Working With Nonbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14–18)
In 2 Corinthians 6:14–18 Paul takes up the question of being mismatched (literally “unequally yoked”) with non-Christians. This has implications for both marriage (which is outside our scope here) and working relationships. Up to this point, Paul has vividly portrayed the importance of good relationships with the people with whom we live and work. Paul says in 1 Cor. 5:9–10 that we should work with non-Christians, and he discusses how to do so in 1 Cor. 10:25–33. (See “God’s Glory is the Ultimate Goal” (1 Cor. 10) for more).
Here, Paul cautions us about working arrangements with non-believers, invoking a reference to Deuteronomy 22:10 which warns against plowing with an ox and a donkey yoked together. Perhaps this is because the donkey would struggle to pull the ox’s load and the ox could not go at the faster donkey’s pace. In 2 Corinthians, Paul seems to be talking about a deeper spiritual reality, advising God’s people to be wary of yoking with people who serve lawlessness, darkness, idol worship, and Satan himself (2 Cor. 6:14-15).
While we’re clearly called to love, serve, and work with non-believers, Paul says not to be “unequally yoked” with them. What does it mean to be unequally yoked? The answer lies in the contrast to being yoked with Jesus, who says, “Take my yoke upon you.” (Matthew 11:29). One part of the yoke is around us, and the other is on Jesus’ shoulders. Jesus, like the lead ox in a team, determines our bearing, pace, and path, and we submit to his leadership. Through his yoke, we feel his pull, his guidance, his direction. By his yoke, he trains us to work effectively in his team. His yoke is what leads us, sensitizes us, and binds us to him. Being yoked to Jesus makes us partners with him in restoring God’s creation in every sphere of life, as we explored in 2 Cor. 5:16–21. No other yoke that would pull us away from the yoke of Jesus could ever be equal to that! “My yoke is easy, and my burden is light,” Jesus tells us (Matt. 11:29). Yet the work we are doing with him is no less than the transformation of the entire cosmos.
When Paul tells us not to be unequally yoked in working relationships, he is warning us not to get entangled in work commitments that prevent us from doing the work Jesus has for us or that prevents us from working in Jesus’ yoke. This has a strong ethical element. “What partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness?” Paul asks (2 Cor. 6:14). If the dictates of a work commitment lead us to harm customers, deceive constituents, mislead employees, abuse co-workers, pollute the environment, or such, then we have been yoked into a violation of our duties as stewards of God’s kingdom. Furthermore being yoked with Jesus leads us to work to reconcile and renew the world in light of God’s promises of the “kingdom come.”
To be unequally yoked with unbelievers, then, is to be in a situation or relationship that binds you to the decisions and actions of people who have values and purposes incompatible with Jesus’ values and purposes. We probably would—and should—do all we can to avoid working with those who would force us to act against our beliefs. But short of that, many of the motivations, values, and working methods of our supervisors and colleagues in most workplaces may not be compatible with our beliefs as Christians. And the environment and beliefs of those you work with may have a negative influence on your faith and experience of the Christian life. Nonetheless, most of us work among unbelievers, which as we have noted, Paul assumes is the normal situation for Christians. Then how are we to apply his prohibition against unequal yoking?
Let’s begin by looking at employment. Employment is an agreement in which you do the agreed upon work in return for the agreed upon remuneration. To the extent that you are able to voluntarily and justly terminate this contract in the event it becomes damaging to you or others, you are free to un-yoke. How do you know whether it is necessary to un-yoke or end an employment arrangement? We will look at two very different situations.
First, imagine you are employed by an organization that is generally ethical, but you are surrounded by people who do not believe as you do and whose influence is damaging your own faith life. This discernment may be different for different believers. Some are able to maintain their faith in the midst of temptations and unbelief all around them, and others are not. Temptations such as money, power, sexual immorality, and recognition can be overwhelming in many work environments, and Paul’s prohibition would suggest that it is better to remove yourself from that employment “yoke” than be defiled in body and spirit or to compromise your relationship with the Lord. On the other hand, others are able to work in the midst of those temptations as a witness to the truth and love and hope of the gospel. Usually they need someone outside the temptations of their workplace to help them maintain their faith.
Esther is an interesting example of this kind of situation. God called her into the harem of King Ahasuerus so that she would be able to serve as protector of her Jewish people (Esther 4:12-16). The temptations of that “work” were to protect her status and privilege as the king’s chosen queen (Esther 4:11-12). She might have succumbed to the temptations of that luxurious life if her uncle, Mordecai, hadn’t checked in with her daily (Esther 2:11) to guide her and eventually summon her to risk her life to save her people (Esther 4:8). (See “Working Within a Fallen System (Esther)” for more.)
Esther had considerable influence with the king but was also extremely vulnerable to his displeasure. This would seem to be a clear case of being “unequally yoked.” Yet in the end, her yoking to God proved stronger than her yoking to the king because she was willing to risk her life in order to do God’s will. This suggests that the more willing you are to suffer the consequences of saying “no” when called upon to violate your beliefs, the tighter the relationship you can take on with unbelievers, yet still remain yoked to Jesus. An important implication of this is to refrain from becoming so dependent on a job that you can’t afford to quit. If you take on expenses and debts up to, or even above, your level of income, any job can quickly become a kind of unequal yoking. Adopting a more modest standard of living and building up ample savings—if possible—may make it much easier to remain yoked with Christ if things go bad at work.
A second example of “unequal yoking” might be a business partnership with an unbeliever. It would be a much more equal partnership in terms of power, but equally risky in terms of ethics. When one partner signs a contract, spends money, buys or sells property—or violates the law—the other partner is bound by that action or decision. This kind of partnership could be more like the ox and the donkey – two partners pulling in opposite directions. Moreover, we know from experience that even partnerships between two believers also include some risk, given that Christians continue to be sinners too. All business partnerships, then, require wisdom and discernment and both the ability and the willingness to terminate the partnership if necessary, even if doing so would be very costly. Paul’s prohibition in 2 Corinthians 6should, at a minimum, serve as a cause for prayer and discernment before entering a partnership, and perhaps to including contractual limitations to the arrangement.
There are many other kinds of working relationships, of course, including buying and selling, investing, contracting and subcontracting, and trade associations. Paul’s warning against unequal yoking can help us discern how and when to enter into such relationships, and perhaps more importantly, how and when to exit them. In all these relationships, the danger increases when we become more dependent on them than on Christ.
Finally, we must be careful to not turn Paul’s words into an us-versus-them mentality against nonbelievers. We cannot judge or condemn nonbelievers as inherently unethical because Paul himself refused to do so. “For what have I to do with judging those outside? Is it not those who are inside that you are to judge? God will judge those outside” (1 Cor. 5:12–13). The truth is that we ourselves need Christ’s grace every day to keep us from leading others astray by our own sin. We are called not to judge, but to discern whether our work is fulfilling the purposes and ways of Christ.
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“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said,
“I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they shall be my people.
Therefore go out from their midst,
and be separate from them, says the Lord,
and touch no unclean thing;
then I will welcome you,
and I will be a father to you,
and you shall be sons and daughters to Me,
says the Lord Almighty.”
Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, bringing holiness to completion in the fear of God.”
The Apostle Paul’s outline here is rather simple, and his outline will be our outline. In these verses, Paul gives us two commands. They form bookends to the passage, one at the beginning and one at the end, two central commands, and in between he gives reasons for command number one and reasons for command number two.
Look at the outline. Verse 14. Here’s the first command: Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, and then we have the word “for,” so he’s giving reasons why ought we to obey that command “for” and he gives several reasons, which run from verse 14 through to the middle of verse 16.
Go to the end of the passage, chapter 7, verse 1, “Since we have these promises,” now here’s the second command, “let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement.”
The first command, the reasons for the command follow. The second command, the reasons for the command come prior. That’s why he says “since we have these promises.” So what comes before in those Scripture passages which Paul quotes from are the promises that form the reasons for command number two. Command one, reasons, reasons, command two. That is our outline.
Look up at verse 14. So two commands God has for us.
Number one: Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. This command has Old Testament roots.
Deuteronomy 22: You shall not sow your vineyard with two kinds of seed lest the whole yield be forfeited, the crop that you have sown and the yield of the vineyard. You shall not plow with an ox and a donkey together. You shall not wear cloth of wool and linen mixed together.
Now that passage from Deuteronomy is one of those passages that you’ve probably heard before and maybe even have questions in your own mind. Okay, well, we don’t seem to really be bothered with those commandments, and sometimes you hear people say, “Oh, you silly evangelical Christians, your commands, your old-fashioned things about men and women or marriage or sexuality. Well, what about these other Old Testament commands? Plowing an ox with a donkey together, sowing two different kinds of seed.”
So why does Paul find some precedent for spiritual behavior in those sorts of Old Testament commands which talk about things being separate? Well, the idea was that you do not mix things that are fundamentally of a different kind.
So those examples in the life of ancient Israel were to reinforce their unique status before God, that they were a chosen nation, a royal priesthood. They were literally set apart.
So when cynics, or perhaps just honest questioners, will say, “Well, why don’t you follow these commands anymore?” which seems sort of irrelevant, well, the reason is some laws in the Old Testament prohibited what was abhorrent by nature while other laws prohibited things in order to teach Israel certain lessons about God and about Himself.
Don’t want to get too far in the weeds trying to understand the application of the Mosaic Law to our day. It’s not our covenant in the sense that it’s not a national covenant for us. It’s certainly not a covenant that we keep to earn favor with God, nor was it supposed to be for the Israelites.
But every law in the Old Testament has some bearing on the life of the Christian. So the Old Testament law may tell you to put a fence upon the outer rim of your roof. Well, I doubt that very many of us do that. But there’s a reason they did that in the ancient world, because you had flat roofs and that’s where you would go out in the cool of the evening, and so it was one way to love your neighbors that you would put this fence there so that people aren’t wandering out onto your roof and then they tumble and injured themselves or die.
So we don’t with our type of roofs and not hanging out on roofs very often, at least not in this part of town, we don’t feel obligated to obey that in the same way, and yet there is an application for us that with our own property we want to think of ways to be considerate of others.
So every Old Testament law, whether it’s directly applicable, has some lesson for us. And Paul is getting at this sort of idea. Under the law of Moses, you could not breed two different kinds of animals, you were not supposed to harness two different kinds of animals, and so Paul takes this lesson from the life of agriculture in ancient Israel and he applies it fittingly to believers and unbelievers. To put it sort of crassly, he’s saying they are two different breeds. Just as you would not yoke two different kinds of animals, this makes common sense, an ox and a donkey together, well, one is a very different sort of animal and one is bigger and one follows instructions differently, and you yoke these two types of animals, it’s not going to be a good way to plow your field because they don’t work together well. They’re not on the same page, they’re not thinking, one’s thinking very oxen thoughts and one very donkey thoughts, and they’re not going in the same direction.
