal to the Corinthians “by the meekness and gentleness of Christ.” Meekness in this passage refers to bearing injury with patience and without resentment. Gentleness refers to mildness in manners or disposition—the opposite of harshness, sternness, violence, or roughness. Paul did not want to deal harshly with those who were living by the standards of the world, but he was ready to defend the gospel and his ministry above everything else. His approach was that of a loving brother who wanted to give the wrongdoers every opportunity to make things right in a spirit of submission and obedience.

Gentleness and humility. Gentleness is not possible without humility. Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Being humble is the opposite of being proud or boastful. It is an attitude of submission and deference to others.

Gentleness and wisdom. “Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility [praotes] that comes from wisdom” (James 3:13). Praotes, which is translated as “gentleness” in Galatians 5:23, is translated as “humility” in this passage. The wise man is a humble, gentle man. Again, this speaks of a spirit of submissiveness or teachableness, which is an evidence of the fruit of gentleness.

Gentleness and quietness. In 1 Peter 3:1–6 the apostle exhorted wives to be submissive to their husbands, so that if any of them were unbelievers, they would be won over by the purity and reverence they saw in their wives. Peter went on to say that a wife’s beauty should not depend on how she adorns herself outwardly, but “it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” (v. 4). The word praotes includes the idea of something calming and soothing as a balm. While this passage is directed to wives in particular, the principle applies to all of us—a gentle, quiet spirit will do more to attract the unbeliever to Jesus Christ than any argument or outward display of religious superiority.

Gentleness and salvation. “For the Lord takes delight in his people; He crowns the humble with salvation” (Psalm 149:4). In this Old Testament passage the word humble is from the Hebrew word for gentle. In the New Testament we see this connection again: “Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent, and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you” (James 1:21). The word humbly in this passage is translated from praotes. It means gentleness from the Spirit that causes us to surrender to the Lord, preparing the ground for the Word of God to sprout within us, so that we will bear abundant fruit. Matthew 13 speaks of ground that the seed could not penetrate because it was too hard and dry. The heart can become this way because of rebellion against God. The humble heart has been softened by gentleness, so it can accept the Word which brings salvation.

Gentleness and guidance. “He guides the humble [gentle] in what is right and teaches them his way” (Psalm 25:9). This guidance is in two ways: a way before men and a way leading to heaven. In this verse God promises His blessing in both ways: in what is right (before men) and in His own way (before himself).

Gentleness Illustrated

Examples of Gentleness

We could give many examples of the fruit of gentleness or the lack of it in the lives of God’s people in the Old Testament and in the early church. As you read of events in the Bible, you might ask yourself whether gentleness is a characteristic of the people involved. Where a lack of gentleness is evident, you might consider how the story could have had a more positive result if this fruit had been manifested. We will give only a few examples here.

Abraham. A remarkable example of gentleness in settling a dispute is seen in these words of Abraham to Lot:

So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herdsmen and mine, for we are brothers. Is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left” (Genesis 13:8–9).

At first sight it seems that Abraham is losing ground. But the end of the story is that the Lord prospered Abraham, who gave Lot first choice! Abraham’s son Isaac followed his father’s example in order to settle a quarrel over wells (see Genesis 26:20–26). He, too, was blessed by the Lord (v. 24).

Moses. Numbers 12:3 says that “Moses was a very humble [gentle] man, more humble than anyone else on the face of the earth.” There are many examples of his meekness. Exodus 15:24–25 tells how the people grumbled against Moses, and immediately he turned to the Lord. Again in Exodus 17:3–4 the same thing occurred, and once again Moses went to the Lord. The next time the people cried out against Moses, God defended him and spoke directly to Aaron and Miriam in behalf of His servant Moses. Here we are taught that the Lord upholds the meek and gentle. In Numbers 16 we are told of a rebellion against Moses as the leader. Once again his gentleness was manifested, and God defended him.

Paul. As we have already seen, the apostle Paul often wrote about the importance of a gentle spirit. This fruit of the Spirit was regularly manifested by Paul in his dealings with those under his charge, and in his submission to the will of his Lord and Savior. Before his conversion he was an angry, militant man who desired to destroy those who were following after Christ. But after his conversion he lived and taught the gospel message of love and compassion, in gentleness and humility.

Practical Applications

Gentleness is essential for effective ministry for the Lord. God has chosen us to represent Him to a lost and dying world. What the world sees in us is what will draw people to Jesus Christ. All of the aspects of gentleness—submission, teachableness, consideration, control of anger—are necessary elements of our Christian witness and service, whether witnessing to the lost, making disciples for Jesus, or restoring a weak brother.

Witnessing and sharing. In 1 Peter 3:15–16 we are given this instruction for sharing Christ with others:

But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.

Remember that the kingdom of God is not forced into the heart—it is admitted. If Jesus had wanted to force His kingdom upon the world He would have done so in the Garden of Gethsemane. Gentleness as the fruit of the Spirit is closely related to our effective witness for Christ. An inconsiderate Christian may drive away from the kingdom of God someone who is lost. He tries to force his opinions on others, rather than show the gentleness that comes through Jesus Christ. On the other hand, a loving, considerate Christian, by his behavior alone, will cause the ungodly to be ashamed of their evil words against him, and they will be attracted to Christ by his gentle witness.

Making disciples for Jesus. Salvation is the work of God alone, but making disciples is the responsibility of the church.