And so Paul rightly takes this broader Old Testament principle and he applies it now to the life of the church, that you ought not to be unequally yoked. You picture, we don’t deal with yokes, but you’ve seen them. You know what they are. Put on two animals, whether wooden or steel or some other material. You need to be of the same mind, heading in the same direction. So the assumption is that Christians need to be careful because believers and unbelievers will often not be heading in the same direction, not be pursuing the same goals.
So what might some examples be for us? Well, marriage and dating would be one. Now if you are married already and you’re married to an unbeliever, the Bible tells you to stay married. It doesn’t say that this is grounds or reason to get a divorce. But as you are thinking about marriage, planning for marriage, certainly there is an application because what relationship in life requires more of the same mind and same heart to be moving in the same direction.
And so we see this principle at work in 1 Corinthians and Malachi and even by extension in something like Song of Solomon, that you want to have the same heart and mind.
Now when you are young, and I can say that now, I’m an old, middle-aged dad, you young kids out there, and you’re in love, and that’s wonderful, and with all of those emotions oftentimes comes not thinking as clearly, and you’re overcome and swept over and you think, “Well, we’re gonna find a way to make this work.” And it’s God’s mercy that sometimes there is a way and the other person converts and there’s a way and praise God for that.
But we ought not to presume upon His grace. Either Christian or a non-Christian, at the risk of sounding so old-fashioned, I think it’s good biblical sense, even Protestant and Catholic, or even too Protestants who have a theology that are so markedly different heading in very different directions, not on the same spiritual page. You’re yoked together and you’re supposed to be harvesting and harnessing your energies in the same direction in marriage, in dating.
I remember hearing one woman say as she was trying to give advice to other young women in particular, maybe tempted to just compromise and marry because sometimes guys don’t get their act together and take a step of risk or faith and pursue a young woman, and this woman who was married to an unbeliever and was still loving her husband, and yet she had this line which was very striking, and she was saying to young women, and it would apply to men as well: As lonely as you may feel now, let me tell you how much more lonely you can feel in a marriage when your husband is not a believer.
Now we pray that that’s not the case and some of you have stories of God’s grace in your life with just that very scenario, or you pray for friends or kids or grandkids, but those of you who still have those decisions in front of you, certainly this passage has a bearing.
It may for others of us, as we think about our work. Now this doesn’t mean that you can’t work with any non-believers or most of you would have a hard time getting a job. There’s not enough jobs at the church for all of you to work at the church, or at Joni and Friends or at Billy Graham. You work with unbelievers. But there may come a time where those you are linking arms with are so motivated by different things, so requiring of you things that are contrary to your faith, that it is an unequal partnership.
Or perhaps even on the level of friendship. Again, on one level it can be very good to have friendships with people who are not Christians. How else are we going to love our neighbors? How else are we going to share our faith? But if there are those friendships and those friend groups that are pursuing after things that are not of Christ, and leading you, a kind of animal stuck in the other half of the plow, to be pursuing things that lead you into sin, you need to find a way to free yourself from that yoke. We ought not to be unequally yoked.
Now what is the situation going on in Corinth? Because those are some applications. First of all, this was not probably about marriage advice. Well, there are a number of verbal, thematic, and grammatical connections between 2 Corinthians 6 and 1 Corinthians 8 and 1 Corinthians 10.
Now there in 1 Corinthians 8 and 10, Paul is talking about idolatry. We find here in chapter 6 the same contrast between God and idols, the same contrast between Christ the Lord and Belial and demons. They have many of the same words: Fellowship, partake, defile. They have the same commands: Do not be idolaters, do not eat, flee idolatry, be separate, touch no unclean thing. So conceptually and verbally we see these connections which lead us to think that 2 Corinthians 6 is also talking about idolatry.
Now what did this look like in Corinth? Well, often they would have to participate in meals where some sort of sacrifice was involved, just like in Christian households usually before you have a meal, let’s say grace, let’s say a prayer. Well, it was very common around the Roman Empire, before you might have some meal together, it might not be a prayer but it might be come perfunctory offering to some other sort of God. And it would be the easiest thing in the world, there you are, let’s just all bow our heads or let’s all offer some sacrifice or let’s all say this chant that we’re all familiar with, and let’s offer some praise or offering or sacrifice to Zeus or Aphrodite or whoever the god or goddess might be.
Often in the ancient world you would belong to these guilds, these trade unions, and there would be some sort of patron deity, for the farmers and for the bricklayers and for the carpenters, and they would all have their patron sort of deity, god or goddess, and they would be expected to offer some perfunctory worship or offering.
So Paul’s instruction is for them not to join with unconverted pagans and the religious and ritual life of the city.
Now it wasn’t too many years ago that this would have all seemed just very strange to us, just another world. Can you imagine what that was like? Where the place where you were working, you would all have to offer some sort of genuflect to the god or the reigning goddess of the day, and yet now it is not hard for many of us to imagine. You are expected to do certain things for certain agendas, whether they have to do with gender or sexuality or under a broad rubric of social justice. Of course, there’s a very good kind of biblical justice and then there’s our world’s definition of justice.
And many of you have very difficult situations, or know people in your workplace where you may increasingly be asked to participate, and it won’t be as straightforward as there’s our statue in the corner, would you go ahead and commit your act of idolatry? And yet it is becoming almost as obvious.
Now it does not mean for us that we pull out of the world. Paul says, famously in 1 Corinthians 5, “I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people –not at all meaning the sexually immoral of this world, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world.”
So Paul is not saying “you can’t have any relationship or fellowship with idolaters,” otherwise he’d be saying “you can’t live on planet earth.” And just as soon as you pulled in and said, “Well, we’re just going to hang out with Christians,” you’d find that lo and behold there’s a lot of sinners there, too.
So he’s not telling you automatically “go quit your job, grown your own food, get off the grid, drop all your contacts.” No, we are involved in this world. What it may mean, however, is that we will in certain ways, at different times, have to be separate from relationships that have meant a lot to us, or from participating in certain events or associations, or there may be certain sorts of activities that we very much want our children to participate in, but the things that are required of us won’t allow us to.
You may feel this, perhaps, in the medical field. There’s a practice that forces you to participate in the act of abortion, or in sex change procedures. You may feel this as a college student, when everyone on your team says, “Hey, we’re all going to wear rainbow pride t-shirts to this game.” Or it may come as you work for the government and certain things are required of you, or simply in any sphere of life to receive funding from the government, which so often comes with very, very long strings attached.
In short, Paul is telling the Corinthians, “Do not participate in idolatry.”
Now idolatry is such a, it’s a spiritual-sounding word to us now, but it had very concrete ramifications in the ancient world. I think in a sermon in the past I shared with you Doug Stewart, he was one of my Old Testament professors, and has written a number of commentaries and I think this is from his Exodus commentary actually, he shares a number of reasons why idolatry was attractive in the ancient world. Just listen to some of these reasons and see if you don’t conclude, “Oh, this is pretty attractive in our world.”
Idolatry was attractive in the ancient world. It was guaranteed. Simple formula, carve out a god, god of stone or wood, do your thing, your incantation, and it works. It was selfish. Idolatry was you do this for the gods then they help you. Many, many places in corporate America, “Hey, well I don’t know what they actually believe about these things, but we just put the right virtue signal, just do the right thing, hey, it’s going to help our bottom line.”
Idolatry was easy. There were few ethical demands. The gods of the ancient world didn’t care what you did with your whole life as long as you just kept a few certain rules and you fed them and you did the things required for the sacrifice.
Idolatry was convenient. You had gods and goddesses everywhere. It was easy to follow through on your ritualistic requirements. It was normal. Everyone did this. You figured this is how people get pregnant, this is how our crops grow, this is how the nation is protected, this is how we win military victories. We participate in idolatry.
It was logical. It was unthinkable to most people in the ancient world that there would be one god. How can there be just one god? You need multiple gods because you have many areas of life. You have family life, personal life, national life. You don’t have to choose between the gods, you can have all of them. That makes sense.
Idolatry was pleasing to the senses. You could see them, you could be impressed by them.
Idolatry was indulgent. Sacrificing to the idols often involved then eating the leftover food because you put the food there and guess what? The idol doesn’t actually eat it. Nothing changes. So then you get to have a great feast of drunken revelry or debauchery.
Idolatry was often very sensual. Many of the rituals in the ancient world turned into orgies. For some it was thought if you had sex before the gods it was a way to have the gods have sex with each other and then when that happens it means it rains and there’s a harvest and your flocks multiply and people get pregnant. The whole system was marked with an eroticism.
Now doesn’t idolatry seem sort of 21st Century? Let’s see. I can be a Christian. They didn’t really care in the ancient world. You could say you were a Christian, you could say you were whatever as long as you just kept up with the idols. So I’m a Christian, that’s not a problem, but let’s see. I don’t what Christianity to cost me very much. I want it to be easy to see, easy to do. I want few ethical demands, not a lot of doctrinal boundaries. I want it to guarantee success. I want it to make me feel good, make me look good, and I don’t want it to offend those around me. And you know what? I want it to be kind of fun.
Well, you see, those are the same things that all people at all time have always wanted in their fallen nature, and we want the same things. The question then for us is even though we don’t have idols of wood or stone or silver or gold, are we succumbing to that temptation to be like everyone else?
The Corinthians were not doubting whether Jesus was Lord, they just wanted to have Jesus as Lord and all the other stuff. Can’t I do that? Can’t I have Jesus and at least think and look and live like everyone else? That’s why Paul is saying you cannot be yoked in this world. If the only difference between you and a non-Christian is that you are in the building for 90 minutes a week and they are not, that’s not enough of a difference.
We must avoid compromise with the world. Why? Now, trust me, I’m spending most of my time on that. Why? Look at the reasons: Do not be unequally yoked, verse 14, for.
Now notice Paul issues a series of contrasts to help us understand why we must not be yoked with the world.
One. We are righteous, not lawless.
Two. We are light, not darkness.
Three. We belong to Christ, not Belial. You see that there in verse 15. Sometimes Belial refers to worthless persons, it can perhaps refer to demonic spirits operating in people.
Fourth. We are believers and not unbelievers, the end of verse 15, and then verse 16 we are the temple of God, not full of idols.