A vital element in this teaching ministry is gentleness as the fruit of the Spirit:

Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct. (2 Timothy 2:23–25)

Sometimes, in the process of making disciples, someone arises to contradict us. We are not to allow ourselves to be distracted by foolish arguments, but instead we must call upon the Holy Spirit to produce His fruit of gentleness in us, so that we may teach the truth in kindness and firmness. Arguments reach only the head. Gentleness reaches the heart. In the world it is rare to combine gentleness with correction, but in the church of God it is possible through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Restoring a weak brother. “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently” (Galatians 6:1). To assist and discipline a faulty brother, praotes as the fruit of the Spirit is required. If someone is overtaken in a fault, he must be corrected. But the correction must be done with gentleness, and this is only possible by one who is spiritual.

Rewards of Gentleness

In Psalm 37:11 are these words: “But the meek [gentle] will inherit the land and enjoy great peace.” In this Scripture verse are mentioned two rewards of gentleness. One is future— those who have the fruit of gentleness produced in them by the Holy Spirit will possess the kingdom of God in its full expression and manifestation when the King comes. The other is for the present—great peace to enjoy. Sometimes people get what they want through great effort and scheming. But in the kingdom of God the saints inherit their blessing from the Lord by their gentleness. Jesus confirmed this when He set forth the guidelines of the Kingdom He came to establish (Matthew 5:5).

We will see other rewards of gentleness on a daily basis in the response of those around us to our gentle spirit. Think about occasions when the fruit of gentleness in your life would have made a difference. Ask the Holy Spirit to produce this fruit in you abundantly. Then you can truly be submissive to the will of the Lord, teachable, able to control your anger properly, and able to be kind and considerate in your relationships.

What Is The Biblical Concept Of Submission?

The Holy Scripture has a lot to say about obedience[1] and submitting to a “higher being.” James 4:7 tells us to submit ourselves to God. Additionally, 1 Peter 2:13–14, Romans 13:1–7, Titus 3:1, and Hebrews 13:17 are verses that also demonstrate this idea. Simply put, the Lord is the highest authority, and He delegated authority to others. Therefore, to fully submit to God, we must surrender to the authority that God has bestowed over us.

According to Ephesians, the husband must “love” his wife, and she must be submissive to her loving husband as unto God (Ephesians 5:22–25). In the same way, Apostle Peter advises, “Young men, be subservient to the ones who are older. Everyone of you, dress yourself in humility, since God condemns the arrogant but grants grace to the meek” (1 Peter 5:5). God means that without humility, we can’t follow Jesus and submit to Him.

What Does It Mean To Submit Ourselves To God?

We recognize God as the God of our lives when we surrender to and fear Him. We need to decide to obey and follow Jesus everywhere He goes by letting go of our own aspirations, ambitions, and interests. As Proverbs 3:5-7 reads, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear God, and turn away from evil.”

It is simpler to give in to and pursue our sinful nature than it is to submit to Jesus and obey God for his name’s sake. Though submission to God is more burdensome and requires a lot of self-control, it is the proper thing to do. The Holy Spirit could assist Christians in submission to God. The Spirit is Godbecause He is the Third Person of the Trinity.

How Are We To Submit To God?

We should be entrusting everything to God. As Jesus once said to us, “Anyone who aspires to be my follower must give up their own will, take up their daily cross, and obey me” (Luke 9:23). To submit to God, both sacrificing ourselves and pursuing Him are required. We are not genuinely submitting to God unless these two things are done.

Let us cast off all of our fears and resist the devil and resist the temptations that so easily entrap us. And let us remain focused on Jesus, the founder and source of our faith, as we undertake the challenge that has been laid out for us.

In What Ways Can We Submit Ourselves To God?

Salvation is one way to submit to God. By accepting Christ as our Savior, God’s Son, and the right hand of the Father, who resurrected from the grave to grant us eternal life, or salvation, we start the process of surrendering to God. According to Romans 10:9, if we openly acknowledge Christ as our Lord and firmly hold to the notion that God actually did resurrect Him from the grave, we will be redeemed.

How we interact with others is another way we submit to God and Jesus. Ephesians 5:21, for instance, urges “submitting to one another out of reverence for Jesus Christ.” Our acts should demonstrate Christ’s love and mercy to others, whether as a wife or husband or in how we treat others. Jesus further stated in Matthew 25:40 that what we do to the least is what we do to God: “Indeed, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.”

2 Steps To Fully Submit To God

1. Submit Our Mind, Heart, And Soul

Submit Our Mind

The Lord examines all the matter of our world views, opinions, and beliefs through our minds. Thus, in order to become His disciples and followers, we must surrender our minds to the living and abiding Word of God as well as to the Holy Spirit.

We should unceasingly pray to our Father in Heaven that we will never be swayed by the lies of new teachings here on earth but rather that they teach us hope, wisdom and values with respect to Him. As Romans 8:6–7 reads, “For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace. For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot.”

Submit Our Heart

Our motivation point for making life decisions comes from our hearts, and if we want our perverse hearts changed to “a good conscience and a genuine faith,” we must submit them to God for restoration. As Proverbs 28:14 proclaimed, “Blessed is the one who fears the Lord always, but whoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity.” The Lord searches for the pure truth in our full submission through what’s inside our hearts.

Submit Our Soul

Our soul is what gives us our identities as humans and gives us our individuality. The Bible warns that if we die and we don’t cleanse our souls of sin and have a “new birth,” our souls will perish. Peter taught us, “Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart since you have been born again…” (1 Peter 1:22-23)

2. Submit Our Egotistical Desires And Aims

Humans all have a need to be liked, but after being born again, we must now fight to focus solely on honoring Him. This “law waging war against the law of our minds” (Romans 7:23) is the daily human battle that we should all struggle to win for the glory because “the earth is the Lord’s, and the fullness thereof…” (Psalm 24:1).

Conclusion

All aspects of our lives should belong to and be brought under God’s complete control through worship and submission. By honoring God’s Word and Him with our sincere faith, deeds, decisions, and lives, we show the world that Christ is the real ruler of our destinies. Through this, God will give us peace, joy, and a new spirit within us because he has the authority to do so.

In order to progress spiritually, we must choose to listen and submit to God while we are learning His word. It is a daily task of humble obedience that must be completed. It is not enough to submit to God occasionally or just because we “feel like doing it,” instead we have to submit to Him each day with all of our might and desire.

The English term, submit, is translated from the Greek word, hupotasso, meaning, “to order under”. A Greek lexicon defines it as, “to cause to be in a submissive relationship, to subject, to subordinate” (BDAG, 1042.). The first important Scripture to examine in regards to submission is James 4:7. Not many argue about the meaning of “submit” in this passage. We are to submit, obey, or humble ourselves before God (1 Peter 5:6-8). This is understandable since He is our Creator, our Lawgiver, our Redeemer and our Judge. Those who do not submit to God (unbelievers) will receive their just punishment (Romans 10:3). Love for God demands action - we must keep His commandments (John 14:15; 1 John 5:2-3). Thus, we submit our will (what we want to do) to His Will (what He wants us to do) – (1 Corinthians 16:16). Now, a logical conclusion to draw from this truth is that if we are submitting ourselves to God, we are obeying His commandments, including the commandments for us to submit to others.

Who is commanded to submit to someone else in the Bible? The quick answer is everyone! The inspired writers of the New Testament epistles mention this subject in most of their letters. Paul writes for all to submit to governing authorities (Romans 13:1; Titus 3:1). Peter also states that we are to submit to the laws of the land in which we live because these laws are for the punishment of evildoers (1 Peter 2:13-14). As Christians, we should be striving to obey the laws our government has issued – unless, of course, those laws are contrary to God’s Law (Acts 5:29). We cannot be good influences on others when they see us disobeying laws, such as breaking traffic laws, tax evasion, or unauthorized downloading of music or movies for free off the Internet. We bring glory to God – we are submitting to Him – when we obey the authorities that govern us.

Secondly, servants are commanded to submit to their masters (Ephesians 6:5; 1 Peter 2:18; Colossians 3:22). This is not an endorsement for slavery as skeptics want to propose, but rather stating that if we find ourselves in some form of service, we should do our work to the best of our ability as we are working for the Lord. Certainly, we who hold secular jobs can apply this to our relationship with our bosses, companies, or any workplace. If we rebel against our bosses’ authority, we are not fearing God, the Master of us all (Colossians 3:22).

Other commandments dealing with submission are concerned more specifically with the relationship between Christians or home-life. Hebrews 13:17admonishes the Christians to “obey those who rule over” them “being submissive”. We can conclude that “those who rule over” them are the elders of the local congregations because they “watch out for their souls, who must give account”. When the elders of the congregation make decisions in matters of opinion concerning worship and activities of the church, we should want to follow their lead trusting they are doing what is best for the Lord’s church. Peter gives a similar commandment in 1 Peter 5:5. He instructs the elders (those who have the responsibility of shepherding the flock – also described as bishops, presbyters, shepherds) in the first four verses (1 Peter 5:1-4) and then tells the younger ones to submit to elders (most likely older people in general). Other passages instruct the younger to submit to the older, such as children obeying their parents in Colossians 3:20, Ephesians 6:1, and 1 Timothy 3:4. God is pleased when the younger generations honor and respect the older generations and when His flock submits to their shepherds as they serve the Head Shepherd.

Both Paul and Peter in their writings command the wife to submit to her husband (1 Peter 3:1-5; Ephesians 5:22; Colossians 3:18). Also, women are commanded to submit to men in the assembly – that is, not to be the speaker over men in mixed assemblies (1 Timothy 2:11; 1 Corinthians 14:34). God, the Creator, has given each of us responsibilities and certain roles in which to function. He gave the serious responsibility of spiritual leadership to the man (1 Timothy 2:8; Ephesians 5:23-25). When we obey God by submitting to our husband’s leadership in the home and the men’s in the assembly, we are following God’s design. Again, we are submitting to Him when we obey His commandments concerning our duty to submit to others.  

The New Testament uses hupotasso two other times. Christians are commanded to submit to one another in humility and in the fear of God (Ephesians 5:21; 1 Peter 5:5). This “submit to one another” has lead many to some wrong conclusions. Firstly, it has been proposed by some that Christians are submitting to each other when true love is displayed among His people. Certainly, love is the distinguishing characteristic of God’s people (John 13:35, 15:17; Romans 12:10; 1 John 4:7). We should serve others selflessly. This is not submission, however. Parents love their children, making sacrifices for them, but they do not submit to the children. Likewise, elders are to lovingly serve the congregation they shepherd - but the elders do not submit to the members.