So Paul draws a series of five contrasts to show why we must not be yoked with the world. Think about the nouns that are in this passage: Partnership, fellowship, accord, portion, agreement. He’s underscoring for us as Christians we are different people doing different things, belonging to a different God, believing a different truth, worshiping in a different way.
And for many, many years, centuries even, we have felt very little of that, and we don’t feel as much of it as they do in many other parts of the world, but yes, even here in Charlotte, we are feeling that more and more. You and I as Christians must be prepared to stand alone. Now, hopefully we don’t stand alone because we have the body of Christ, but it may be in your classroom, on the athletic field, in your place of work, on the college campus, maybe even with friends and family outside of here, you must be prepared to stand alone. You have to be prepared to be ridiculed, to be misunderstood, that it will not always be the case that if you just are nice enough and you work hard enough that people are going to give you the benefit of the doubt and they’re going to like you, even if they kind of disagree with some things. Those days are quickly leaving us behind.
It used to be, very broad strokes here, very broad sweep of history in America, it used to be Christianity was a net cultural plus. In other words, to be a Christian in the United States, in particular in the southeast, had its advantages. It was a good thing. You’re a Christian, that helps. People want to do business with Christians. It’s not a bad thing. It helps you. It’s some of the social grease that helps keep relationships together.
Now there were very good things about that. It encouraged Christianity. There wasn’t the same cost. The bad thing was it encouraged a lot of nominalism, hypocrisy.
And then it switches from Christianity being a net positive to Christianity being a neutral thing. That is, if you worked hard, played by the rules, and as long as you were personally tolerant and respectful of others, as long as you proved that you could do your work in the classroom or in the artist’s room or behind a computer and you proved that, then your Christian commitment would not get in the way.
And let’s be honest, I think in some parts of our world, Christianity is still a plus. I think in some parts of our world it is still that neutral, as long as I’m basically a good friend and neighbor to other people and I don’t go out of my way to poke people in the eye, they don’t mind.
But I think we all realize that what we have more and more and more so ever than in the history of this country, is that Christianity is a net negative. This is certainly the case in many fields. In most places of higher education, big business, media, arts, entertainment, government, that to be a biblical Christian, and I don’t mean just to say you like Jesus, that doesn’t offend nobody, to be a real biblical Christian is largely a net negative.
Now the good thing is it’s easier for light to shine when it’s very dark. The bad thing is it means more and more people will be tempted to bury that light under a bushel, or even worse, to join the darkness. If this is what it costs to shine the light, then I might as well just join the darkness. We have to be prepared that there is a cost and all of the pressures of the world are saying, “Would you just go ahead, privately say what you want, go to church on Sunday, say what you want. You can do all the prayers you want. Go to the Bible studies. No big deal. But when it comes to how we’re going to operate in this country, you better get with the program and you better be yoked with the rest of us.”
We must be prepared to be separate. Not itching for a fight, but ready because the fight, if isn’t already at your doorstep, it is coming. Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. First command.
Second command, much more quickly. Look at verse 1 of chapter 7. “Since we have these promises,” so the promises are the reason, and we’ll come back to those, but here is the command, “let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, bringing holiness to completion in the fear of the Lord.”
Defilement. That’s a robust, biblical word that we probably don’t use very often. Now it’s not wrong to use nonbiblical words, we do it all the time. Trinity’s not in the Bible. So there’s nothing wrong. But sometimes it’s good to have the Bible, especially with these strong moral words, sort of reorient us, because defilement sounds like a really serious word. It has a little different feel than “brokenness” or “grown edges” or “mistakes.” There’s a defilement.
It is possible that you and I have let defilement creep into our lives? Think about what you watch as your entertainment. The sort of conversation you have. The things that make you laugh. The images you have seen in the last month on your phone, on your computer. The way in which we present ourselves in our dress to others. It may start very slowly and over time the slime overtakes us.
Last spring when COVID was setting in, we rushed to the front of the line and before it got crazy we ordered an above-ground pool in our backyard. Great decision with a bunch of kids. Just throw them in there, “watch each other.” And it takes more work than I remember. We had a pool growing up. In Michigan you don’t use them nearly so much as you can here. And it’s more work than I remember to keep that thing actually looking blue and sparkling. I buy all these things, “Just pour in one and we guarantee it will be blue and sparkling.”
Well, we have in the last several weeks, kids haven’t been in the pool, school is busy and the weather is starting to turn, and so we’re a little negligent, and at first you see some leaves on the bottom and then they turn to dirt and dust and then we saw just some greenish film around the edges and tried to shock it, but shock has been one of the things that the supply chain has messed up and you can’t find that, and suddenly it happened in about a day or two and we completely lost it. It went from, “Oh, there’s algae” to “that’s Mountain Dew” to “it’s pea soup.” It is disgusting. So we just tell the kids “don’t open your mouth.” No, they’re not in it, they’re not in it. [laughter] It has become completely defiled, and now we’re trying all sort of alchemy and magic potions to try to at least bring it back so we can winterize it before it gets, well, maybe the cold, we’ll just have to wait to kill the thing.
Little by little, and it happens in life, I can do that, that’s okay, that’s a little bit of dirt, a little bit of allowance. I can probably watch that. I can probably go there. I can probably surf that on YouTube. Okay, I can probably do that. And what happens, sometimes in a matter of days, you go from a little film around the edge to completely defiled. Putrified.
And perhaps we don’t even see it. If we can look at many Christians in the past and wonder, how could they be so blind to sins of partiality, or racism, or chattel slavery, how did they miss that? And they sinned and they missed it.
Surely those same Christians would, however, look at us and say, “Why are they so blind to the reigning sins of their own age?”
Ephesians 5: Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness but instead expose them, for it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret.
What Paul said was shameful even to say. Now we order up on Netflix and sit down and say, “Entertain me.” What once was thought unmentionable is now a matter of laughter and entertainment, and too often jokes you don’t forget, scenes that are not easily deleted from your mind, when the Lord God says “be holy as I am holy.”
1 Peter 2:11: Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh which wage war against your soul.
Have you forgotten, have I forgotten, there is a war, there’s a war against your soul. As strangers and aliens, as exiles, until we realize that this is not our home, that it’s supposed to feel strange, that you’re not always supposed to fit in, we won’t wage the war we’re supposed to.
Are you a sojourner? Are you an exile? Is your body cleansed from every defilement of lust, sensuality, idolatry? When you look at the first 9-1/2 months of this year, do you see a person when you look in the mirror who has been brought closer to the holiness of God or a person who in these first 9-1/2 months have had your thoughts increasingly marred with impurity, your leisure stained with improper sexuality, your entertainment marked by crude humor, your actions dripping with compromise, and I ask the same questions of myself. Let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement.
Why? Well, look above. We have these promises. First command, and he gives several contrasts. Second command, he gives many promises. Look at them.
Promise number one: I will make My dwelling among you.
Promise number two: I will walk among you.
Promise number three: I will be Your God and they will be my people.
Doesn’t this sound, what we’ve been seeing in Genesis? These are all the promises of the covenant. I will be a father to you, verse 18, you will be my sons and daughters.
Do you see how the promise is both the premise for the command and the reward for obeying the command? Because in both instances, the premise and the reward, the promise is the same – the presence of God.
Think about it from the Old Testament. Moses took off his sandals because he was on holy ground. God was there. The camp had to be holy because the tabernacle dwelt in their midst. The temple was set apart because God dwelt there among the cherubim. The mercy seat of the ark of the covenant. In the new Jerusalem, God makes the covenant promise again and says no unclean thing can dwell there, and even now in the Church we are the fullness of Him who fills everything in every way. God is in our midst. Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. This place, together, is a temple, a dwelling place for God Almighty, and so He says, “Would you keep the house clean?”
And I love the promise at the end of verse 17: “Touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you.” I will welcome you.
Now God is not saying you need to get your act together to such a degree and then you can start talking to Me again. No, oftentimes the central act, and surely the first act of purification, is always that act of repentance, and it is a pleasing thing to God when we come with broken hearts and a contrite spirit and say, “Oh, God, against you only have I sinned.”
The promise here is what Jesus promised in the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 5:8: Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God.
You see, that’s the premise, that’s the promise. Don’t you want to see God? Don’t you want God in your midst? Don’t you believe that to have God in your presence more than makes up for what you lost in the world? Do you see Paul’s logic here? You’re giving up something, you’re giving up some friends, you might be giving up relationships, you might be giving up your job, you might be giving up prestige, you might be giving up being thought well of by other people… But do you see what you get? You get Me. You get my presence. I’ll live among you. I’ll walk among you. I’ll be your father. I’ll live with you and I will welcome you.
Don’t you want to come home? Is there anyone here, anyone listening, you’re out in the cold. You’ve been wandering around like the prodigal. You’re eating and digging around in the pig sty. And while you’re still a long way off, the father, losing all decorum, picks up his robes and runs to you as you move to him. Don’t you want to come home? I will welcome you.
So even in this passage, which so often can be thought of as nothing but an unrelenting pounding of the will, be separate, don’t be unequally yoked, cleanse yourself, do you see how God motivates us to these central commands? He does it by reminding us not only of who we are, we’re light not darkness, we’re children of the king not some pauper, and then He reminds of who He is, that He is our great reward and He stands ready to welcome us in.
Let’s pray. Father in heaven, we give grace for Your mercy, Your mercies which are new every morning. We pray for any here who needs to be reminded of these things, You would do so for any who are wandering far from You. Be gracious to us, Lord, have mercy to save us, to spare us. And we pray that we would know Your smiling face in Christ. In His name we pray. Amen.
The phrase “unequally yoked” comes from 2 Corinthians 6:14 in the King James Version: “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”
The New American Standard Version says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
A yoke is a wooden bar that joins two oxen to each other and to the burden they pull. An “unequally yoked” team has one stronger ox and one weaker, or one taller and one shorter. The weaker or shorter ox would walk more slowly than the taller, stronger one, causing the load to go around in circles. When oxen are unequally yoked, they cannot perform the task set before them. Instead of working together, they are at odds with one another.
Paul’s admonition in 2 Corinthians 6:14is part of a larger discourse to the church at Corinth on the Christian life. He discouraged them from being in an unequal partnership with unbelievers because believers and unbelievers are opposites, just as light and darkness are opposites.
Attempting to live a Christian life with a non-Christian for our close friend and ally will only cause us to go around in circles.
The “unequal yoke” is often applied to business relationships. For a Christian to enter into a partnership with an unbeliever is to court disaster.
Unbelievers have opposite worldviews and morals, and business decisions made daily will reflect the worldview of one partner or the other.
For the relationship to work, one or the other must abandon his moral center and move toward that of the other.
More often than not, it is the believer who finds himself pressured to leave his Christian principles behind for the sake of profit and the growth of the business.
Of course, the closest alliance one person can have with another is found in marriage, and this is how the passage is usually interpreted.
God’s plan is for a man and a woman to become “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24), a relationship so intimate that one literally and figuratively becomes part of the other.
Uniting a believer with an unbeliever is essentially uniting opposites, which makes for a very difficult marriage relationship.
Whether in business or relationships Christians are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Starting a business with an unbeliever can put Christians in a terrible situation.
It can cause Christians to compromise their relationship with Christ, there will be disagreements, etc.
Don’t think that you will get married and you will change them because that rarely happens and it will most likely cause more problems.
We must deny ourselves and take up the cross daily. Sometimes you have to drop relationships for Christ.
Don’t think you know what’s best. Trust in God alone not yourself. There are so many reasons not to marry an unbeliever. Wait on God’s timing and trust in His ways.
What does the Bible say about being unequally yoked?
Here are 15 helpful Bible Scriptures…
1. Amos 3:3 Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet?
2. 2 Corinthians 6:14 Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?
3. Ephesians 5:7 Therefore do not become partners with them.
4. 2 Corinthians 6:15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?
5. 1 Thessalonians 5:21 Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
6. 2 Corinthians 6:17 Therefore, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.”
7. Isaiah 52:11 Depart, depart, go out from there! Touch no unclean thing! Come out from it and be pure, you who carry the articles of the LORD’s house.
8. 2 Corinthians 6:16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.”
One flesh
9. 1 Corinthians 6:16-17 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit.
10. Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
If you were already married before getting saved.
11. 1 Corinthians 7:12-13 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.
12. 1 Corinthians 7:17 Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.
Reminders
13. Matthew 6:33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
14. Proverbs 6:27 Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?
15. Proverbs 6:28 Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?
darkness?
Rival values vied for the allegiance of the Corinthian church. False apostles sought to woo the Corinthians away from biblical standards (2 Co 11:2-4).
14 Do not be [become] unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
“Do not be” means to not become something that you were not previously. A Christian should not be unequally yoked with false teachers, who were unbelievers (2 Co 11:13-15). The unbeliever has beliefs, values, and practices antithetical to Christianity. The believer has to make a binary choice, an either/or decision, regarding which he will follow. Fellowship with God and His Word excludes all other systems of belief.
As yoking a clean animal with an unclean is wrong, believers cannot yoke themselves with others who differ with Christian life values. An “unbeliever” is someone who rejects Christ as Savior. In Deuteronomy 22:10, a clean animal could not be yoked together with an unclean—such as an ox, which was clean, with a donkey, which was unclean. They do not have the same nature, gait, or size. There will be no success with this combination. This combination will dull spiritual sensitivities. There is little in common between a Christian and non-Christian except eating and the ordinary course of providing for the household.
Once a person becomes a Christian, he becomes part of a new breed. It is essential to take that into consideration when making a values-oriented decision. The believer is under a new command and a new orientation. He has a different purpose than the non-Christian. He is not to insulate from social contact with an unbeliever, but he is to isolate himself from his values. Any binding contract such as marriage or a business deal that ties the values of two people together is the issue here.
PRINCIPLE:
There is a vast chasm between the values of Christ and the kingdom of Satan.
APPLICATION:
The Christian and non-Christian values are not compatible in a marriage, business partnerships, attitudes, religion, ethics, and social life. Unequal yoking is an intimate association with non-Christians that undermines Christian values.
Since there is a vast chasm of values between Christ and the world, believers need to take care of the extent to which they form their associations. It would be wrong for a believer to marry an unbeliever because it affects every area of life: their social life, raising children, whether they go to church, and many other areas of life.
The Christian should not have an undue alliance with a non-Christian in business because the believer may be tempted to make decisions based on a non-Christian worldview. This is not an injunction against all associations with unbelievers. The argument of this verse is not to have no contact with non-Christians. Paul argued against that in 1 Corinthians 5:9-11. He assumed that they would shop in the marketplace (1 Co 10:25). He encouraged believers to have dinner with non-Christians (1 Co 10:26). His point is that a Christian is not to form his values from the culture around him.
The idea of separation from the values of non-Christians is not a set of taboos but a statement of principle, which governs the direction of the believer’s behavior. The issue revolves around two spheres of life, God’s life in the Christian and life without God. One sphere is the Christian way of life; the believer thinks, behaves, and acts within that sphere. This is what Jesus called the “abundant life.” This is a life that belongs to high and holy things. Christianity is not merely a higher level of human life; it goes far beyond the religious profession. To sustain new life in Christ and make it vibrant, we separate it from anything that would contaminate it.
The only proper yoke for a Christian is to be yoked to Christ (Mt 11:29-30).
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.” 2 Corinthians 6:14-16
I am occasionally presented with cases in which there are believers in relationships of all kinds with unbelievers. It could be marriage, a working relationship, a friend or neighbor.
In a marriage relationship, the usual presentation is that one party has come to Christ in the course of the marriage and the other has not. I do occasionally get a situation where a woman has willingly and knowingly married an unbeliever. I have also been involved with cases where one person in the marriage has made a false profession of faith and married a believer.
None of these cases is the ideal. These marriages are typically difficult and tumultuous for both parties. If there are children involved the difficulties are magnified exponentially.
In any relationship between a Christian and non-Christian the reasons for the ongoing discord are clear; the born again person has been transformed; they have different thoughts, values, standards and beliefs than the unbeliever. Their goals, motives and principles are different.
We look at life with an entirely different perspective than an unbeliever does. Our hope is in a different place, and our thoughts are focused on eternity rather than the temporal.
Our perspective on life is radically different than that of an unbeliever. Because of this, we do not have the same harmony or degree of fellowship in our relationships with unbelievers as we do with our believing family.
If you have entered into an unequally yoked situation, I suspect you realized early on that your relationship would never reach beyond the level of the superficial with this person. It grieves us deeply as we realize that they cannot share in the things that have come to mean the most to us in the entire world. Sure, we may share holidays and community with them, social events and sporting or recreation interests, but deep down the difference is radical. We realize that the difference is actually opposition.
Even in a marriage, the closest and most intimate human relationship we have as adults the believer and unbeliever are on the heart level diametrically opposed to each other. In the believer’s heart, Jesus Christ is Lord, Savior, Master.
To the unbeliever Christ may be a good man, he may be someone recognized in religiosity or ritual, he may even be someone treated with indifference or scorn. He may be viewed by the unbeliever as the one who messed up the perfect spouse, an intruder, a spoiler. The believer has oriented his or her life around godly pursuits and the unbeliever has as his focus “self” and the pursuit of comfort, monetary gain, and success.
With all this in mind, is it any wonder there is discord and strife in these relationships? How do we handle with truth and grace these people we love so dearly, or once loved so deeply who now are in opposition to everything we believe in? There is a misconception in this area that “God wants me to be happy” and “God doesn’t want me to live like this” that cannot be scripturally validated.
Women married to believers sometimes seek a way out. They come to our counseling center wanting a second opinion, a church validation that what they were told elsewhere was right and ask us to in essence rubber stamp their decision. Corinthians 7:12- 13 is clear that we cannot divorce our husbands for being unbelievers.
I find this to be a difficult and heart wrenching situation. I want to be compassionate and recognize the difficult situation the woman finds herself in. I was once in an unequally yoked relationship and I understand the misery and difficulty that is involved.
There are no easy answers for this situation. It requires much wisdom and seeking after the Lord for comfort, direction and strength. Tomorrow we will look at some specifics for living in an unequally yoked relationship.
Being unequally yoked with unbelievers (Second Corinthians 6:14), includes the subject of marriage - But does it also mean that as Christians we should not be unequally yoked with people who are not Christians? -How are we to be friendly to sinners and witness and love them - and at the same time not be yoked with them?
Sheryl
ANSWER:
Sheryl:
You ask a difficult question. That passage of Scripture (Second Corinthians 6:14) has been applied to many, many situations – and taken to unusual extremes in some cases. Let me try to break it down as I understand the verse.
1. First, let’s get the verse before us. Paul writes, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness (Second Corinthians 6:14). The “bound together” is translated, “unequally yoked” in the KJV.
2. Second, what does the term mean? It refers to coupling two things together that don’t belong, or fit as one. It would be like trying to hitch, or yoke, a donkey and giraffe together to pull a wagon. The two creatures are different, and would not fit into the same yoke or harness.
Figuratively, the term (heterozugeo) refers to submission to authority, bondage, or bond service to a master. It is an emblem of servitude to some moral bondage.
3. Next, we need to look at the context of the verse. In verse four of the chapter, Paul referred to himself as a, “servant of God.” He was in bondage to Christ. He also told the Corinthians to not be in bondage together with, “unbelievers.” Well, what unbelievers was he talking about?
In 11:13 Paul identified a group of men he called “false apostles” who were leading the Corinthians astray. They were opposed to Paul. In fact, he described them in very harsh language, “For such men are false apostles, deceitful workers, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. Therefore it is not surprising if his servants also disguise themselves as servants of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their deeds” (2 Corinthians 11:13-15).
Paul’s fear was that these men would lead believers, “astray from the simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ” (2 Corinthians 11:3).
The issue, then, is one of correct Christian teaching and living as opposed to false Christian teaching and ungodly living. That is why in 2 Corinthians 6 14-18 Paul contrasts righteousness against lawlessness; light against darkness; Christ against Satan; Christians against non believers; and the temple of God with idol worship. Christians are the temple of the living God. They are in bondage to Christ.
Paul is saying one cannot be both a bondservant of Christ and a bondservant of the things of this world as organized and directed by Satan and his world system (cf. 1 John 2:15-17). The two systems are mutually exclusive – like oil and water.
To make the issue even more narrow, Paul is specifically condemning idolatry, and Christian believers actively involving themselves in such practices.
4. The immediate application, then, of Paul’s teaching in this context reads, “Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all defilement of flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God (2 Corinthians 7:1). That is, live a simple life of pure devotion to Christ, and don’t mix Christianity up with other religions or teachings that are contrary to the Bible.
5. Now, I come back to your question, Sheryl. Beyond these two issues, I personally would be very careful in applying the verse to specific situations. Should we apply it to marriages? Business relationships? – or whatever? If this is the case, then should we have all Christians who are married to non-believers get a divorce? I teach at a state community college. Should I then quit my job and starve because I work among unbelievers? I think not. Such would be foolishness.