Secondly, many have wrongly assumed that since all Christians are to be submissive to one another only in the sense of loving one another, then that somehow cancels out the passages that command women (or wives) to be in submission to men (or husbands). Let’s remember that the Scriptures are all-inspired by God and do not contradict – they complement. If it is the case that “submit to one another” negates the command for the wife to submit to her husband or the women in the corporate assembly to submit to the men, then it would follow that all other commandments involving submission would be made null and void as well. Children would not be required to submit to parents or any adult, members would not need to submit to their elders, and citizens would not have to submit to their governing authorities!

So, what does the Holy Spirit mean by “submit to one another”? Let’s notice the context around these two verses (Ephesians 5:17-22; 1 Peter 5:1-5). Paul and Peter are admonishing Christians to adhere to certain Christ-like characteristics. In the Ephesians passage, Paul points out ways in which we practice being filled with the Spirit (namely, speaking to one another, singing, giving thanks, and submitting). This is followed by verse 22: “wives submit to your own husbands” and chapter 6: “children obey your parents” and “servants be obedient to your masters”. Clearly, He is giving more specific instructions in the area of submission. Similarly, in the 1 Peter passage, Peter first covers the role of elders leading the flock and the younger people submitting to the elders before making the more general statement, “be submissive to one another”. Notice also, Peter already stated that Christians are to submit to “every ordinance of man”, for servants to be submissive, and the wife to submit to her husband (1 Peter 2:13,18, 3:1). Thus, the context of both passages must be considered and studied to see the “big picture”.     

In conclusion, it is evident that submission is important in every Christian’s life. Christians must strive daily to submit to God and keep His commandments. It is a necessary trait in our lives as women who are members of His body. It is commanded in our everyday lives as citizens of a particular nation. It is required in our relationship with our husband. It is commanded in our worship to God as the men lead in the mixed assembly. This is how we submit to one another. Submission may still be a negative term to some, but the Scriptures tell us that our Savior, Jesus Christ submitted to the Father as “He humbled Himself and became obedient to death” (Philippians 2:5-8, Hebrews 5:8). Does His submission make Him unequal with God somehow less important? Certainly not! Our Savior came to do the will of the Father and He is our example. His life exemplifies the most beautiful life. Submission, God’s way, is beautiful! May we all submit to God’s inspired Word and fulfill His commandments in order to bring glory to His holy name.

• As a child Jesus submitted to His parents (Luke 2:51)
• The demons submitted to the authority of the seventy Jesus sent out (Luke 10:17,20)
• Everyone is to submit to the governing authorities (Rom 13:1,5)
• The Church submits to the headship of Christ (Eph 5:24)
• Wives submit to their husbands (Eph 5:24)
• Servants were to submit to their masters (1 Pet 2:18)
• All angelic authorities and powers are submitted to Christ (1 Pet 3:22)
• Young men are to submit to those older within the Church (1 Pet 5:5) 
• And, as we see in this passage in Eph 5;21, we all are to submit to one another.

Part of the issue with this word submit or submission comes from a wrong understanding of how it is lived out. For example, take the Islamic religion. The word Islam means 'submission' and the whole society is founded on it with fear, judgment and sometimes death for those who do not submit. Often we think of 'submission' in a dictatorship and legalistic way. A way without love. But it is far from that. Jesus taught us practically about submission. Though He was the King of Kings, He came as a servant and taught us to do the same. You will no doubt remember the time when James and John wanted to exalt themselves and be seated at the right and left hand of Jesus in the age to come. Instantly you had ten other disciples completely 'ticked off' with James and John! How did Jesus respond? Well, with something that is important for all believers, everywhere, in all ages:

Mar 10:42-45 Jesus called them together and said, "You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. (43) Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, (44) and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. (45) For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many."

In other words, serve one another. Submit to one another. Consider others better than yourself. How opposite this is to the spirit of the age! And yet it comes straight from the very character of God Himself. There is a willing submission within the Godhead which extends even to the age to come for we read of Jesus:

1Co 15:25-28 He must reign until he has put all his enemies under his feet. (26) The last enemy to be destroyed is death. (27) For he "has put everything under his feet." Now when it says that "everything" has been put under him, it is clear that this does not include God himself, who put everything under Christ. (28) When he has done this, then the Son himself will be made subject (same Greek word as Submit) to him who put everything under him, so that God may be all in all.

Some use this to say that Jesus is not God, or that He is a 'lessor God' (not that there can actually be such a thing because the Bible is clear that there is only one God). But this verse doesn't mean that at all. Willing submission does not mean inferiority in any way. There is simply a willing and beautiful submission within the Godhead. The Son didn't come to exalt Himself but to glorify the Father and do His will. The Spirit didn't come to draw attention to Himself but to glorify the Son. And we are all called to submission. Peter does a good job at summing up what it means. Note it's connection with humility.    

1Pe 5:5-6 Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.

An example - Wives to their husbands

Eph 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. (23) For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. (24) Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Paul now gives an example within the home. Wives are instructed to submit to their husbands who is their head. The word 'head' has the thought of 'top, chief, leader'. The model or example given is how the church submits to Christ who is the Head of the Church. So what type of relationship is that? Christ is our head. He is the authority and leader for the believer. We submit to His rule. This is pretty clear for He is God and dwells seated above all rule and authority. And yet... and here is the amazing thing... He is not a hard dictator. He is not an authoritarian. Though having all authority, He operates with believers in love. Now granted sometimes He disciplines those He loves. But it is all still through love. Well respected Bible teacher J. Vernon McGee writes well stating:

I have been doing some research on the word submit, and I have some rather startling things to tell you. The word submit relative to wives needs to be understood a little differently from the way it has been so often interpreted in the past. It is not, "Wives, obey your husbands." Submit is a very mild word. It is a loving word. It means to respond to your own husband as unto the Lord. The way we respond to the Lord is that we love Him because He first loved us. And notice that it says "unto your own husbands." A very personal, loving relationship is the ground for submission. Paul is definitely speaking to believers about Christian marriage... "The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church." In what way? It is a love relationship, and the husband is to be the head for the sake of order. You will find in this section of Ephesians that there are four different areas in which there is headship for the sake of order. Wives are to be subject to their husbands. Husbands are to be subject to Christ. Children are to be subject to parents. Servants are to be subject to masters. It is to be a sweet subjection, a willing subjection to someone who loves you. It is to be that kind of relationship. If there is no love in it, the idea of submission isn't worth a snap of the finger. 
J. Vernon McGee

Again, we often think of submission from a worldly or negative point of view instead of seeing it as something beautiful, something godly, something ordained by God for our good. In Christ, we are all one. There is no male and female, Jew or Gentile, nor slave and free. Yet God has still given earthly relationships and roles for the sake of maintaining order. And in the relationship of a marriage, God has placed the man as the head who has the ultimate responsibility and authority for looking after the family. This, as we shall see, comes with a very important and, well, huge duty towards his wife... 

Husbands - you have more responsibility

Eph 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (26) to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, (27) and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

Husbands, love your wives. 'Ok' you say, 'that sounds easy enough', 'But to what degree?' Oh, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. 'Oh' you say. 'Um.... is there a second option?' I like what the Believers Bible Commentary says on this:  

Husbands are not told to keep their wives in subjection; they are told to love their wives just as Christ also loved the church. It has been well said that no wife would mind being submissive to a husband who loves her as much as Christ loves the church. Someone wrote of a man who feared he was displeasing God by loving his wife too much. A Christian worker asked him if he loved her more than Christ loved the church. He said no. “Only when you go beyond that,” said the worker, “are you loving your wife too much.” 
William MacDonald

Now we should note what type of love it is talking about here. In the Bible, there are four main Greek words for love:

1. Eros - this is a romantic, sensual, passionate love.
2. Storge - this is family love. It speaks of the loving bonds between family members. 
3. Philia - this is a brotherly love between one another and speaks of friendship, care and affection towards each other, 
4. Agape - this is the highest love. It is a selfless, sacrificial and unconditional love. It is not based on emotions but the mind. It is often used for God's love towards us (John 3:16) but should also denote the believers love for one another (John 13:35)  

So which of these does Paul use to describe the type of love that a husband should have for his wife? It is the highest love - agape. That is not to say that other types are not present. Surely they will be and need to be! But Paul focuses on 'agape' the selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love as the one that should denote the husbands devotion to his wife. Wow... no pressure husbands! How you going with that? But again, what is the example for this? It is Jesus. It is His sacrificial love for the Church and it's individual members that forms the basis for how we should love. We love, because He loved us first. Husbands love their wives, with agape love, because of the agape love they experience from Christ. And it is likely to be in proportion to what they are receiving. 

Now note the past, present and future tenses of Christ's love for His Church because it is not something done and dusted... no, it's ongoing! 

What Christ did, does and will do for His bride, the Church

• The past (justification) - 'Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her' That is the ultimate agape sacrificial love right there that can never be topped in all of eternity! Of all the things He could have given, 'He gave... Himself... up for her' Totally selfless, unconditional and sacrificial. Amazing.    
• The present (sanctification) - 'Cleansing her by the washing with water through the word' There is a single cleansing that occurs at salvation which instantly makes a believer fit for heaven. And there is an ongoing cleansing that makes that believer fit for earth... right now. This present, ongoing cleansing is through the washing of His word. As we read and meditate on His word, are minds are renewed with His truth and it is likened to washing our bodies with water, removing the dirt from this world.  
• The future (glorification)- 'To present her to himself as a radiant church'² - Here is the glorious future for the Church. The groom presenting a perfect radiant bride to Himself. 'For the joy set before Him he endured the cross' (Heb 12:2) - This is that joy of His... the presenting of His glorious bride!

As an example from the Old Testament, these three aspects can be seen in the lives of three prominent beautiful brides in the Bible. Namely, Ruth, Esther and Rebekah.