Paul even addressed this issue in another place where he wrote, “I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with immoral people; I did not at all mean with the immoral people of this world, or with the covetous and swindlers, or with idolaters; for then you would have to go out of the world. But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he should be an immoral person…For what have I to do with judging outsiders?...But those who are outside, God judges” (1 Corinthians 5:9-13).
Here, the word “associate” means to mingle or mix with, to have or keep company with. What then, did Paul contradict himself? No. The main issue, as I see it, is to live and work among unbelievers, but as we do so, do it with integrity and faithfulness and devotion to Christ and the values He taught His bondservants – of which I am one. We need not participate in the unholy things of this world, but we can be the, “salt of the earth,” and, “light of the world” (Matthew 5:13, 14).
Christians must live in this world as ambassadors of Christ, but our citizenship is in heaven (2 Corinthians 5:20; Philippians 3:20). We are privileged to carry out the tasks Christ has given us, but we do not need to plunge ourselves into the evil things of this culture while doing so.
You are correct, Sheryl, how can we win others to Christ if we don’t befriend them? And, how can we have a credible witness if we live in sin and deny Christ? We cannot.
Unequally yoked simply means to not try to live for Christ, and throw ourselves into the sinfulness of this world at the same time. We cannot have two masters.
In an acceptable time I have heard you,
And in the day of salvation I have helped you.”
Behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.
a. Workers together with Him: Paul sees himself as a co-worker with Jesus Christ. They are partners, and Jesus has given us the ministry of reconciliation(2 Corinthians 5:18). Since Paul is among the ambassadors for Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20), he works with Jesus.
i. What an amazing job: workers together with Him! It isn’t that God needed Paul, or any of us. Instead, it is that God wants us to be workers together with Him for ourgood. It’s like the little boy with the toy lawnmower following dad as dad mows the lawn. For the sake of pure efficiency, dad should ask the boy to go away because he is really just in the way. But it is so good for the boy to work with dad! And because dad loves his boy, he wants him to work together with Him.
ii. The word “workers” itself is important. There is something good and important in work itself, so much so that God wants us to be workers together with Him. God’s best for our life is never a state of ease and comfort and indulgent inactivity – even if we did all those things together with Him. God wants us to be workers together with Him, not “couch potatoes” or “pew potatoes” together with Him.
iii. We are workers together with Him. Paul never said God works together with us. It isn’t our work that God helps us with. It is His work that He asks us to do together with Him. Instead of trying to get God to help us with our work, we need to find out what God’s work is, and do it with Him.
iv. The picture of ambassadors for Christ(2 Corinthians 5:20) is especially helpful in understanding the nature of being workers together with Him. An ambassador can rightly be described as working together with his king. Yet, the ambassador himself has no power or authority or agenda on his own – it is all bound up in his king. The king delegatespower and authority to the ambassador and reveals his agenda to the ambassador, and then the king expects the ambassador to fulfill that agenda.
b. Also plead with you: Paul told us that God was pleading through the ministry of the apostles (2 Corinthians 5:20). Now Paul will also plead with the Corinthian Christians. To plead is to beg, and Paul isn’t too proud to beg with eternity on the line.
c. Not to receive the grace of God in vain: The Corinthian Christians had obviously received the grace of God. They would not be Christians at all had they not received the grace of God. Yet having received it, they were potentially guilty of receiving the grace of God in vain, so Paul pleads with them to not do this.
i. What does it mean to receive the grace of God in vain? It means to receive the goodness and favor of God, yet to hinder the work of grace in one’s life. It means to receive the favor of God and to fail in what Paul spoke of in 1 Corinthians 15:10: But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace toward me was not in vain; but I labored more abundantly than they all, yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.
ii. According to 1 Corinthians 15:10, if Paul did not work as hard as he did, the grace of God would still be given to him, but in some measure it would have been given in vain. Grace, by definition, is given freely, but how we receive grace will help to determine how effective the gift of grace is. Grace is “frequently used by St. Paul to express the favours and privileges offered to the members of the Church of Christ, not to be limited to grace given at any special moment (such as at salvation)… it is offered, independently of man’s faith and obedience, but it will not profit without these.” (Bernard)
iii. Grace isn’t given because of any works, past, present or promised; yet it is given to encourage work, not to say work is unnecessary. God doesn’t want us to receive His grace and become passive. Paul knew that God gives His grace, we work hard, and the work of God is done.
iv. Many Christians struggle at this very point. Is God supposed to do it or am I supposed to do it? The answer is, “Yes!” God does it and we do it. Trust God, rely on Him, and then get to work and work as hard as you can!That is how we see the work of God accomplished. If I neglect my end of the partnership, God’s grace doesn’t accomplish all that it might and is therefore given in vain.
v. “God’s grace is always coming to my heart and life in very wonderful and blessed experience of now. Yesterday’s grace is totally inadequate for the burden of today, and if I do not learn to lay hold of heavenly resources every day of my life for the little things as well as the big things, as a Christian I soon become stale, barren, and fruitless in the service of the Lord.” (Redpath)
d. Now is the acceptable time… now is the day of salvation: By quoting and applying Isaiah 49:8, Paul wants to give the Corinthian Christians a sense of urgency. God has an acceptable time for us to work with His grace. God has a day of salvation that will not last forever. This is no time for Christian lives consumed with ease and comfort and self-focus. It is time to get busy for the Lord and to be workers together with Him.
2. (3) How this responsibility affected Paul: his passion to be blameless as a servant of the gospel.
We give no offense in anything, that our ministry may not be blamed.
a. We give no offense in anything: Paul was willing to do most anything to make sure he gave no offense in anything. He was willing to forego his salary as a minister of the gospel (1 Corinthians 9:3-15). He was willing to allow others to be more prominent. He was willing to work hard and endure hardship. Paul was not afraid to offend anyone over the gospel of Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 1:18-25), but he would not allow his style of ministry to offend anyone.
b. That our ministry may not be blamed: Of course, Paul’s ministry was blamed and discredited by the Corinthian Christians. What Paul means is that our ministry may not rightly be blamed. Paul could not do anything about false accusations except live in such a way that any fair-minded person would see such accusations as false.
3. (4-10) Paul’s credentials as a blameless minister.
But in all things we commend ourselves as ministers of God: in much patience, in tribulations, in needs, in distresses, in stripes, in imprisonments, in tumults, in labors, in sleeplessness, in fastings; by purity, by knowledge, by longsuffering, by kindness, by the Holy Spirit, by sincere love, by the word of truth, by the power of God, by the armor of righteousness on the right hand and on the left, by honor and dishonor, by evil report and good report; as deceivers, and yet true; as unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and behold we live; as chastened, and yet not killed; as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, and yet possessing all things.
a. In all things we commend ourselves: Paul will now recount his resume’ to the Corinthian Christians. Here are the things he will list to commend himself before them.
b. In much patience: Paul’s first qualification was patience. The ancient Greek word used here is hupomone, which has the idea of endurance instead of simply “waiting.”
i. We often think of patienceas a passive thing – the ability to sit around and wait for something to happen. That is not the idea of the word Paul used here. It is an active endurance instead of a passive waiting. The ancient Greek word hupomone “does not describe the frame of mind which can sit down with folded hands and bowed head and let a torrent of troubles sweep over it in passive resignation. It describes the ability to bear things in such a triumphant way that it transfigures them.” (Barclay)
c. Tribulations, needs anddistresses: In Paul’s resume’ as an apostle, ambassador, and co-worker with Jesus, he follows patience with describing why he needed this endurance. First, it was because of the general struggles and trials of life. Paul was often stressed and under pressure (this is the idea behind the word for tribulations), often needy, and often in distress.
i. “Distresses signify, properly, a man’s being straitened, or thrust up in a place, so as that he knoweth not how to steer himself; and, metaphorically, a want of counsel, not knowing what to do, or which way to turn ourselves.” (Poole)
d. Stripes, imprisonments, andtumults: As Paul continues his resume’, he writes of sufferings directly inflicted by men. Stripeswere the wounds on the back from a whipping, imprisonmentsreferred to the frequent time Paul spent in jail, and tumults speak of violence from an angry mob.
i. “Nowadays it is not the violence but the mockery or the amused contempt of the crowd against which the Christian must stand fast.” (Barclay)
e. Labors, sleeplessness, and fastings: Paul continues his resume’ with describing his self-inflicted hardships. No one made him work so hard, keep so many sleepless nights, or go without food so often. These were true trials but ones Paul chose willingly as a co-worker with Jesus Christ. Paul isn’t complaining about these, because they were self-inflicted, but they were relevant to his need for patience.
i. Paul knew he needed endurance, and he knew many things in his life drew him to seek that endurance. Some of them were the general trials of life, some were sufferings directly brought by others, and some were self-inflicted. Not every trial was the same, but they all made him need endurance.
f. By purity, by knowledge, by longsuffering, by kindness, by the Holy Spirit, by sincere love, by the word of truth, by the power of God, by the armor of righteousness on the right hand and on the left: Here, Paul begins to describe the resources he took advantage of in triumphing over adversity. If he honestly listed his trials, he will also honestly list the fruit of the Spirit and the power of God in his life.
i. Yes, Paul had the trials of 2 Corinthians 6:4-5 in greater measure than most men. Yet he also had the blessings of 2 Corinthians 6:6-7 in greater measure than most men.
ii. The idea of on the right hand and on the left is of holding both offensive and defensive weapons. It probably has in mind “both advancing and being attacked.” “Particularly, the shield and the sword; the former on the left arm, the latter on the right hand. We have the doctrine of truth, and the power of God, as an armour to protect us on all sides, every where, and on all occasions.” (Clarke)
g. By honor and dishonor, by evil report and good report; as deceivers, and yet true; as unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and behold we live; as chastened, and yet not killed; as sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, and yet possessing all things. In concluding his resume’, Paul will list his references, describing both what the world thought of him and what God thought of him.
i. The world (including the worldly Corinthian Christians) described Paul with words like: dishonor… evil report… deceivers… unknown… dying… chastened… sorrowful… poor… having nothing.
ii. In His reference, God described Paul with words like: honor… good report… true… well known… behold we live… not killed… always rejoicing… making many rich… possessing all things.
iii. Which description was true – the world’s or God’s? 2 Corinthians 4:18 gives the answer. According to the things which are seen, the world’s estimation was correct. According to the things which are not seen, God’s estimation was correct. Which estimation is more important to you?
B. Paul speaks to the Corinthians as a father.
1. (11-13) Paul’s desire for reconciliation.