• Ruth & the past sacrifice of Boaz - The past sacrifice of Christ is typified in the book of Ruth where Boaz is willing to pay the price the price to redeem Ruth and marry her. Then Boaz said to the elders and all the people, "You are witnesses today that I have bought from the hand of Naomi all that belonged to Elimelech and all that belonged to Chilion and Mahlon. "Moreover, I have acquired Ruth the Moabitess, the widow of Mahlon, to be my wife...' (Rth 4:9-10)
• Esther & the present preparation for the King - The ongoing preparation for our coming marriage is seen in Esther's preparation to marry the King. She had a 12 month course involving six months with oil of myrrh, and six months with perfumes and preparations for beautifying women. (Est 2:12) In like manner the bride is being prepared for her King and the preparation will continue until the day when He comes to receive her! 
• Rebekah & the future presentation to Isaac - The presentation of the glorious bride of Christ to her husband is seen as a veiled beautiful Rebekah is presented to Isaac. Though she has been told much about him, this is the first time that Rebekah sees him face to face. It is a wonderful future of the day when the bride of Christ meets her husband face to face! 'Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent; and he took Rebekah and she became his wife, and he loved her.' (Gen 24:6)

Loving your wife as yourself

Eph 5:28-30 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. (29) After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church-- (30) for we are members of his body.

No one in their right mind has ever truly hated themselves. People certainly hate a lot of things about themselves (especially in this self absorbed age) but that is because, at the heart of the matter, each person loves themselves. What they hate is that they are not measuring up to what they would like for themselves. They wish they more attractive, more sought after, more popular. The fact is we are all pretty good at looking after ourselves - eating, drinking and making sure we have the necessities for life. Looking after number one all comes naturally to a fallen self-centered nature. But the amazing thing about this union that God ordained right from the garden (which we call marriage) is that suddenly there is a second party! Suddenly it is not just thinking about yourself but loving your partner as you would, and do, yourself. Now obviously this goes both ways but the direct command in this passage is to husbands. Husbands love your wives as you would yourself! Again, no pressure husbands!... but that definitely requires the love of God to be present!

And again, it is all based on the example of what Christ did, and does, for the Church. The oneness of marriage is a picture of the oneness in Christ. We, as believers, are all one, members of His one body. I love what Pastor David Guzik writes concerning this 'oneness' for it goes right through this age and into the next:

Oneness

• There is oneness of life: We share the same vital resurrection life that resides in Jesus Himself.
• There is oneness of service: We are privileged to be co-workers with our Lord.
• There is oneness of feeling: Jesus feels a unique sympathy with us, and we feel a unique sympathy with Him.
• There is oneness of mutual necessity: We cannot exist without Him and He cannot exist without us, in the sense that a redeemer is not a redeemer without any redeemed; a savior is not a savior without any saved
• There is oneness of nature: The same genetic code links us with our Savior, and we are partakers of the divine nature
• There is oneness of possession: We share in the riches of His glory both now and in the age to come
• There is oneness of present condition: When our Savior is lifted high, so are His people with Him.
• There is oneness of future destiny: We will be glorified with Him.

The profound mystery!

Eph 5:31-32 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. (32) This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church. 

This theme of the earthly marriage being a picture of a far greater heavenly marriage is brought out clearly in this passage. Paul quotes from Gen 2:24 showing that right from the start, the union of Adam and Eve pointed to a far greater union. There is a divine romance going on today between the second man (Jesus) and the second Eve (the Church). It is what Paul called a profound mystery! 

That first couple is a figure of the future union of Christ and the church as Bridegroom and bride. Eve was created to be a helpmeet for Adam. She was taken from his side, not molded from the ground as were the animals. Adam was incomplete until they were together. God fashioned her, and I think she was the loveliest thing in creation when God brought her to Adam. One wag has said that she had to be better looking than man because God had practiced on man but He had experience when He made woman. She was a helpmeet for Adam. She compensated for what he lacked. She was made for him and they became one. 
J. Vernon McGee

I have written on this before³ but just note again the picture God gave us right from the Garden contrasting this 'profound mystery'!

Adam / Eve	Jesus / Church
Adam put into a deep sleep	In the New Testament the word 'sleep' can be used for the believer for death (1 Thes 4:14, 1 Cor 15:51). Jesus had to go into death itself for this new bride to be able to come forth.
Adam had his side opened	After He had died, Jesus had His side opened through a Roman spear (John 19:33-34) Blood and water flowed out representing the means of forgiveness and cleansing that would come to those that would be His.
Eve was made from Adam's flesh and bone	In like manner, the second Eve, the bride of Christ, will be of His very nature! Believers are a new creation when they are born again, of His life and at the rapture we shall be fully changed into His likeness! (Col 3:4, 11, 1 Cor 15:49, 1 John 3:2)
Eve was taken out of man and then revealed	The bride of Christ is currently 'hidden in Christ' (Col 3:3) but shall soon be revealed! All of creation is waiting and longing for this moment scripture tells us (Col 3:4, Rom 8:19)
The Lord brought Eve to Adam and they were united in marriage	What would Adam have thought when Eve was presented to him? Not sure if it is a biblical word but probably something like 'wowsers!' The Lord will present His beautiful bride to Himself in all her spotless glory at the marriage of the Lamb! (Eph 5:27, Jude 24, Rev 19:7)
Eve was a 'helpmeet' for Adam	So the Church helps in this divine role of making disciples (2 Cor 5:20, 1 Cor 3:6) And in the age to come we shall help in the ruling and administration of His Kingdom on earth (Dan 7:27, 1 Cor 6:1-3, Rev 5:10)

Conclusion

Eph 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Having looked again at the importance of Biblical marriage, and the greater picture that it gives us, we can see now why it is so under attack in our day. In today's culture, people opt in, and out, of marriage on a whim. Many don't get married but have multiple partners as they see fit. God's ordination of a man and a woman coming together in marriage (as a picture of Christ and His bride) is now changed to include same-sex couples. Many children are born into a family missing one parent, or sometimes both. A society simply cannot stand when the family unit is so broken.

And yet God's commands stand true today. Husbands love your wives as you do yourself, and wives respect your husbands. God knows men and women well and He knows what works. He knows they are different and knows their core needs. Men need respect. Women need love. And when both parties are looking to the Lord and are in a right relationship with Him then the relationship between themselves will be right. We have also seen that even outside of marriage there is to be a willing submission of all to one another. The Bible tells us to walk in humility towards one another... and God will exalt you in due time.  

And finally, as we close, think again of what this picture before us today means for the future. Think of that day when the bride of Christ will be presented to Christ, spotless, radiant, and glorious. Bone of His bone, flesh of His flesh, nature of His nature. Each biblical marriage is a reminder of what God is doing as He prepares His counterpart for Himself! 

 

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1. To give an illustration, a large part of me feels like this... I've played a lot of tennis in my life at a pretty competitive level. Imagine if some guy comes along and says 'I've been watching your game. I think you should try a more eastern grip on your forehand and rotate your shoulders more on your serve'. To which I reply 'Ok thanks - you obviously know a thing or two about Tennis. Been playing for long?' 'Oh no' he says. 'I've never played. Doubt I could hit the ball actually!' What would I think? I'd probably think his advice is pretty odd and it's probably going to hold a little more weight when he has actually learn to hit a ball over the net himself!  ↩

2. There are some that take this verse about the Church being spotless and apply it to the outward Church today. This leads them to say that Christ can only come back for a spotless Church... so clearly He can't come back yet because we are not there. This is wrong. The church will never be spotless, blameless and radiant because of her own goodness and while in this body. She is that already in Christ because of His righteousness. Now that doesn't mean that we are not in an ongoing sanctification process today - we are. But Christ can come at any stage and the radiant bride that will be presented to Him at the marriage of the Lamb will be one that has been transformed into His image at the rapture/resurrection and one that has passed through the Bema seat of Christ where all that is not of Him is burnt and all that we have done in this life in Him, is richly rewarded. By the day of the wedding, there will be no more fallen nature within His bride, no more sin, no more double motives... there will only be a radiant bride, gloriously displayed in His own nature and character... ready for Her groom!  ↩

3. Table (with a small modification) taken from https://jesusplusnothing.com/series/post/the-counterpart-bride-the-second-eve 
   Have a look at this study for a wider examination of this theme concerning Adam/Eve & Christ/Church↩

   
   

   Obedience: Act or instance of submitting to the restraint or command of an authority; compliance with the demands or requests of someone or something over us.
   Submission: An attitude of yielding and total surrender.
   Acceptance: An act of accepting with approval (recognition)
   The general words for obedience in both Hebrew and Greek refer to hearing or hearkening to a superior authority. The Greek word for “obedience,” hupakoē, means “to hear what someone in authority is requesting and then act upon it.”
   Another major Greek word includes the idea of submission to authority in the sense of arranging or ordering oneself under someone in a place of command. A third Greek word suggests obedience that is a result more of persuasion than of submission. The concept is also expressed as “keeping” or “observing” the commandments (; ) and “walking” in God’s ways ().
   Obedience to God and human authorities is an obligation stressed in both the OT and NT. Abraham was additionally blessed on one occasion because he obeyed God in offering Isaac on the altar (; ). God’s continued blessing upon Israel by virtue of the Sinai covenant was contingent upon their obeying his voice and keeping his covenant (). On the verge of entering Canaan, Moses placed before Israel a blessing and a curse, the former if they listened to and obeyed the commandments of the Lord and the latter if they did not ().
   Deuteronomy warns that the penalty for stubborn and rebellious children is, first, chastisement, and then death by stoning if they persistently refuse to listen ().
   Deuteronomy warns that the penalty for stubborn and rebellious children is, first, chastisement, and then death by stoning if they persistently refuse to listen ().
   One evidence that a person is a child of God is continued obedience to the commandments of God (). Jesus said that those who love him would keep his commandments (). And Peter, speaking of Christians, calls them “obedient children” (; see also ; ).
   Christians are to render obedience to a variety of people:
   Believers to the Lord (; ),
   Wives to their own husbands (, ; ; ; , ),
   Children to their parents (; ),
   Citizens to their government officials (; ; , ),
   Servants to their masters (; ; ; ).
   In a more detailed & complete description, the following obedience is understood to be the believer’s duty in their everyday / day to day lives:
   Church members (sheep) to their Pastors (Shepherd)
   Employees (servants) to their employers and immediate head (masters)
   Believers to their direct elder (brothers & sisters)
   Students to their teachers
   Citizens to direct laws, authorities, and law enforcement people.

   Importance of Obedience & Submission as works of faith.

   In both the OT and the NT obedience on the part of believers stands as the supreme test of faith in God. Consequently, Samuel says to Saul after his disobedience in sparing the king of Amalek and some animals, “Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams. For rebellion is as the sin of divination, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry” (, )
   James strongly emphasizes that faith without works is dead (). Jesus himself, on the night of his betrayal, emphasized by repetition, that love for him is measured by obedience to his commandments (, , , ; ). He underscored this by asserting that his own love for the Father was evidenced by his obeying the Father’s commands (14:31).
   The Bible mentions many people whose obedience to God comes from their faith and love for him (see ), For example:
   Abel believed God and offered a more excellent sacrifice ();
   Noah put his faith in God’s word and prepared an ark (11:7); by faith
   Abraham left Ur at God’s direction, not knowing his destination (11:8);
   Moses put his faith in God and refused the privileges of being called Pharaoh’s son, choosing rather to identify with Israel, God’s people (11:24, 25).
   The greatest example of obedience based on trust in God is Jesus Christ himself. Paul writes that Jesus emptied himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and “humbled himself and became obedient unto death, even death on a cross” (, ).