O Corinthians! We have spoken openly to you, our heart is wide open. You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted by your ownaffections. Now in return for the same (I speak as to children), you also be open.
a. O Corinthians! Paul has spent enough time laying down the principles. Now he makes a pointed appeal to the Corinthian Christians. We can sense the depth and passion in his heart as he cries “O Corinthians!”
b. We have spoken openly to you, our heart is wide open: Paul is practicing what he preached in Ephesians 4:15: speaking the truth in love. He genuinely loved the Corinthians with an open heart, yet he would also speak openly to them.
c. You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted by your own affections: The Corinthian Christians played the “victim” before Paul. Out of godly necessity he was firm with them on previous occasions (1 Corinthians 4:18-21, 2 Corinthians 1:23). Now, they probably claimed to be restrictedby the “hurt” Paul caused them. They probably said, “We would love to reconcile with you Paul, but the pain you caused us restricts us. We just can’t get over it.”
i. But the real problem was that the Corinthian Christians were restricted by [their] own affections. It wasn’t that Paul did not love them enough (which was their claim as “victims”). It was that they loved too much! Their own affections restrictedthem.
ii. What did they love too much? First, they loved the world too much, and Paul will deal with that love in following verses. They also loved themselves too much and refused to really deal with their selfish and worldly attitudes towards Paul.
d. You also be open: Paul wants to see the same self-searching honesty in the Corinthian Christians that he just displayed to them. They had to do this so that they could be reconciled. The rift between Paul and the Corinthian church could be healed, but it was in the hands of the Corinthian Christians to do it. They had to also be open.
2. (14-18) Paul tells them to narrow their love.
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
“I will dwell in them
And walk among them.
I will be their God,
And they shall be My people.”
Therefore
“Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.”
“I will be a Father to you,
and you shall be My sons and daughters,
says the LORD Almighty.”
a. Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers: Paul is speaking to the overly broad affections of the Corinthian Christians. They had joined themselves to unbelievers, and this prevented their reconciliation with Paul.
i. The idea of do not be unequally yoked together is based on Deuteronomy 22:9, which prohibited yoking together two different animals. It speaks of joining two things that should not be joined.
ii. In what ways had the Corinthian Christians become unequally yoked together with unbelievers? How can we do this? Certainly by marrying an unbeliever, which is the most common way this principle is applied. “A very wise and very holy man was given his judgment on this point: ‘A man who is truly pious, marrying with an unconverted woman, will either draw back to perdition, or have a cross during life.’ The same may be said of a pious woman marrying an unconverted man. Such persons cannot say this petition of the Lord’s prayer, Lead us not into temptation. They plunge into it of their own accord.” (Clarke)
iii. However, Paul means much more here than only marrying an unbeliever. It really applies to any environment where we let the world influence our thinking. When we are being conformed to this world and are not being transformed by the renewing of your mind(Romans 12:2), we join together with unbelievers in an ungodly way.
iv. This speaks especially to the issue of influence. Paul is not suggesting that Christians never associate with unbelievers (he makes this clear in 1 Corinthians 5:9-13). The principle is that we are to be in the world, but not of the world, like a ship should be in the water, but water shouldn’t be in the ship. If the world is influencing us, it is clear we are unequally yoked together with unbelievers. And this unequal yoke, or ungodly influence, may come through a book, a movie, a television show, a magazine, or even through worldly Christian friends. Most Christians are far too indiscriminate about the things they allow to influence their minds and lives.
v. We all like to believe that we can be around ungodly things as much as we want and that we are strong enough to ward off the influence. But we must take seriously the words of Scripture: Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits”(1 Corinthians 15:33). It needs to come back to the simple question from Romans 12:2: Are we being conformed to this world, or are we being transformed by the renewing of your mind?
vi. The Corinthian Christians thought like worldly people, not like godly people. They gained this way of looking at life – or at least they stayed in it – because of their ungodly associations. Paul tells them to break those yokes of fellowship with the ungodly!
b. What fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? The Corinthian Christians were too loving and too affectionate in the sense that they thought it was “accepting” of them to allow lawlessness with righteousness, to accept darkness along with the light, and to admit Belial along with Christ.
i. Belial is a word borrowed from Hebrew, meaning worthlessness or wickedness. Here it is used as another word for Satan. “The term is used only in this place in the New Testament, but very often in the Old Testament, to express men notoriously wicked and scandalous.” (Poole)
c. What communion has light with darkness? By using the term communion, Paul indicates that he really means influencemore than presence. “Parties are said to be in communion when they are so united that what belongs to the one belongs to the other, or when what is true of the one is true of the other.” (Hodge)
d. What agreement has the temple of God with idols?Apparently, the Corinthian Christians still struggled with the idolatry problem Paul referred to in 1 Corinthians 8-10. Their association with idols influenced their thinking, making it more and more worldly.
e. You are the temple of the living God: In 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, Paul wrote of individual Christians as being temples of God. Here, he refers to the church as a whole being the temple. Because temples are holy places and should be protected against things that might defile the holy place, we should protect our hearts and minds as holy places before the Lord.
i. So, because Ezekiel 37:26-27 tells us God is in the midst of His temple (I will dwell in them and walk among them), Isaiah 52:11tells us how we should make that temple a holy place (Come out from among them and be separate… do not touch what is unclean). The promise and I will receive you reminds us that this is not only a separation from evil but also a separation unto God. “It is not a question simply of trying to empty your heart and life of every worldly desire – what an awful impossibility! It is rather opening your heart wide to all the love of God in Christ, and letting that love just sweep through you and exercise its expulsive power till your heart is filled with love.” (Redpath)
ii. Paul quotes Jeremiah 31:9to show the benefit of separating from worldly influence: a more intimate relationship with God (I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters). There is always a glorious promise for those who are willing to separate themselves from the world’s influences for the sake of godliness.
iii. As Paul quotes these passages, he isn’t necessarily quoting them word-for-word from either the Hebrew or the Septuagint. When Paul quotes Scripture, he often paraphrases it. “A comparison of texts reveals that he did not feel himself bound to quote slavishly word for word, but rather according to the sense and with the purpose of applying and showing the relevance of the revelation to the circumstances of his readers.” (Hughes)
f. Come out from among them and be separate: This call deals with the problem of “too much affection” Paul mentioned in 2 Corinthians 6:12. We really can love too much, thinking we may just add the love of God without renouncing the ideas of Satan and this world. Remember that one of the seeds that failed in the parable of the soils had ground that was too fertile. It would grow everything.
g. Says the LORD Almighty: The title Almighty uses the ancient Greek word pantokrater, which means, “the one who has his hand on everything.” In the whole New Testament, the word is used only here and in the book of Revelation. Paul wants us to understand that it is the sovereign God of heaven who offers us adoption as His children as we separate unto Him.
i. The call to purity and separation unto God flows from the offer of reconciliation mentioned at the end of 2 Corinthians 5. “A man cannot accept reconciliation with God and live in sin; because the renunciation of sin is involved in the acceptance of reconciliation. Paul never assumes that men may accept one benefit of redemption, and reject another. They cannot take pardon and refuse sanctification.” (Hodge)
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” – 2 Corinthians 6:14
This is hard! By far, this verse is one of the hardest commands that God has given us. Either we can be branded as judgmental people or we can be branded as hypocrites for acting so holy. However, we first have to understand what God truly wants and means with this verse. When Paul wrote this to the people in Corinth, he was addressing their idolatrous hearts and their hard-headed minds.
Paul wants to remind them to go back to God and to remember what God really wants them to do. Instead of their ungodly acts, they must remember all the things that God made them remember because it is a way to realign their hearts. Now, to address these ungodly hearts, Paul wants to remind them not to be yoking with unbelievers. He purposely stated the word yoke to put a connection to this with the animals who cannot be bound together or who should not be locked together.
So, this is just the same as our situation. Paul wants to remind us just like that specific livestock, we too should not be yoked with unbelievers. We, believers of Christ, are now different from them since we are all saved by grace through faith. However it doesn’t mean that we are to ignore them rudely, but we should not build, desire, and put ourselves into an intimate connection with them. These connections will eventually lead us away from God.
Many times we have heard about Christians having relationships with non-believers, and believe that they can just lead them to Christ. Instead of those being led to Christ, it’s the Christians being led away from Christ. Now, this is why we have to understand the importance of it because we are not spiritually equal with them. We are saved, we know the truth, and we are serving our Savior. Non-believers will never understand that and in a relationship, it will just bring strife to them.
Paul then further specified that there’s really no common between unrighteous and righteous. No common between light and darkness. Therefore, we Christians have really no common between non-believers. This is not being harsh or promoting judgmental things, but Paul was being so particular with this. This is to help us understand that being bound with people who are not spiritually equal with us, will give us a hard time in the future. Thus, may we always obey God and follow His guidance.
Let us follow Him, and serve Him above all. May we always consider His plans, His Wills, and His commands above our own selfish desires. God wants what’s best for us, He loves us and He also loves those who still don’t know Him. Let us help reach out to other people so that we will be able to bring more people to Christ. Our desire should be making all of the people Christ’s disciples so that we will indeed not be yoked with unbelievers but be yoked by people who are also saved and know Christ as their Lord and Savior.
What isn’t a yoke? If the association can be ended easily, doesn’t involve any mixing of money, or doesn’t require the parties to work closely together, it isn’t a yoke.
- Working as an employee isn’t a yoke because the employee can quit the job at any time. However, some say this can become a yoke if the employee is forced to do things he or she thinks are wrong.
- Buying, selling, and trading aren’t a yoke because there is no ongoing cooperation. However, some would say that the buying or selling of immoral goods involves a yoke.
- A contract such as a mortgage isn’t a yoke because there is no partnership work, but a mortgage that puts too much financial strain on a family or individual could put them in bondage.
- Interacting with unbelievers socially isn’t a yoke. Both Paul and Jesus emphasized that we needed to remain engaged with the world in order to witness to the world.
The power of the yoke lies in combining the strength of the parties that are pulling together. When we take Christ’s yoke upon us, we gain all his strength to help accomplish our common goal. A Christian spouse can multiply the power of our work for the kingdom and our own sanctification. If we partner with unbelievers, we may find advantages in worldly pursuits, but not in spiritual endeavors.
Paul did say that if believers were already married to an unbeliever, they should stay in the marriage if their spouse was willing. This has led some to say that there is no definite sin in marrying a non-Christian. But the thrust of Paul’s warning is that to do so would be a mistake. More than that, it means denying oneself the power that comes from working side by side with another believer.