   Recognizing (Acceptance) God in everything & in Every layer of Authority.

   Believers should all understand and acknowledge that the word of God, is the ultimate authority in their lives. When we read the scriptures, it is as if, God himself, is directly speaking to us. As the author of Hebrews stated, “without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him., (). What motivates us to obey God? Obedience springs from gratitude for grace received (). Christians obey God as an expression of their spiritual freedom (; ). Jesus taught that our love for God motivates us to obey Him (, ; ).
   So the scriptures declares the following:
   Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. ()
   “Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.” (1 The 4:8)
   "Whoever listens to you listens to me; whoever rejects you rejects me; but whoever rejects me rejects him who sent me." ()
   For God is not a God of disorder but of peace--as in all the congregations of the Lord's people. ()
   We must then understand and accept that any position of authority is indeed provisioned by God, and our submission or obedience to these various forms of authorities should come from our love & faith in God as a natural by product. Our rejection or refusal to submit in any form to the said authorities, stem from a deep misunderstanding of what God expects from us. We must realize that our refusal to submit (obey) to these authorities as God commands, ultimately link to the following:
   Failure to recognize that there is a God
   Failure to understand and accept that God has established all and every form of authorities (making God, Jesus & the Holy Spirit liars – for the revelation comes from them)
   Rejecting God & Yeshua as the Lord in our lives (stating that we do not need his methods of reigning upon us in every aspect of our lives)
   The Bible views disobedience as a failure to hear and do God’s Word (). Israel’s story was one of a nation who failed to hear or to listen to God (; ). Jesus warned: “Anyone who has ears should listen!” ( HCSB).
   Obedience does affect one’s spiritual life. It is essential for worship (; ). The obedience of faith brings about salvation (; ). Obedience secures God’s blessings (; ; ). Spiritual insight is gained through obedience ().
   True obedience means imitating God in holiness, humility, and love (; ; ). True disciples do the will of God (). Facing clashing claims for one’s allegiance, the Christian obeys God rather than other persons ().

   Submission to God

   Yeshua explains that to ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” (), is the greatest commandment of all. It’s the first of everything.
   The first step to this is to accept (recognize) that God does exists. Hebrew 12:28 states that the first step when approaching God in prayer is to believe that HE indeed Exists! From there, we grow to understand who this God is, where He comes from and what his plan is. As we start to discover more and more about Him, we get closer to him and we start developing a closeness or intimacy with Him.
   However, to be enabling to develop this intimacy, requires that we accept ad submit to the various information that we learn.

   
   

   Submitting our hearts and minds to the authority of the word of God goes far beyond ordinary listening. It is a good idea to listen but a willing submission to The Truth is of more relevance. Hearing and Listening to the word of God produces faith, but willing submission to its truths prepares us for greater tasks.  It is only when we wholeheartedly submit ourselves to God’s divine authority by upholding the truths of His Word, that we are set aside and commissioned for divine assignments which are often coupled with opposing challenges.

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   Paul’s expression to the Jews in Vs.17-20 helps us to understand the level of oppositions and challenges he was faced with. The many oppositions and hardships he suffered on the way to Rome did not deter him in any way in proclaiming the good news of Jesus Christ! In all of these situations, he was calm and willing to cope, open to questions, ready to defend the faith and present the Master’s voice.

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   God has a purpose for every moment in our lives and work with Him. He uses circumstances to mould our character. In fact, to make us like Jesus, He depends on the circumstances we go through, along with our reading and studying of His Word. In as much as our reading and studying the Bible is important, it is in bringing those truths alive in different situations that help us grow in Him. We are face to face with different circumstances twenty-four hours a day which gives ample opportunities to apply God’s principles.

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   Jesus warned us that we would have problems in the world. No one is immune to pain or insulated from suffering, and no one gets to skate through life, problem-free! As willing submission to the truths of His Word brings us much more closely and connected with the Lord, His will and purpose become our desired project! In all of these, our hope in difficult times is not based on positive thinking or natural optimism. It is certainly based on the truths that Jesus is Lord and God who is in full control of our universe, loves us so dearly.  God’s plan for our lives involves all that happens to us, including our mistakes, sins, and hurts, etc. God can bring good out of the worst and wicked situation. [Refer: Job 33:27-30, Isaiah 55:6-9, Psalm 50:15, Luke 23:39-43, Acts 9:1-18]

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   Often God uses the chisel of adversity to chip off our rough edges so that we can become jewels for His use. God is always happy to have his submissive vessels to go through the crucibles of life to earn the proceeds from the wisdom of such experiences. They become tools to mould us so that we become effective propagators of His truth.  Then the message of our Lord Jesus Christ, His love for humanity and His finished work on the cross captivate the whole fiber of our being in the liberation of souls to the glory of His name.

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   To Meditate: “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”-Romans 8:28