A mature believer will want his or her spouse not just to profess some kind of creed or be willing to go to church. What they will want is not just a marriage that is minimally Christian, but a Christian marriage. And a Christian marriage is described in Ephesians five like this. Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church. And husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her. Now what this means is a Christian woman won’t just look for a man who has a cross tattooed on his shoulder, but a man who is ready to die daily in the sacrificial calling of leading a home. Love as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her. And a Christian man won’t just look for a woman who wears a cross around her neck, but is willing to die as she submits to his leadership in reliance upon Christ. Both husband and wife are engaged in constant self denial as they live out the beauty of the Christian marriage. – John Piper
What is a yoke? A yoke is an implement that is used to harness animals together to pull a load or a plow. The yoke is a familiar and useful tool to agrarian (farming) societies. This device is used to join a pair of animals, like oxen, to work together, simultaneously. They can be used to pull out tree trunks, move boulders, pull logs, to plow fields, or pull a loaded cart. The yoke is often used in the Bible to express the symbolism of having two that are similar in capacity so that they can both work together. Jesus referred to a yoke once when He told His followers to, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30). When we are walking with Christ and are in Christ, we can share the load of our life with Him and the walk, although not easy, will be more bearable.
Unequally Yoke
What did Paul mean when he said to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14)? Does he mean with friends or with those we are dating or considering marriage with? I believe it is all of these that Paul was addressing but he may be emphasizing marriage in these texts. In the context we can see that Paul was writing about unbelievers (including friends), those we might consider dating, and those whom we might want to marry. When we read the entire context of 2 Corinthians chapter six, I believe we can see the answer clearly as with any Scriptures. Context is always important. As a rule, I do not like to read just one verse and quote it without reading the entire chapter and possibly the entire book. So let’s see what Paul was talking about in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18:
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial, Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” Therefore, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” And, “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”
In verses 14-16 Paul contrasts light and darkness and righteousness with wickedness. These have nothing in common. Jesus said that “You are the light of the world” (Matthew 5:16) “but men loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil” (John 3:19a). No one who believes in Christ “should stay in darkness” (John 12:46c).
Also consider, “What harmony is there between Christ and Belial” (2 Corinthians 6:15)? The answer is there is no agreement between the two! Belial is a symbol of a demon or the Devil himself. Belial also means someone who is self-sufficient, truly independent, and has no master. It is no wonder that Belial is a Hebrew adjective meaning “worthless.” We must not be self-sufficient but worship and depend upon our Master…that is Jesus Christ. These two are diametrically opposed and opposites of each other.
We are told that we are the temple of God because God the Holy Spirit dwells in us, therefore there is no place for idols. God must be first and foremost in our lives (Matthew 6:33) but this would be difficult if we marry or have as best friends those who do not believe in God.
Just as God told Israel, “Come out from them and be separate” (Isaiah 52:11) so we too must be separate from unbelievers in close friendships and in marriage (which includes dating non-believers). God is our Father (2 Corinthians 6:18) but the unbelievers have Satan as their father (John 8:44). I know that sounds harsh, but those are not my words, rather, that is Jesus speaking.
Unequal Yokes
Imagine you see a farmer getting ready to plow his or her field. They hook up a powerful ox to one side and on the other side, they hook up a tiny little Chihuahua. Which side is going to work the hardest? Will they plow together in an equal fashion? Can they walk along and carry the load on an equal basis? Of course not! One will likely be dragged along and impede the progress of the other. One may pull to the left and one may pull to the right. The one that is the primary worker will be pulling more than their fair share. The ox will strain because the Chihuahua will want to run away or go the other direction. They can not work together because they are unequally yoked together. They will have little success and the work will either not get done or it will be exponentially more difficult. It is not fair to the Chihuahua or to the ox. This will simply not work. They will eventually have to be unyoked. For some that are unequally yoked, this means divorce. How tragic and how unnecessary; it could have been prevented.
The same principle applies to dating or considering an unbeliever as a marriage partner. Their morals will not be the same, they may have differing principles in child rearing, their television or movie taste will be not be the same, their language, work ethic, just about everything will be different. They will struggle at almost ever thing they do. God commands Christians to not marry unbelievers because it is in their best interests. No marriage is always better than a bad marriage, especially since marriage is intended to last until “death do us part.” Don’t be fooled by thinking that you can convert them after you marry them because it is God who draws people to Christ (John 6:44). Just because they say they believe in God does not mean they believe in Jesus Christ as their Lord for He is Lord of all or He is not Lord at all. Even the Devil and his demons believe in God but that doesn’t make them Christians (James 2:19). You will know them by their fruit (Matthew 7:16, 20) and not by what they say. Time will tell. Jesus meant this when He said, “A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit”(Matthew 7:18) and “Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit” (Matthew 7:17).
Equally Yoked
When Jesus said to “Take my yoke upon you,” there is the idea that we can put our heavy loads on His shoulders (which is where the yoke goes on the team of oxen). We must be walking along side of Christ to have the yoke be useful to us. If we walk ahead of Christ, the load will be on us…if we walk behind, we will get no help with our heavy burdens…but if we walk with Christ, we have access to Christ and we can have Him share the load. That is how we can find “rest for [our] souls” for His “yoke is easy and His burden is light.” The same principle applies to those who marry believers. They walk together in agreement. They can share life’s heavy loads together for “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work”(Ecclesiastes 4:9) and “If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up” (Ecclesiastes4:10)! Amos 3:3 puts it this way, “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”
Being married to believers is like a three-fold cord because, “one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:12). Two are able to stand stronger than one against the Enemy but when Christ is in the marriage, it becomes a strong “cord of three strands” which is “not quickly broken.” The idea is that when Christ is at the center of the marriage, the two become stronger because of Christ’s presence and His strength.
I have married many couples who were both believers and I have married couples who were non-believers but I refuse to marry couples where one is a believer and the other is a non-believer. Believe me when I say this that I am trying to spare them much grief and heartache and perhaps prevent a needless divorce.
If You’re Married to an Unbeliever
What happens if you are presently married to an unbeliever? My own opinion is worthless compared to what the Bible teaches. Paul wrote that “If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband” (1 Corinthians 7:12-14). It is crystal clear that Paul says not to divorce someone if they are not a believer because you may be an agent used by God to bring that person to saving faith. Paul concludes this thought by writing that such a “person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them” (1 Corinthians 7:17).
Conclusion
There is no doubt that a Christian should not date, become engaged, or marry an unbeliever. They will have trouble in their marriage to be sure, they will be unequally yoked throughout their lives, they will have many disagreements, they will struggle over ethical and moral decisions, they will differ in their child rearing philosophies, but above all God commands believers to “not be yoked together with unbelievers “ because “what fellowship can light have with darkness?“ It is for our own good and God always knows what best for us…more so than we do for He is God and we are not.
The primary verse in question is 2 Corinthians 6:14 and even though we hear this most often associated with marriage, the verse in context is not specifically about marriage:
2 Corinthians 6:14 – Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (NKJV)
Since it is a direct command (“do not be…”) followed by some stark comparisons (righteousness vs. lawlessness; light vs. dark), we are compelled to fully understand it’s meaning and know how it applies to us today on a daily basis.
What Do Eggs Have to Do With It?
Despite my attempt at humor, it has nothing to do with eggs (spelled “yolk” if you’ve missed my lame joke). Officially the definition of yoke is: stable gear that joins two draft animals at the neck so they can work together as a team.
The best way to define it is to show you what it is:
A yoke is a harness that ties to animals together so that their pulling strength is combined. In this arrangement, it could also be that one animal’s strength is doing the work for both, or helping the other. This is more the context of Jesus’ words here:
Matthew 11:29-30 – Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” (NKJV)
When we yoke ourselves to Christ, we harness ourselves into his plan, his power… he guarantees we have the necessary power required. We follow his direction. We are controlled by the same “driver”.
It is interesting to note that another definition of yoke is: an oppressive power. This makes Matthew 11:29 even more appropriate because the yoke of Jesus is the opposite of oppressive; it is empowering. Consider this verse also, one of my favorite:
2 Peter 1:5 – But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, (NKJV)
“Giving all diligence” would be communicated today as “trying as hard as you possibly can”. The picture here is that God requires our very best effort while we know that the real power and success comes from God. Together with Matt 11:29 you would have a principle that goes something like this:
“Yoke yourself to Jesus. You’ll still try with all your might, but the power of Christ guarantees your success as a Christian. The burden is ‘light’ because we know that our effort is never in vain and God sees to every detail. The yoke is ‘easy’ because it only requires our childlike complete trust in the Lord.”
What a beautiful thought. No wonder there is rest for our souls when yoked to Christ.
Unequally Yoked With Unbelievers
What does that mean, “unequally yoked to unbelievers”? In context of 2Cor 6:14, it specifically means not to be tied together with the unsaved, the world, those who reject God in such a way as to be:
- heading the same direction
- trying to accomplish the same things
- yoked to them instead of to Christ (they are more important)
- depending on our power and theirs, instead of God
- being controlled by what they are being controlled by (the oxen are reigned by the farmer)
Okay, that’s fine and dandy but what does that mean on a practical level to my everyday life? How can we apply it? Listing some examples will give you a better picture than if I just try to explain it. But first, understand this… we have to live in this world. So being unyoked from the world does not mean we are to live in a cave. Consider Jesus and Paul’s words:
John 17:14 – I have given them Your word; and the world has hated them because they are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. (NKJV)
Romans 12:2 – And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. (NKJV)
We are to live in this world, that is a foregone conclusion of human existence, but we are not to be OF this world embracing what unbelievers embrace… in other words, we don’t YOKE ourselves to the world. We live in among the world but we don’t harness ourselves to it.
The Christian must be able to discern the difference. What is being “part” of this world (but not yoked) versus being “of”this world (yoked to it)? Some practical examples give us the clearest picture.
Practical Examples of Being Yoked
Example | “in” the world (not yoked) | “of” the world (yoked) |
Marriage | Married, but to a Believer |
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Business | Employed at a business owned by unbelievers |
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Money | Earning income not specifically doing “Christian” work or selling “Christian” products to believers or unbelievers |
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Sex | Enjoying sex within marriage |
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Parenting | Parenting children, school choices, electronic games, activities that may or may not be specifically “Christian” (ie. football or public school) |
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Self Improvement | Exercise, education and achievement that enhances your ability to live and demonstrate the Christian life |
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Time | Spending your time in activities other than “church” or Christian service such as sports, hobbies, leisure always keeping in mind that we are to be good stewards of the time God has allowed us |
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Goals | Having a goal that is not specifically “Christian” such as owning a nicer home or being a good golfer |
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Focus | You could be focused on something of this world such as sports or education without letting it compromise your Christian walk. |
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It is important for us to understand what this means to be “unequally yoked with unbelievers”. We must continually evaluate our life to make sure we are not “unequally yoked” in any way. Why?
2 Corinthians 6:14 – Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (NKJV; emphasis mine)
To be unequally yoked with the world is to mix opposites to our own detriment. Light and dark cannot coexist together in cooperation. Good and evil cannot walk hand in hand. Mixing opposite or contentious elements will cause us to stumble, be deceived, stagnate and waste resources (time, emotion, energy, money, etc).
To put Paul’s words (“For what fellowship has..”) in modern language we might say “Are you nuts? Do you want to cause a bunch of unnecessary hardship and trouble in your life? Do you want to make your Christian walk hard, or even impossible?”
Remember, God’s “rules” are not constraining or kill-joy. The Creator gave us an Instruction Manual because He loves us and knows how we should operate to have the greatest success, fulfillment, joy and blessing in this life. He tells us not to be unequally yoked… that is not a way to rob us of choices, but to direct us to the most rewarding ones
Five questions follow this command, each expecting in response a definite, "None!" The contrasts of righteousness/lawlessness, light/darkness, Christ/Beliar (or "Belial," a Jewish name for Satan), and believer/unbeliever end in the final contrast, "What agreement has the temple of God with idols?" (2 Cor. 6:16, NRSV). The claim, "We are the temple of the living God," is followed by quotations from the Old Testament. Within these, three strong commands, "Come out!," "be separate!" and "touch nothing unclean"! (verse 17) stand between two "promises" (verse 16;verses 17, 18). Looking back to these promises, the section closes with a call for holiness (2 Cor. 7:1).
How is holiness before God related to separation from the world? What kind of separation is Paul talking about? 2 Cor. 6:14-7:1.
When we read 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1 in light of his earlier counsel, Paul is not suggesting that we do not have any contact with unbelievers. After all, how could unbelievers ever have access to the gospel? Paul, the great Christian missionary, does not want to dampen the witness of believers. What, then, does he speak against? He speaks against "all alliances that give undue influence to those who do not love God." Any alliance with an unbeliever that risks the believer's exclusive loyalty to God "must be strictly avoided."—Manuscript Releases, vol. 8, p. 107. So Paul's call to separation in 2 Corinthians is much the same as his earlier calls to "flee from sexual immorality" (1 Cor. 6:18, NIV) and idolatry (1 Cor. 10:14).
"It is all right for the church to be in the world provided the world is not in the church. The ship does not sink when it is launched in the water; it sinks when the water gets into the ship .... The rescue work of the church declines in direct proportion to how much the world invades the church."—Roy J. Fish and J. E. Conant, Every-Member Evangelism, (New York: Harper and Row, 1976), p. 48.
Monday August 10
CHOOSING ONE'S YOKEFELLOWS (2 Cor. 6:14-7:1).
To what situations should we apply the counsel not to be "mismatched with unbelievers"? (2 Cor. 6:14, NRSV).
Christians often have repeated Paul's words to those thinking about marriage with unbelievers. Ellen White agrees: "Men and women professing godliness should tremble at the thought of entering into a marriage covenant with those who do not respect and obey the commandments of God. It was this that opened the flood-gates of sin to the antediluvians. Such a connection with the world is a direct departure from God's express requirement—Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers.' "—The Signs of the Times, Dec. 30, 1880.
However, Paul does not address his advice only to marriage. "The apostle Paul declares that it is impossible for the children of God to unite with worldlings.... This does not refer to marriage alone; any intimate relation of confidence and copartnership with those who have no love for God or the truth is a snare."—Testimonies, vol. 5, p. 13.
Other applications we might consider are:
1. Membership in secret societies (Evangelism, p. 617);
2. Inappropriate business relations (Historical Sketches of the Foreign Missions of the Seventh-day Adventists, p. 215);
3. Inappropriate involvement in politics (Fundamentals of Christian Education, p. 476);
4. Improper education of our children (Testimonies, vol. 6, p. 195);
5. Institutional collaboration with the world. "Let not God's people in any of our institutions sign a truce with the enemy of God and man. The duty of the church to the world is not to come down to their ideas and accept their opinions, their suggestions, but to heed the words of Christ through his servant Paul, 'Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? and what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?"—Testimonies to Ministers, p. 271.
Compare Paul's advice on marriage in 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 with his advice in 2 Corinthians 6:14-16. Is he contradicting himself? Why or why not?
Are you in danger of establishing any relationship that could put at risk your allegiance to Christ? If yes, what should you do to correct the situation? |
Tuesday August 11
PROMISES, PROMISES (2 Cor. 6:16-7:1).
God has called us to develop an appropriate distance with unbelievers in matters that could threaten our Christian identity (2 Cor. 6:14-16). For Paul, motivation to obey this call is found in God's promises. God can fulfill these promises only if we remain fully loyal to Him.
Reflect on the first promise Paul gives us. What should this promise mean to us today? 2 Cor. 6:16.
God's original plan, reflected in Eden, was for intimate fellowship with His newly created human companions. But when God comes, "walking in the garden at the time of the evening breeze" (Gen. 3:8, NRSV), His search for fellowship is frustrated by sin. Later, the tabernacle pitched amidst the camp of Israel testified to God's desire to dwell with His people. The incarnation of Jesus provides even greater testimony to God's longing for human fellowship. Jesus Christ became "Immanuel, . . . God with us" (Matt. 1:23). In the closing chapters of Revelation, we see the grand, end-time fulfillment of that divine longing. John sees "a new heaven and a new earth" and watches as the new Jerusalem descends. Then he hears "a loud voice from the throne" with its joyous announcement, "'Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God"' (Rev. 21:3, NIV).
What comfort and assurance does God's promise in 2 Cor. 6:18 bring to you as you resolve to put Him first and foremost in your life?
Reflecting on this theme of God's desire to be with His people, Paul invites us to claim the promise now. This promise is not to be fulfilled only in the new earth. It may be fulfilled to us in the present. As we separate ourselves, sometimes painfully, from compromising relationships, we have the promise of God's presence with us.
Between the "promises" is the command, "Come out!" (2 Cor. 6:17). Review other scriptures that repeat this command: Gen. 15:14; Ezra 10:11;Rev. 18:4. Think of areas in your life from which you need to "come out." In what specific ways will you do that? |
Wednesday August 12
I WILL BE YOUR FATHER (2 Cor. 6:17-7:16).
At what points in your Christian experience would the promise of 2 Corinthians 6:17, 18 have been most meaningful to you? (Compare Rev. 21:7.) Why?
The second promise Paul provides makes fellowship with God even more personal. then I will welcome you, and I will be your father, and you shall be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty"' (2 Cor. 6:17, 18, NRSV).
In order to follow Paul's advice not to be unequally yoked and to "come out," perhaps some of his converts thought it best to break off relationships with family members (see Matt. 10:37; Ps. 27:10). If so, this promise would be especially meaningful. Whenever we give up something we treasure because it stands in the way of our fellowship with God, He is there to welcome us with open arms. Paul himself knew this type of loss. He could say that, because of his devotion to Christ, he had "lost all things." He came to understand that it was a small price to pay for "the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord" (Phil. 3:7-9, NIV).
One inviting feature of this promise is found in Paul's use of the word daughters. The Old Testament passage he bases his thoughts on mentions only a "son" (2 Sam. 7:14). Paul wants women to know they are full partners with God.
In what specific ways does the Holy Spirit impress your heart to apply the promises in 2 Corinthians 7:1 and 2 Peter 1:3, 4? What difference would such application make in your life? What import would this have on your witness for Christ?
"The Lord Almighty" (NIV) Himself gives us these promises. "Almighty" translates the Greek word that means "All-Powerful" or "Omnipotent" and is used only of God in Jewish and Christian literature. Aside from several uses in Revelation (1:8; 4:8; 11:17; 15:3;16:7; 19:6, 15; 21:22), this is the only other use of the term in the New Testament. Would you expect empty and pointless promises from "the Lord Almighty"?
Thursday August 13
GODLY GRIEF (2 Cor. 7:2-16).
What things make you the happiest? Why? Compare the sources of Paul's joy in 2 Corinthians 7:2-16. Why does Paul repeatedly exclaim, "I rejoice"?
On the heels of the "painful visit," Paul had written to the Corinthians a "painful letter" that he worried about (verse 8). Paul had initially planned to meet Titus at Troas (2 Cor. 2:12, 13). Not finding him there, Paul went to Macedonia, where he experienced inner turmoil as a result of worrying over his relationship with the Corinthians (verse 5). The encouraging report Titus brought when he finally arrived in Macedonia did much to calm Paul. The Corinthians had welcomed Titus "with fear and trembling" (verse 15) and true repentance. So thorough was their heart work that Paul wrote, "I rejoice, because I have complete confidence in you."
In applauding the Corinthian believers for displaying "godly grief," Paul mentions "worldly grief." How do the two compare? 2 Cor. 7:5-16, NRSV.
"Repentance always brings a person to the point of saying, 'I have sinned.' The surest sign that God is at work in his life is when he says that and means it. Anything less is simply sorrow for having made foolish mistakes—a reflex action caused by self-disgust.
"The entrance into the kingdom of God is through the sharp, sudden pains of repentance colliding with man's respectable 'goodness.' Then the Holy Spirit, who produces these struggles, begins the formation of the Son of God in the person's life (see Galatians 4:19). This new life will reveal itself in conscious repentance followed by unconscious holiness, never the other way around., The foundation of Christianity in repentance. Strictly speaking, a person cannot repent when he chooses-repentance is a gift of God. The old Puritans used to pray for "the gift of tear." If you ever cease to understand the value of repentance, you allow yourself to remain in sin. Examine yourself to see if you have forgotten how to be truly repentant. "—Oswald Chambers, My Utmost for His Highest, "Repentance," New York, Dodd, Mead & company 1935—December 7th.
Friday August 14
FURTHER STUDY: To learn more about "godly grief" and true repentance, study Matt. 3:7-10; Luke 5:29-32; Acts 11:15-18 (the conclusion of Peter's report to the Jerusalem Council and the reaction to it); and Rom. 2:4.
Read Steps to Christ, "Repentance,"pp. 23-36.
The following statement deals with Paul's counsel on marriage in 1 Cor. 7:12-14 and 2 Cor. 6:14-16:
"He who has entered the marriage relation while unconverted is by his conversion placed under stronger obligation to be faithful to his companion, however widely they may differ in regard to religious faith; yet the claims of God should be placed above every earthly relationship, even though trials and persecution may be the result. With the spirit of love and meekness, this fidelity may have an influence to win the unbelieving one. But the marriage of Christians with the ungodly is forbidden in the Bible. The Lord's direction is 'Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers. '"—Messages to Young People, p. 464.
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